Relationships

maintenanceman

How would you feel if someone was interested in you , but only cos they knew your financial backgroud and your financial safety. This is a scenario a friend faces.

January20

I wouldn't want anything to do with them!

building_with_lego

maintenanceman wrote: »

How would you feel if someone was [only] interested in [STRIKE]you , but cos they knew[/STRIKE] your financial backgroud and your financial safety. This is a scenario a friend faces.

I've edited that for you

Do we really need to answer?

Netwizard

Surprised this really needs an answer. Common sense says run a million miles away and dont look back.

duchy

Begs the question -WHO thinks they are only interested in your "friend's" financial aspects ? Sounds like it might be your friend might be seeing if differently to you.

Does your friend think it too (in which case presumably they are an adult and can decide on their own actions accordingly) .....or just you ?

Either a stupid question ....or a loaded one.

jedsonack2

I will go with Netwizard....

marisco_2

I wouldn't consider that someone were interested in me, if their sole attraction to me was based on my financial background or how financially stable I appear to them now.

What people find attractive about others is a hugely diverse area. To me if you are interested in someone you take into account the whole person; their personality, morals, values, how they conduct themselves and lead their lives and their appearance. It is all about wanting to see how compatible you are and getting to know them slowly.

Having similar approaches to finances generally helps in a long term relationship. However to my mind that should never be the sole reason for being attracted to someone in the first place. That would be very shallow.

Brallaqueen

Are we talking gold diggers or I-can-fix-yous?

Edit - never mind, gold digger it is.

Tropez

If I were 96 and she were a hot 20-something model then given that I'd be shuffling off the mortal coil in the not-too-distant future I probably wouldn't mind much.

But, in other cases, if their interest were exclusive to my financial status, thus going beyond the boundaries of the simple and understandable desire not to be lumbered with a penniless bum, then they'd be told to take a hike.

geri1965_2

Plenty of marriages are based on such a scenario.

marisco_2

geri1965 wrote: »

Plenty of marriages are based on such a scenario.

Not good ones in my opinion. It never fails to amaze me what some people will settle for.