What mainstream things do you NOT allow your children to do?

skylight

We have a few forbidden tv channels (mainly those with ads, but record the stuff they want) and programmes (Tracey Beaker - grrrrr).

I let my kids socialise with almost anyone they want to - in the playground. Outside of that playing in the street is OK (we live in a private cul-de-sac you wouldn't know it here unless you live here!) but going to peoples houses, its a no-no with dogs again (my son was attacked by a dog a few years ago, left with minor scars on his face but can be terrified), I think twice about smokers - luckily all barr one are non-smokers and the only smoker smokes outside her home and not in it (and its the home of DD3 bff). And a definite no to little !!!!!!s/swearers/general horrid kids or if their parents are like that.

Sweets and cakes are rationed, so they do have them but are not constant (wont have them looking like me!).

Mine are allowed to climb trees, get muddy, make friends - so they do quite a bit I think!

skylight

raq wrote: »

Hi there

Yes I know.... I smile , say morning, ds runs and wants to play with them. Some of the parents are so far up their own a**** they forget where they come from. Trouble is we are literally a stone through away from the school and maybe a good thing or bad thing we are in a middle class area.

My mother is my rock and just says "Hold your head up lovely".

I like your Mum. x:starmod::staradmin

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

The only thing DD isn't really "allowed" is too much sugar/sweets

If shes going to a friends house wh have a dog we usually ask that it is put elsewhere (For example, she went to a friends house recently and the dog was put in another room) and we do the same when people come to our house. I think i'd be extremely offended if someone didnt send their child for a play date because we have a dog, who could and would be removed (not because he is nasty, but because i dont want someones brat yanking his tail etc lol)

Other than that I cant think of anything else!

jacqhale

Well DS (6) has a healthy diet so I don't monitor crisps sweets etc too much as he eats everything.
I expect good behaviour / manners and to do what they are told -both DS and DD (2)
They have to go to bed by 7pm as DS is soooo tired from school.

But my main 'no' is he can't have his own mobile or tablet, dvd player in the car or tv in his room. It seems more and more of his friends have one or all of these and I just don't think it's appropriate.
He can watch any tv he likes which a lot of the time is adult stuff like brainiac, top gear, monster moves etc. DD likes cinderella at the moment and it allows me to get work done!

They have lots of friends and they play together nicely. They spend a lot of time outside now the weather is nice. They choose their own friends but I don't 'vet' their houses, it's never occured to me! My mum smokes I would be mortified if I didn't have friends because of that !!

Other than that I think I am pretty relaxed, they both have pretty much everything they want so I don't think they go without - they would probably tell you different though:rotfl:

kathrynha

raq wrote: »

Does any parent not let their children play with special needs children in the school playground or outside school?? I bet there are a few on this website.

Why??? that is how I feel as my son is special needs and they SNUB you at our primary mainstream school.

That is awful. I would have no problem with my daughter playing with a special needs child.

Ringo - I'm the same about guns, but having a girl it isn't quite as much of an issue as for boys

skylight wrote:

Mine are allowed to climb trees, get muddy, make friends - so they do quite a bit I think!

My daughter is the same. Not quite sure what mum across the street thought when I returned her little girl absolutely filthy after the playing under the sprinler had turned in torolling around in the mud in my back garden on Monday.

National trust have a list of 50 things to do before you're 11, and my daughter has done almost all of them already with 4 years to go

Wyre

My youngest is now out of primary school but certain things have been prevalent for all 4.

No pulling the blossom/leaves/branches off the trees at the school - I just can't understand why some parents just stand there and watch and have the gall to say to their kids to ignore mine when they (my children) walked away and didn't get involved!

No swearing - I don't and never have sworn, if other parents want to do it and allow their kids to that's fine, but mine don't (at least where I can hear, I am not naive enough to think they don't do it ever).

No tv or pc/laptops in the bedrooms. From a practical point of view it would never work with the 3 girls sharing a room, the arguments would be horrendous. Then there is the policing what is age appropriate - the girls range in age from 11 to 20 obviously the 11 yr old is not allowed to watch the same sort of things that the 20 yr old would. Lastly, the internet imo needs to be monitored.

We have never restricted the type of toys they played with, but do encourage reading, music and outdoor pursuits without constant adult supervision.

onlyroz

I was once at a family gathering (it was at my sister-in-law's parents' house) when my kids asked for a drink. Everyone else was guzzling Pepsi and so I poured my kids out a glass each. Then another boy asked for a drink as well - I was just about to pour him out a Pepsi when his horrified mother screamed "he's not allowed to drink that" at me and grabbed the bottle away (despite the fact that she'd been drinking it herself). The poor boy looked mortified, and I was left wondering if the lad ever got any treats at all.

misswig

jacqhale wrote: »

Well DS (6) has a healthy diet so I don't monitor crisps sweets etc too much as he eats everything.
I expect good behaviour / manners and to do what they are told -both DS and DD (2)
They have to go to bed by 7pm as DS is soooo tired from school.

But my main 'no' is he can't have his own mobile or tablet, dvd player in the car or tv in his room. It seems more and more of his friends have one or all of these and I just don't think it's appropriate.
He can watch any tv he likes which a lot of the time is adult stuff like brainiac, top gear, monster moves etc. DD likes cinderella at the moment and it allows me to get work done!

They have lots of friends and they play together nicely. They spend a lot of time outside now the weather is nice. They choose their own friends but I don't 'vet' their houses, it's never occured to me! My mum smokes I would be mortified if I didn't have friends because of that !!

Other than that I think I am pretty relaxed, they both have pretty much everything they want so I don't think they go without - they would probably tell you different though:rotfl:

Our main no no like yours is no tv/DVD player in my DS bedroom. He is nearly 9 and apparently we are 'soooo unfair' and depriving him:).

He isn't allowed to play Xbox games which I think are unsuitable ( call of duty, halo etc) and again as his 5 year cousin is allowed we are ' soooo unfair'!! 'All my other friends are allowed' etc etc

I also limit sweets and chocolate and fizzy drinks as a) they send him loop the loop and b) we are ' sooo unfair and unreasonable' for making him brush his teeth on a regular basis:rotfl:

I swear to god sometimes I think he has hit puberty at 8 years old!

thorsoak

fluffymuffy wrote: »

Mine are not allowed to visit anyone's house where they smoke.

Why? - it's not just the smoke. They probably have a dangerous dog too. And a dodgy mother's boyfriend abuser-type. And probably some 18 rated video games. etc. And just generally these children will be set on a course for life as losers and I don't want my children associating with them.

Wow! What a lot of assumptions are made there! Now I don't smoke -never have - but had I young children now, your family would be the sort that I would not wish my children to associate with!

A closed mind is a sad thing.

elmer

As a child I wasnt allowed to watch cartoons or go to the cinema, so I never got to see the Disney films.:(

For my own children the only prohibition that was enforced, was no TV in their bedrooms, and this was easy as we dont receive a tv signal, so we have Sky in the lounge only.

elmer