What is the importance of father in our family?

Torry_Quine

DUTR wrote: »

We or I?
Don't see it as creepy, I don't think anybody thinks it's to do with genetals.
You only have to look around in life and the post on the boards and it is quickly observed that it is ideal to have a bloke about, all that said, before the thread goes off onto the exceptions rather than the 'rules' I'm interested in the responses to the OP as they do make good reading so far.

I have to agree that in general children do do better in families with a father and that's not to denigrate those women who do a fabulous job on their own.

I think though that the phrase 'head of the family' as from the answers it's clear that it doesn't mean the same thing to everyone. To me it's not about being the only or main breadwinner or taking all the major decisions such as financial ones themself.

I do think that my husand is head of the family and that's without any chidren. We still discuss things together and more often than not come to a joint decision but on the rare occassions we don't agree then we go by his way and it has never steered us wrong.

paulineb_2

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I have to agree that in general children do do better in families with a father and that's not to denigrate those women who do a fabulous job on their own.

I think though that the phrase 'head of the family' as from the answers it's clear that it doesn't mean the same thing to everyone. To me it's not about being the only or main breadwinner or taking all the major decisions such as financial ones themself.

I do think that my husand is head of the family and that's without any chidren. We still discuss things together and more often than not come to a joint decision but on the rare occassions we don't agree then we go by his way and it has never steered us wrong.

I actually think myself and my brother have done better without a father and I know you are speaking in general

But my brother grew up in an all women household, me my mum and my brother and my gran who was around a lot when he was growing up, hes grown up with the utmost respect for women. Im proud of him and the person hes become and thats down to my mum

And I have to say if I had grown up in a house with my mum and dad, Im quite sure Id have been utterly miserable. Partly because my mum and dad together would have been miserable, partly because my dad would probably have been extremely strict and thats not to say my mum let us do everything we wanted to do, but I dont think I would have had much love off of my dad, the fact that he abandoned me would bear that out.

If you have one parent who is a decent person and has very good parenting skills, you miss nothing. Thats my view.

Jinx

My grandpa def considers himself 'head of the family' and I guess he is in that my grandma will still defer to him - but that is their values - they are both in their late 80s.

The rest of the family value both of them equally and if anything its the women in our family that are stronger characters and hold the family together, deal with issues and ensure everything functions. My dad wasn't around so he doesn't get any title (well a few unprintable). I think the head of the family title is outdated and we are all equal as adults.

barbarawright

This is the third thread the OP has started and hasn't had the courtesy to return to.

poppy10_2

barbarawright wrote: »

This is the third thread the OP has started and hasn't had the courtesy to return to.

Smells like a spammer to me. Getting his post count up until he can post links.