It's all gone wrong....new house 2 months

duckeggblue

Ok , what have you not told us.

fluffymuffy

pinkladyof66 wrote: »

The fact that she has gone and not been in touch for days seems strange to me...

...and to me. I wonder if she's OK.

pinkladyof66

Why has op not been in touch himself via text or phone or is she ignoring him. Surely you would try and find out whether she is safe and try to resolve things. I would be worried sick.

pinkladyof66

any update op wondering what has happened in nearly a week has she come back has the estate agent been to value or what ?

carl_t

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SuzieSue

carl_t wrote: »

And tbh i am a little upset how the man who tells me he loves and would do anything for me could be so calous and hurtful to write things about me on here... It is really upsetting...

And my lack of trust issues where starting to improve until all of this.

He wasn't being callous or hurtful. He was very upset and he needed help deciding what to do. No-one knows who you are so he wasn't slating you in any way. From what I remember of his post he had deep regrets for what he had done and I don't remember him blaming you.

fluffnutter

carl_t wrote: »

And tbh i am a little upset how the man who tells me he loves and would do anything for me could be so calous and hurtful to write things about me on here... It is really upsetting...

Everyone needs to let off steam now and then. In an ideal world we'd all be discussing things with our partners without rancour or argument but that's not how it always works. Sometimes you need to talk to people about your OH. It's naive to think that he won't talk about you now and then. The only issue is that you found out in black and white because he chose to do it on an internet forum. If he'd be talking to his mates down the boozer, you'd never have known.

paulineb_2

carl_t wrote: »

Hi All, this is the girlfriend of what can be a bullying angry little person when he doesnt get his own way... Shall we say.

I was coming on here to ask advice about something to do with pensions and have just found all these comments on here and am quite taken back by how Carl would rather voice his opinions and views on here than try and sort it out with me at the time all this was happening.

Thanks for some peoples sane and rational comments and for those who have called me a loon or a nutter then you have obviousley only heard one side of the story or dont have right morals like the majority on here...

I am okay thanks for asking, my time away was for space and tbh i didnt feel i could go back i was frightened and did not want the confrontation of Carl's temper and irrational thinking...

I have whoever decided to give it one last try as i have gone into this whole heartedly and as i love Carl i had decleration of trust done to protect both of our money which was put in, only to be told by him on the third day when i came back, by the way i phoned him first, no grovelling whatsoever by Carl, i get told i am not getting any money out of the our house back which i have put in... Also just for the record i had emailed Carl on that copying him in the arranged booking of the Estate Agents so he was aware of everything that was going on as this his house aswell...

Yes most of you are absolutely right, what he said to me what disgusting and very nasty and as such forced me to leave with no other resolution, we both said some nasty stuff mine was in self defence as who can sit there and take abuse for so long without replying?? and when he said that about our house it went to far.
He probably wouldnt have mentioned that he had left me for the night PREVIOUS and not told me where he went too, which left me worried sick : (

However that night he had more than enough time to apologise and act like adult and sort it, but the same night when he eventually came to bed, infact as i dont like bad feelings and i still tried to put my arms around him and i was told to GTF off him!!

I love Carl with all my heart and money means nothing to me i just want our relationship to work. Infact we go halves on everything to do with the house and holidays and most things to be honest, i cannot see what Carl has wrote on here i am only getting the jist from all your comments...

And tbh i am a little upset how the man who tells me he loves and would do anything for me could be so calous and hurtful to write things about me on here... It is really upsetting...

And my lack of trust issues where starting to improve until all of this.

Why are you posting from his account? Im assuming hes gone and left the pc on and walked away from it while logged in.

Sometimes people need support on here, no more and no less.

And no one knows who you are, its very anonymous.

If you have trust issues only you can work on them, not look to this thread as a reason not to trust someone.

If you dont trust partners to a great degree, maybe you shouldnt be in a relationship

SuzieSue

fluffnutter wrote: »

If he'd be talking to his mates down the boozer, you'd never have known.

And would be a lot worse as they would probably know you.

Surely if Carl wanted to talk to someone it is better he does it anonymously on an internet forum.

I'm not sure how old you both are, but you are both acting like 16 year olds. You both need to grow up and not consider starting another relationship until you are mature enough.

carl_t

Its a joint account, we share it...

paulineb wrote: »

why are you posting from his account? Im assuming hes gone and left the pc on and walked away from it while logged in.

Sometimes people need support on here, no more and no less.

And no one knows who you are, its very anonymous.

If you have trust issues only you can work on them, not look to this thread as a reason not to trust someone.

If you dont trust partners to a great degree, maybe you shouldnt be in a relationship