Council would rather I put 2 children in to care!!

nearlysorted

Dogger69 wrote: »

With a secure tenancy, it is most definitely you that benefits from work done on the house.



You make it sound like these children are nothing to do with you. They are your husband's children, your step children. When you chose to have three more children, you should have taken into account that there may be a day when these children needed your support.

No one has suggested you are failing any of the children. But you need to focus on how you can help yourself, and not expect others to come up with the money to fund your family.

I do see your point, however, I have supported these children alongside my husband for the last nearly 10 years. We have had the children every weekend, taken them on all of our holidays, paid for all their school trips, bought all their clothes and new school uniforms.
I even pass on my children's clothes to her younger children (which are not dh's)

katiechoc_2

nearlysorted wrote: »

Sadly our front room is also a through kitchen so we can't even make that in to another bedroom.

If you've space for a sofa, you've space for a sofa bed, you don't have to turn it into an actual bedroom. Might mean sticking an extra wardrobe in one of the kiddies' rooms but its a place to sleep.

My OH, me and our 1 year old son are in a one bed flat - he has the bedroom with our wardrobe & drawers in it, we have a sofa bed in the living room. Means we can pay off more of the mortgage and be in a better position when we do decide to move.

sulkisu

nearlysorted wrote: »

I do see your point, however, I have supported these children alongside my husband for the last nearly 10 years. We have had the children every weekend, taken them on all of our holidays, paid for all their school trips, bought all their clothes and new school uniforms.

They are his children, isn't that what is supposed to happen? I agree with dogger69, you make it sound like they are nothing to do with you. Your husband has 6 children and and is struggling to house them all - that's the bottom line. Clearly neither one of you was expecting to have all of the children with you, but the possibility always exists when you have children.

fluffnutter

This thread was never going to end well...

'Our house isn't big enough for our hoard of kids and the council won't rehome us. What do?'

You're gonna get flamed.... :rotfl:

Treevo

nearlysorted wrote: »

I do see your point, however, I have supported these children alongside my husband for the last nearly 10 years. We have had the children every weekend, taken them on all of our holidays, paid for all their school trips, bought all their clothes and new school uniforms.
I even pass on my children's clothes to her younger children (which are not dh's)

You mean your husband has supported his own kids? My god! What a novel concept!

Are you seriously expecting praise for that?

carefullycautious

Have you thought about going up into the loft space. Creating a bedroom would be a lot cheaper than extending or moving for that matter.

Ask if it is possible as I have seen lots of council houses which have done this with dormer windows added

Our local council came up with the idea some years ago to allow portable structure to be attached to some houses as bedrooms/level access. Not sure if these took off but an idea.

Hope everything works out for you all.

nearlysorted

carefullycautious wrote: »

Have you thought about going up into the loft space. Creating a bedroom would be a lot cheaper than extending or moving for that matter.

Ask if it is possible as I have seen lots of council houses which have done this with dormer windows added

Our local council came up with the idea some years ago to allow portable structure to be attached to some houses as bedrooms/level access. Not sure if these took off but an idea.

Hope everything works out for you all.

Yes, we did ask for either the extension or loft conversation. Apparently extensions are cheaper and easier then loft conversions.

Ms_Chocaholic

How old are the children?

nearlysorted

Ms_Chocaholic wrote: »

How old are the children?

Dh boys 13 and 10 my boy 11 then our 3 are 8, 4 and 2

MrsE_2

fluffnutter wrote: »

I think much of the problem is that the department that deals with child protection won't ever communicate with the department that allocates housing.

It will actually cost far more (not to mention the impact on these poor kids) to take them into care than it will to place them with their dad and allocate a larger house/pay for an extension.

But do you think councils are that organised?? Yeah right

Social services are county councils, housing departments are borough councils, quite different organisations.