Dad has scratched my car, what should I do?

Lifeforms

1) If he is still studying at uni, and is on end of term, he will be kicked out of student accommodation in majority of cases till next of term. Hence needing a place to stay for 3/4/5 months temp till he goes back. Don't know if this is the case, but then no one else knows theirs is the case either.

2) As a kid if I broke or damaged anything of my parents I still had to pay to get it fixed, or fix or replace it myself. Where is fair behaviour taught that if it's a family member fairs fair goes out the window? ie damaging kid vs dad, or damaging dad vs kid

3) Not everyone lives in a Johnboy walton life situation, not everyone has love and forgiveness for relatives whether they have to live with them or not.

4) Can your dad actually afford to pay it?

I guess suing your dad could be immensely satisfactory, however incredibly damaging to your sisters relationship to you. This is a life lesson that Karma doesn't always pay back. Find out the cost, and offer to pay half half each and move on. Next time don't trust your dad, and leave your car in a different spot. It is not your fault, but you do need to learn that not everything ends in a 50/50 blame (which you will do, going in to law!) however for sake of argument, and your own peaceful life enjoyment take away the chance for him to do it again, and then move on with things.

mcja

I went to a funeral yesterday of a man the same age as my dad. He was a fit, active well loved pillar of the community who was diagnosed with cancer 6 months ago. The thing that came up in both eulogys was 'no regrets'.

Your dad may not have been the best, you may not have forgiven him, yet you are comfortable enough to take food and board from him. He is ill. He made mistakes. Be the better man, get over it and move on or move out.

sharnad

you could ask him to pay towards it but I wouldnt bother if you think he will be diffucult about it, sounds like he has a bad enough time of it as it is

sharnad

lawstudent wrote: »

I've moved back in now term is over. In any event just because you are staying in someone's house doesn't give them licence to damage your stuff.

im sure it was an accident you should get your dad to pay for the damage to the car - then he can chuck you out the house and see how much living on your own costs. might have to sell your sports car

mattyprice4004

lawstudent wrote: »

In my rented house down at uni smart a$$.

Oh, now it's clear - you're a moron.

StrongWork

Just checking in on this awesome thread. :money:

lawstudent wrote: »

Not particularly funny considering the reason I don't get on well with him. He should be in prison by all rights for some of the stuff he did to me and my sister as kids. He's very lucky my sister in particular is very forgiving. Just for the record no I am not a troll. Everyone is a bloody troll according to some people on this site.

Dad used to work for the BBC?

ohreally

OP, this was likely an accident - put things into perspective.

Oh, and your sports car is still your pride and joy, only with a scratch. Try not be so precious over the incident.

red_eye

lawstudent wrote: »

Thanks for all your comments. As usual there are some people on this site who are just determined to be rude.

I understand what everyone is saying about not bringing it up but I scrimped and saved for years working seven days a week to buy that car. I don't know anyone else my age who drives a sports car and its my pride and joy. Before anyone says anything I bought and paid for it all by myself. Just because I study law doesn't mean I come from an amazingly rich family and doesn't mean you can judge me. I probably can't afford to fix it right now because I'm desperately trying to save to move out.

Everyone seems to be extolling the virtues of having an amazing relationship but thats never going to happen because of things that happened in the past. I'm hoping he will man up and fix his mistake when I find out how much its going to cost. I know I would be taking the knock if I had done this to him.

why not attempt to fix your self? post a pic of the damage so we can advise. From what you say it will cost somewhere around the cost of a bonnet respray

eschaton

Great thread and an embarrassment of a son.

OP should ask father for the money for the repair.

Father should pay cost of repair.

Father should then tell son to GTF and never come back to freeload again.

Son should drive off in his sports car.

End.

red_eye

come on be nice, op has yet to experience the joys of the world (outside of student world)