Wedding dress code

System

I'd err on the side of caution s with everyone else.

Personally if i ever get married people are welcome to wear cream...as i don't want a white wedding dress (much to my mother's horror )

Addiscomber

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

I'd assume, for a wedding, unless told otherwise, no cream, white, black or very dark grey / navy, no massively short skirts or a neckline that might have someone's eye out. More "elegant" than "sex bomb", really.

I enjoyed a bit of people watching at a wedding recently and there were all of the above, plus some folk who didn't look as though they had made any effort to wear anything 'special' at all. Quite interesting really as to how attitudes seem to have changed over the several years since we last went to a wedding.

Any

I have to say I have never heard of such a thing as to never wear white or cream, but then I am from different culture.

In our culture it is not to wear a wedding dress, anything resembling a wedding dress or black.
And by resembling a wedding dress I don't mean for it not to be cream, but for the style of a dress. I would be much happier for people to wear cream/white high street store dress then someone else were big pink princess dress that could well be a wedding dress!

It is fairly normal to wear very light colours to a wedding in my culture, if you scrap all shades of white & cream you are not left with that much... army of guests in pink and peach. Oh and lemon. nice.

I think that the chances are that no one will notice a lady in cream dress as long as it is not a wedding dress.

But, as I found out from this forum in England it is important, so I wouldn't risk it myself either...
(Though my husband, who is english and privately educated recently told me he doesn't see anything wrong with guest wearing black long dress to a wedding.. so I am now confused. You would have thought he will know!)

Mojisola

koalamummy wrote: »

Am I the only person who did not actually notice what any of our wedding guests were wearing?

Don't you have any photos of the day?

lostinrates

Any wrote: »

I have to say I have never heard of such a thing as to never wear white or cream, but then I am from different culture.

In our culture it is not to wear a wedding dress, anything resembling a wedding dress or black.
And by resembling a wedding dress I don't mean for it not to be cream, but for the style of a dress. I would be much happier for people to wear cream/white high street store dress then someone else were big pink princess dress that could well be a wedding dress!

It is fairly normal to wear very light colours to a wedding in my culture, if you scrap all shades of white & cream you are not left with that much... army of guests in pink and peach. Oh and lemon. nice.

I think that the chances are that no one will notice a lady in cream dress as long as it is not a wedding dress.

But, as I found out from this forum in England it is important, so I wouldn't risk it myself either...
(Though my husband, who is english and privately educated recently told me he doesn't see anything wrong with guest wearing black long dress to a wedding.. so I am now confused. You would have thought he will know!)

It would be pretty odd to turn up in a pink wedding style dress here too tbh, and poor form indeed! But the point is the syptyle of the wedding dress can vary so so dramatically who could know especially if its a late afternoon wedding with an evening function ( my particular gripe about weddings here are the time restrictions, I would have liked a real evening wedding, not a late afternoon one had we had a 'proper' wedding. I know people who have worn very simple cream dress suits, and others who wore simple 'evening' dress styles.

The cultural thing of dress shape is interesting, and probably like colour here a relatively recent cultural development? As looking back to dress style many in the past were more related to style of the era I think?


But I can think of more than pink, peach and lemon as pale colours...:)

As to why your husband doesn't know...how can we say? Private school doesn't necessarily mean well versed in etiquette. Or perhaps its just one of those things that has slipped through his education or upbringing, good ness knows I admit to plenty of them!:). Presumably he is aware of the etiquette for correct attire for men for different things? Though, one of my funniest childhood memories was overhearing a friend's father have apoplexy because his jacket had the wrong number of buttons for a particular place and his wife getting flustered about finding extra to match in her sewing kit. In my household though the number of buttons would be knowN to my father I wouldn't have a clue and my father couldn't have given a fig!

claretsgirl

If I were you I would play it safe. I personally wouldn't wear white or cream to a wedding as for one I wouldn't want to offend anyone, and for another I would be guaranteed to spill food or drink down it and make myself look silly! Hope you have a lovely day though.

neverdespairgirl

mummyroysof3 wrote: »

I can't find a dress I like for a wedding next month so have ended up with a purple and black top and black trousers and will prob feel frumpy in them. I say where what you feel comfy able in. I want to wear cropped leggings but I'm getting varying opinions on that

There are very few events where I think women should wear dresses / skirts, but weddings are one of them - in any but the most unusually informal of weddings, I'd definitely wear a skirt or dress. And definitely, definitely not cropped leggings!

I'm going to 3 weddings in the next 8 weeks, so I'm buying a new posh-events outfit, and I'm going to look for a a dark pink dress, and dark silvery-grey jacket and hat and shoes.

Any

lostinrates wrote: »

But the point is the syptyle of the wedding dress can vary so so dramatically who could know especially if its a late afternoon wedding with an evening function ( my particular gripe about weddings here are the time restrictions, I would have liked a real evening wedding, not a late afternoon one had we had a 'proper' wedding. I know people who have worn very simple cream dress suits, and others who wore simple 'evening' dress styles.
!

And the same goes for colours.... I've been to several weddings where brides wore pink, mushroom and even red.

lostinrates wrote: »

The cultural thing of dress shape is interesting, and probably like colour here a relatively recent cultural development? As looking back to dress style many in the past were more related to style of the era I think?!

Wedding dress is a wedding dress, no matter what the era I think. The point of a wedding dress is to know it is a wedding dress, just because it is white does not give it a wedding dress stamp in my mind. Otherwise we would never wear white, just in case we could be mistaken for a bride. Even in the middle of an office.

lostinrates wrote: »

As to why your husband doesn't know...how can we say?

Rhetorical question...... no need to answer. I am foreign, not thick. It was something to make people smile how men have no idea.

Any

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

There are very few events where I think women should wear dresses / skirts, but weddings are one of them - in any but the most unusually informal of weddings, I'd definitely wear a skirt or dress. And definitely, definitely not cropped leggings!

I'm going to 3 weddings in the next 8 weeks, so I'm buying a new posh-events outfit, and I'm going to look for a a dark pink dress, and dark silvery-grey jacket and hat and shoes.

Definitely!!

System

I'm so glad i don't have any weddings to go to :eek: Seems to be a minefield as far as outfits go. I don't do heels and i couldn't go barelegged-have to be tights or something..plus trying to cover my bust makes me look very frumpy..so i'd probably be in trouble for showing too much erm..chest