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Just need to vent
Southernman
Posts: 605 Forumite
I know there are worse things in life but it really got to me this evening.
I have been friends with a small group of 4 individuals since school. We meet up every so often for meals/pub quiz etc and a catch up.
It was one of these girls birthday's the other week and for whatever reason i wasn't invited to birthday drinks. Statuses on FB with 'fred and harry and whoever was at such a place' cropped up and i was a bit upset but thought it was a one off..?
Anyway tonight the same thing has happened. They have gone for a meal and haven't invited me. I wouldn't mind but i was only saying to one of them the other day it would be good to meet up after work for a drink and a catch up as we all work in close proximity to each other.
I commented on the status saying 'what about my invite!' (i used an exclamation rather than a question mark to not sound accusatory).
I know it doesn't seem a big deal to an outsider but when you've been friends for 13 years and feel like you're being pushed out for some unknown reason it makes me really sad.
I would never dream of leaving people out because it's just so hurtful.
I have been friends with a small group of 4 individuals since school. We meet up every so often for meals/pub quiz etc and a catch up.
It was one of these girls birthday's the other week and for whatever reason i wasn't invited to birthday drinks. Statuses on FB with 'fred and harry and whoever was at such a place' cropped up and i was a bit upset but thought it was a one off..?
Anyway tonight the same thing has happened. They have gone for a meal and haven't invited me. I wouldn't mind but i was only saying to one of them the other day it would be good to meet up after work for a drink and a catch up as we all work in close proximity to each other.
I commented on the status saying 'what about my invite!' (i used an exclamation rather than a question mark to not sound accusatory).
I know it doesn't seem a big deal to an outsider but when you've been friends for 13 years and feel like you're being pushed out for some unknown reason it makes me really sad.
I would never dream of leaving people out because it's just so hurtful.
Mortgage 1: May 2012 £90,000 April 2020: £47,000
Mortgage 2: £270,000😱 Jan 2019 £253,000 April 2020
Mortgage 2: £270,000😱 Jan 2019 £253,000 April 2020
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they are not your friends; move on, there are plenty of potential decent friends out there.The questions that get the best answers are the questions that give most detail....0
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Just out of curouisty did they reply?
Afaird I have to agree with above poster...looks like they have phased you out...People don't know what they want until you show them.0 -
I've felt like this recently too and I'm not sure how else to feel other than left out. I have a small pool of friends so it isn't all that easy just to say they are not your friends, move on.0
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I would move on.
If they wanted you there they would have asked. Sorry, if that hurts but why force yourself on them.0 -
I just feel like i'm throwing away 13 years though. I just don't get it. I'm probably being pathetic because i'm in tears over this.
Nothing upsets me more than friends just leaving you out.Mortgage 1: May 2012 £90,000 April 2020: £47,000
Mortgage 2: £270,000😱 Jan 2019 £253,000 April 20200 -
So sorry to hear this, it must hurt a lot. How come you were invited to some meet ups and not to others? I would have thought that if they didn't like you for some reason that they wouldn't invite you to the regular meetings either?0
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I've felt like this recently too and I'm not sure how else to feel other than left out. I have a small pool of friends so it isn't all that easy just to say they are not your friends, move on.
But how can you be comfortable with people who obviously do not want your company? What is the point?0 -
That is very hurtful. I'm sorry that your friends are behaving like this, and posting about it on FB as well to rub it in.
No advice to offer, really. Just wanted you to know that you're justified in feeling hurt.Life is a gift... and I intend to make the most of mine :A
Never regret something that once made you smile :A0 -
Kayalana99 wrote: »Just out of curouisty did they reply?
Afaird I have to agree with above poster...looks like they have phased you out...
They have now replied with
'you didn't invite us to your eurovision party'
my 'eurovision party' consisted of me on the settee while my boyfriend was on-call fixing computer servers all evening.Mortgage 1: May 2012 £90,000 April 2020: £47,000
Mortgage 2: £270,000😱 Jan 2019 £253,000 April 20200 -
Just out of interest how old are you all?0
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