Dad has scratched my car, what should I do?

im-lost

how strange that people think its perfectly acceptable as parents to damage their childs property, and its perfectly fine to not pay for it, as they have spent £££ on them whilst growing up.

I'm sure if your child borrowed and damaged your car, you would expect it to be paid for, why is it different when the roles are reversed?

hmmmm, hypocrites much?

Joe_Horner

im-lost wrote: »

I'm sure if your child borrowed and damaged your car, you would expect it to be paid for

Yoyu'd be wrong then. Last time my (step) daughter drove one of mine she drove it head-first into a 4x4 fence post and needing new radiator, bumper, bonnet and one light. And I'd only had the car 4 weeks.

Cost her nothing but having the mickey taken out of her for 6 months or so cos !!!!!! happens in life.

im-lost

ohreally wrote: »

OP, this was likely an accident - put things into perspective.

Oh, and your sports car is still your pride and joy, only with a scratch. Try not be so precious over the incident.

so,the next time you're in a accident with someone, you'll just chalk it up to experience and pay for the damage out of your own pocket?

the stuff people come out with on here really does beggar belief

im-lost

Joe_Horner wrote: »

Yoyu'd be wrong then. Last time my (step) daughter drove one of mine she drove it head-first into a 4x4 fence post and needing new radiator, bumper, bonnet and one light. And I'd only had the car 4 weeks.

Cost her nothing but having the mickey taken out of her for 6 months or so cos !!!!!! happens in life.

I don't know whats worse, asking a parent to pay for the damage, or teaching your child that their actions don't have consequences

I hope you reported her accident to the insurers, so her premiums would be increased to reflect her higher risk, or have you also taught your child that insurance fraud is also ok

Joe_Horner

im-lost wrote: »

I don't know whats worse, asking a parent to pay for the damage, or teaching your child that their actions don't have consequences

I hope you reported her accident to the insurers, so her premiums would be increased to reflect her higher risk, or have you also taught your child that insurance fraud is also ok

Oh, it had consequences - 6 months worth of merciless ribbing, including in front of her friends, is a far more effective teaching tool for late teenagers than hitting their wallet and building up resentment with never-ending installments because that's all they can afford.

As for insurers, no I didn't because it was my post and my car and I saw no reason for them to profit out of my loss. 6 years later she's not so much as a parking scratch to her name since then, which is pretty good going for a young driver.

So I don't see that the risk was increased by that one early mistake - if anything it was probably decreased because it brought home to her just how serious it could have been.

oldhand

lawstudent wrote: »

In my rented house down at uni smart a$$.

I agree with you,get him to repair the damage.And make sure to tell him you wont darken his door again,and if he had any thoughts of leaving you anything in his will insist he understands you would rather burn the inheritance than take anything from him...

Richard53

im-lost wrote: »

I'm sure if your child borrowed and damaged your car, you would expect it to be paid for

No, I would not.

When I was 17 and had been driving about six weeks, I scraped the paint on another car while performing a bit of low-speed recklessness. I was driving my Dad's car at the time. Dad didn't relate to teenagers well, and our relationship was distant and difficult. I fully expected to be made to pay for all damages in full, and never to drive the car again. Instead, he quietly settled it with the other driver (it was very close to home) and then sat me down for a talk. Basically: "I didn't expect you to get through your first year of driving without a scrape or two. It's all sorted; learn your lesson and move on."

BIG life lesson that day.

If either of my daughters damages my car, I will take it on the chin, and say the same thing.

ohreally

im-lost wrote: »

so,the next time you're in a accident with someone, you'll just chalk it up to experience and pay for the damage out of your own pocket?

the stuff people come out with on here really does beggar belief

It's not with "someone", its with her father.

Perhaps your relationship with your father views him a simply a "someone"?

reeac

Joe_Horner wrote: »

Last time my (step) daughter drove one of mine she drove it head-first into a 4x4 fence post

A 4x4 fence post? Get a good grip under muddy conditions, I suppose.

goonarmy

Trash the house to the same value. Reap what you sow.