To holiday or not to holiday?

Caroline_a

Why don't you see if you can fund a villa holiday somewhere where the girls can sprawl by a pool? Then if you hire a car, you and OH can go off and see stuff while the girls work on their tans! I don't know of any teenager girls who wouldnt want that!!

iwb100

Personally OP, I think you're finding excuses to make it hard. As said give 17 year old choice. TELL the other two you're going and book something. Involve them in looking and choosing where if you want.

But they aren't really an issue are they? I mean you started by saying they refused to go, now you're saying you don't want to pay for them to lie in bed on holiday. Which is very different.

It doesn't sound to me like going on holiday or not, is the real issue here?

HeadAboveWater

I like your thinking caroline

I spose a worry is leaving the girls on their own when we're away. Maybe we watch too many horror films :rotfl:

podperson

Have to agree with previous posters, the 17 year old can choose to stay behind if she wants but the 12 and 15 year olds shouldn't be dictating. I know at that age I was told by my parents, we've booked a holiday to xx on xx date and that was that. I think at 15 I might have moaned a bit but once there I would enjoy it.

Also since they're not little kids then nothing wrong with leaving them to have a bit of a lie in and meeting them/going back for them later. My mum and dad are 'up at the crack of dawn' people and I'm in my 30s now and still aren't! On holidays they would often go for an early morning walk, get a coffee and some breakfast etc and me and my brother would either meet them somewhere close-by late morning or they would come back and wake us up later. We would usually compromise on a few days, eg if they wanted us all to go on a trip somewhere, and get up early then.

Hope you manage to get something sorted out, sounds you could probably all do with a break x

Bennifred

A very good value way is taking them to a holiday "camp" type place in e.g. the south of France. Loads for teens to do (or not, if they want to laze around ), safe for them, lots of other teens to hang around with, and a cheap base for you and OH to go off and explore.

HeadAboveWater

You read perfectly between the lines podperson

Thanks for your suggestion. And combined with Bennifreds idea it sounds perfect!

heartbreak_star

Centre Parcs? Loads to do there.

Mind you...I just don't get the whole "holiday" thing. Closest I get are LARP weekends or the occasional overnighter to London!

HBS x

Joons

You certainly are not being selfish so stop thinking that way, you've taken on 3 kids so that tells me you're a very unselfish person. Wanting a holiday is not being selfish, you've not had one for years. Leave the 17 year old but I would make sure she is supervised, they tend to have parties when parents are out the country! As for the other two, it's not about asking their approval, you tell them that is what is happening, they will love it once they get there, talk about ungrateful.

HeadAboveWater

Thank you Joons!

No need to worry about DD1 throwing parties. She'd be more inclined to be hanging out with BF than anything else. She'll maybe enjoy a drink or 2 at the most, but having an alcoholic as a mother.... well, you get what I'm saying!!

icklejulez

I could really recommend Disneyland (Paris) for teenagers and it really is the place you would be able to bond as a new family unit, lots of things to giggle over etc.

If you stayed in the Disney hotels then their is always lots of security around so the kids could walk to and from the hotel as they please. I am sure if you sold it to them they would love to be a kid for just that little while longer...