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To holiday or not to holiday?
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What are you doing asking 12 and 15 year olds whether they want to go on holiday, and, even worse, making a decision about whether you go on holiday or not based on what thye want to do?!
The 17 year old can stay at home alone, and the 12 and 15 year old come with you. I bet the 17 year old decides she wants to come to, when it comes to time to book/go.******** Never be a spectator of unfairness or stupidity *******"Always be calm and polite, and have the materials to make a bomb"0 -
nickyhutch wrote: »What are you doing ... making a decision about whether you go on holiday or not based on what thye want to do?!
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(But the selfish side is making me feel sorry for myself atm!
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Ok, so they've not had the best time so far and things have been a bit chaotic.
All the more reason to start doing normal family things like all going on holiday together, with the adults taking the lead in the planning and having the final say. Although its fine for a 17 year old to turn down the offer if she wants and stay at home.0 -
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I'm a little confused. If OH's holiday had not been cancelled, what were you going to do - what holiday plans did you have? Can't you still do that and leave him with his daughters?
Otherwise I agree with other posters here, you both need to decide what you where you want to go and the youngest two will have to go along with it. If the 17 year old is old eough to fend for herself, then let her otherwise she will have to go too.
It's not a question of being selfish - taking on the step-parent role means that you will have to parent them. Making family decisions is part of that - although as you have been with your partner for less than two years, this should really come from him.0 -
We have 4 kids aged between 20 and 11. They don't get asked, they get told we are going on holiday, we are going to *where ever*, make sure that whatever you want to take with you is available for me to pack. The 20 year old would obviously not be forced to come (but has never said no to a holiday yet!), the rest have no choice and have never not enjoyed themselves!Spam Reporter Extraordinaire
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HeadAboveWater wrote: »Understatement but yeah!
That's maybe where we've gone wrong
The girls were promised Disneyland years ago by their mum. Never materialised. Probably don't want to get their hopes up for no reason
We managed 4 days in Donegal last year with DD2 and DD3. The girls just wanted 'lazy' days whereas me and OH are 'get up and go' kinda people! Worked ok coz OHs mum came with us too. Girls wouldn't be wanting to be up at the crack of dawn every day. We said it'd be maybe half the time, and the other half take it easy just either hotel/parks/pools etc.
So why not Offer disneyland Paris/Florida then? See what they say? All us searching experts could probably get you a holiday for cheap there
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HeadAboveWater wrote: »Understatement but yeah!
That's maybe where we've gone wrong
The girls were promised Disneyland years ago by their mum. Never materialised. Probably don't want to get their hopes up for no reason
We managed 4 days in Donegal last year with DD2 and DD3. The girls just wanted 'lazy' days whereas me and OH are 'get up and go' kinda people! Worked ok coz OHs mum came with us too. Girls wouldn't be wanting to be up at the crack of dawn every day. We said it'd be maybe half the time, and the other half take it easy just either hotel/parks/pools etc.
Can you afford to take them?Try to be a rainbow in someone's cloud.0 -
OHs holiday was never actually arranged. It's been in the planning stage for about 4 years:rotfl:
I didn't have plans for when he was away. I'd have been staying at home with his kids looking after them (although it did cross my mind about visiting my friend in Glasgow at the same time
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He seems to think because he'd be sleeping rough and on the road all the time, it's not classed as a 'holiday'. But anyway. That's a discussion for another day...
Think we need to do a more direct approach and 'tell' rather than 'ask' for them to join us. Work out the nitty gritty details afterwards.Wealth is what you're left with when all your money runs out0 -
Dunno if they'd be bothered too much about Disneyland but no harm in asking!
I've no idea what our budget is yet. I'll suggest to OH about there and see what the response is.Wealth is what you're left with when all your money runs out0
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