Constantly judged for using disabled bays? Autism and Blue Badge?

JimmyTheWig

Brassedoff wrote: »

I can bet it would be a mixture of them all!

Then surely the problem is the third group of people taking the spaces, not the second?

Vicky123

Well strange analogy of Mo Farrah as I believe that is precisely the problem, most autistics can run like the wind, my son is like whippet, unfortunately straight into the ring road and I, as a middle aged woman could just about manage a slow jog round the block.
This might be why parents of autistic children feel especially in need of a blue badge which isn't the case for most blue badge holders, if we are playing who is worse off and most deserving.
As I already said I don't bother with blue badges as at 16 my sons autism is now very clearly a disability and not a condition, he can't be managed inside a shop.

toomuchinfo

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Disability

'Disability is the consequence of an impairment that may be physical, cognitive, mental, sensory, emotional, developmental, or some combination of these. A disability may be present from birth, or occur during a person's lifetime.
Disabilities is an umbrella term, covering impairments, activity limitations, and participation restrictions. An impairment is a problem in body function or structure; an activity limitation is a difficulty encountered by an individual in executing a task or action; while a participation restriction is a problem experienced by an individual in involvement in life situations. Thus disability is a complex phenomenon, reflecting an interaction between features of a person’s body and features of the society in which he or she lives.[1]
An individual may also qualify as disabled if he/she has had an impairment in the past or is seen as disabled based on a personal or group standard or norm. Such impairments may include physical, sensory, and cognitive or developmental disabilities. Mental disorders (also known as psychiatric or psychosocial disability) and various types of chronic disease may also qualify as disabilities'

D&DD

OP I'm glad you were able to obtain a badge although sad to read it has caused you problems as a result.I was in communication with my MP and the then secretary of state for transport when it was being discussed wether to extend the scheme to people with autism.

My youngest has Autism with learning difficulties and severe sensory issues which mean any excursions into the outside world are challenging. He does not however have a blue badge even after the intervention by our MP etc. I could probably re-apply but for the 2 or 3 times a year he actually gets out anywhere it's hardly worth it.He was 7 then he's now nearly 15.

My middle son has a blue badge however.He has lots of health issues including heart problems and is built from titanium mostly but a lot of his difficulties are what most would consider to be invisible as they are under his clothes/shoes.
We use his badge sparingly (only ever when he is present) as the hospitals we go to have severe parking issues.If he is able to walk a little further he would rather do so than use his badge,even after surgery.This is as a result of him and us being screamed at by an elderly lady in a car park when he was 12 when we were parked in a disabled bay to collect him from an award thing for school.
So I do sympathize OP life's hard enough somedays as it is.

sparkycat2

ab.da54 wrote: »

How are people meant to learn more about disability, sparkycat, if they just end up receiving a response like yours?

By reading it and hopefully engaging their brain before they spout such stuff as.

Brassedoff wrote: »

...Is there a blue light you are allowed to flash to cut through the traffic? Is there a special line only open to parents with children suffering from these conditions...

...Yet at no point for my sister would we ever thought to have applied for a Blue Badge, taking a possible parking place that would stop a disabled person who could not walk, or has severe mobility issues being able to get to a shop to buy food to eat, pay a bill to stop their electricity from being cut off. Prevent them from parking in that last place that they needed to get the the chemist for life or death drugs?

I ask why would anyone who can park, get out, walk around a whole shop or local town centre perfectly well, albeit with some element possibility of triggering the expression of behaviour, not park just that little further?

...I have two kids. Thankfully they are now both grown up. But in their day, they too could do one in a shop. I (when I had use of my legs) had to drag them from a shop kicking and screaming on plenty of occasions

　
Which in my opinion is obviously designed to provoke a response. 　
　
　

Valli

paddedjohn wrote: »

Next time someone uses the classic line 'he doesnt look disabled', just say 'and you dont look stupid' and walk away.

This

and let's hope that those people who openly admit to 'borrowing' Blue Badges (and there are some) realise that they are the ones creating this issue and stop doing so!

abudabi

The Op wrote - An example of how bad things got was I had put my baby son in his pram and then took my elder son out of the car holding his hand firmly. It was a hot day and we had sweaty hands and he was calm until he saw someting him and he bolted, he has no sense of danger at all, he slipped my hand. I raced after him and managed to grab his hand and yank him back out of the way of a coming car, in this he ended up falling and hitting his head so it was straight to A&E after that.


This sounds a difficult one? maybe he should never be in that situation?

Fruit_and_Nut_Case

abudabi wrote: »

The Op wrote...

Why not use the button? Saves copying or cutting-and-pasting. Also provides a handy link to the post you are quoting.

mumps

abudabi wrote: »

The Op wrote - An example of how bad things got was I had put my baby son in his pram and then took my elder son out of the car holding his hand firmly. It was a hot day and we had sweaty hands and he was calm until he saw someting him and he bolted, he has no sense of danger at all, he slipped my hand. I raced after him and managed to grab his hand and yank him back out of the way of a coming car, in this he ended up falling and hitting his head so it was straight to A&E after that.


This sounds a difficult one? maybe he should never be in that situation?

The trouble is if you never push the envelope then the envelope keeps getting smaller.

Brassedoff

sparkycat2 wrote: »

By reading it and hopefully engaging their brain before they spout such stuff as.

　
Which in my opinion is obviously designed to provoke a response. 　
　
　

Yes, a bit like yours does too. But I let it slide. You see, intelligence wins out, pity you lose as you never grasped the point that I was asking a question from an opposite point of view. I suppose in your fluffy world, no one disagrees with you, do they?

toomuchinfo wrote: »

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Disability

'Disability is the consequence of an impairment that may be physical, cognitive, mental, sensory, emotional, developmental, or some combination of these. A disability may be present from birth, or occur during a person's lifetime.
Disabilities is an umbrella term, covering impairments, activity limitations, and participation restrictions. An impairment is a problem in body function or structure; an activity limitation is a difficulty encountered by an individual in executing a task or action; while a participation restriction is a problem experienced by an individual in involvement in life situations. Thus disability is a complex phenomenon, reflecting an interaction between features of a person’s body and features of the society in which he or she lives.[1]
An individual may also qualify as disabled if he/she has had an impairment in the past or is seen as disabled based on a personal or group standard or norm. Such impairments may include physical, sensory, and cognitive or developmental disabilities. Mental disorders (also known as psychiatric or psychosocial disability) and various types of chronic disease may also qualify as disabilities'

Yes, thank you. But you miss the point I was making. I do not doubt for one minute that all children with Autisum and their parents have either sporadic or permanent issues. I don't doubt for one minute that going out is an activity that means planning and walking on egg shell's and if missing out on a space meant a child is not put in life or death danger I am happy to miss out.

I am cheesed off by being attacked when you just point out another point of view or in the case of this discussion, what the NHS, an organisation far better than me in being able to describe what the condition means.