What mainstream things do you NOT allow your children to do?

busiscoming2

Mine are all but grown up now, but we had a no guns policy and no TV's in the bedroom until they were teens.

harrys_nan

fluffymuffy wrote: »

Mine are not allowed to visit anyone's house where they smoke.

Why? - it's not just the smoke. They probably have a dangerous dog too. And a dodgy mother's boyfriend abuser-type. And probably some 18 rated video games. etc. And just generally these children will be set on a course for life as losers and I don't want my children associating with them.

I find that statement very insulting :mad: I'm fuming,
I smoked way back in the day, worked to support my kids with my mum looking after them for me, never had any trouble from them either with drugs, smoking or anything else, my son started as office junior at 16 and has worked his way through the company to become a director so DONT judge everyone the same

PS just to add , we have always had a dog as well and guess what NOBODY has ever been bitten by them and also for the record , my husband doesn't abuse kids either

valk_scot

fluffymuffy wrote: »

Mine are not allowed to visit anyone's house where they smoke.

Why? - it's not just the smoke. They probably have a dangerous dog too. And a dodgy mother's boyfriend abuser-type. And probably some 18 rated video games. etc. And just generally these children will be set on a course for life as losers and I don't want my children associating with them.

Oh crikey, that's me doomed then. My OH smokes the odd ciggie at the weekend down in the garden, or if he's at the pub. I hadn't realised that made us failures or that we had to conform to the rest of the sterotype. I'll ditch the three cats, the twenty years of stable marriage, tear up the six degrees OH and I have between us and tell the kids they'd better dump any ambitions to go to uni themselves, they're doomed to be losers because of dad's five fags a week.

(I'll admit to a couple of 18 rated video games though. I'll tell OH he's too old for them, shall I?)

:rotfl:

To get back on topic though, I've got very few bans. No make-up outside the house for 11 year old DD except for very special occassions and only a little bit then. No age inappropriate clothes or too much skin showing. Don't think I've got any clothes restrictions for DS.

The rest? Be polite. No going out or to bed without washing hands, faces, brushing teeth and hair. Be polite, especially to me. No nicking food out the cupboards, ask me first. Be polite to your sibling and your father. No staying up watching trash on your PC on a school night. Be polite to everyone else too btw. No PC time or DVDs until homework is done. Pick it up before I have to tell you. Do your chores, I'm the person with the bank account and car keys. I need to know where you are at any time, text me. Make me proud of you.

They're great kids, actually. Despite the fact they got to consume fizzy drinks and sweets and all sorts of junk, in moderation of course! And despite the fact I rarely forbid anything unless it's downright dangerous, disrespectful or skanky. I'd better tell them it's all been for nothing though. Their father smokes. They're doomed.

Claree__x

I presumed fluffymuffy's post was a windup but it appears to have been taken fairly seriously...

*max*

fluffymuffy wrote: »

Mine are not allowed to visit anyone's house where they smoke.

Why? - it's not just the smoke. They probably have a dangerous dog too. And a dodgy mother's boyfriend abuser-type. And probably some 18 rated video games. etc. And just generally these children will be set on a course for life as losers and I don't want my children associating with them.

This wins my vote as the most insane stereotyping I have ever come across. Hopefully it's some bizarre joke.

Janepig

Oh I think I'm quite laid back compared to some!! I always thought I was more neurotic.

No TV in the bedroom is my only stipulation really - they get enough of the box when they're downstairs, they don't need it in bed too. Plus DS becomes enough of a livewire when he goes to bed so he doesn't need extra stimulation. Plus, they've never actually asked for a tv up there anyway so it's a situation that's never arisen.

DD doesn't like dogs but for no reason really so I don't stop her going to a house where there might be dogs. One of my friends has two dogs and as she's the mother of DS's best friend we are there fairly often and DD runs around like a loony trying to get away from them, but they think she's playing so they run around after her all the more!! On the other hand, DS adores dogs and has no fear whatsoever.

Other than that, and the be polite, please and thank you, don't eat too many sweets, brush your teeth twice a day, etc.... rules, there's nothing else!

Jx

valk_scot

raq wrote: »

Does any parent not let their children play with special needs children in the school playground or outside school?? I bet there are a few on this website.

Why??? that is how I feel as my son is special needs and they SNUB you at our primary mainstream school. So tiny things liking smoking, and certain things on t.v. to me are way down my list.

Manners go hell of a long way in my eyes.

Sorry just had to be said

I'll admit it, I did tell my DD to avoid one special needs boy in her clasas for a while as he was quite violent and used to attack the other children. it came to a head when one girl ended up in A&E with a pair of scissors sticking out her leg, the boy has now been moved to a specialist school. I wasn't happy with telling her this but she's my daughter and precious to me, I didn't want her injured.

To balance things though my DS made friends with a boy with Aspergers on the first day of P1 and they've been great friends since, in and out each other's houses for years. They're planning a holiday next year with three other pals, when they leave sixth form. I've never discouraged that friendship, quite the opposite. Does that let me off?

(His dad smokes too btw, I'm sure of it...;) )

anniemf2508

raq wrote: »

Does any parent not let their children play with special needs children in the school playground or outside school?? I bet there are a few on this website.

Why??? that is how I feel as my son is special needs and they SNUB you at our primary mainstream school. So tiny things liking smoking, and certain things on t.v. to me are way down my list.

i will put my hands up to this....we told my daughter to stay away from a girl in her year who had downs syndrome, i felt uncomfortable doing it but there was an extremely good reason for it, the girl in question was a bully, she slammed my daughters head into walls, scratched her, punched her etc with no provocation.

anderson8

fluffymuffy wrote: »

Mine are not allowed to visit anyone's house where they smoke.

Why? - it's not just the smoke. They probably have a dangerous dog too. And a dodgy mother's boyfriend abuser-type. And probably some 18 rated video games. etc. And just generally these children will be set on a course for life as losers and I don't want my children associating with them.

Had to re-read this as I was sure my eyes were deceiving me.
You have got to be joking? And if you're not then I should add to my list of things ds isn't allowed to do, associating with people like you.

pesky85

I'm sure my situation is a little different as I have a 2 and nearly 4 year old so they're still learning a lot. But my rules are:

Manners (they're both capable of saying please, thank-you, excuse-me and sorry so I expect them to be polite)
No TV in bedroom
No fizzy drink (until they're old enough to buy it themselves lol)
Must help me to tidy their bedroom / make their beds
Treats....I do have a little box with mini chocolate bars / raisins / sweets in that they can generally have one thing a day from after a meal
Drinks....they are only offered milk or water. I'm not anti-squash but they are happy to drink water so I don't see the point in offering sugary squash.

Other than that I'm pretty relaxed. Bedtimes vary depending on tiredness levels and what we've been up to that day. I will let them watch films that others might deem inappropriate for their age as long as they are watching it with me (I mean films such as Harry Potter, rather than Pulp Fiction!).

We have two dogs and I would be a bit put out to find people were avoiding our house because of it to be honest. They are very friendly springer spaniels - and as a responsible dog owner I always keep them separate from guests (adults and children) until I know they are calm, and the guests have given permission.

I am against parents that manipulate friendships actually, I can see it happening already in my son's playgroup. Parents that get a bit too involved, selecting children for group play dates and leaving out others. I want my son to choose his own friends! I think it sets a terrible example.