Child maintenance/payments to wife

snoozy

Wilma33, thanks for pointing out the specific CSA board, I hadn't noticed that.

So it seems that in a situation where parents have 50/50 care, then whichever one claims the child benefit can also ask for an additional payment from the other - that doesn't seem to have been very sensibly worked out! As Wilma33 alluded to, maybe my OH should be putting in a claim for child benefit and then he would be entitled to a payment from his ex as well..... :huh:

summerof0763

I thi k he should maybe pay a very nominal fee, as like you say he is doing the best by his daughter, but yes it would be nice if you could treat her as well by having days out and holidays etc.

he sounds like he wants to do best by daughter, but should not be at the expense that he is paying just now, I would see if he can get a free half hour with a solicitor, x

Mojisola

Treevo wrote: »

His daughter is entitled to 15% of his income, less an amount for every day out of the week she stays with him. Go to the CSA website for an accurate figure.

snoozy wrote: »

she gets the child benefit.

The parent receiving the CB is also entitled to child maintenance - as Treevo describes, except I think it's overnight stays that count.

He doesn't have to wait until they are divorced to sort this out. The sooner the better.

moneysaymoneydo

So he takes his daughter and goes to work when she is in bed so in theory you are actually caring for her? does the mother know of this as personally this would be a no no for me! Sorry custody is his not yours and that is unfair you have to do this!

snoozy

moneysaymoneydo wrote: »

So he takes his daughter and goes to work when she is in bed so in theory you are actually caring for her? does the mother know of this as personally this would be a no no for me! Sorry custody is his not yours and that is unfair you have to do this!

He is a self-employed computer programmer so he works from home when he has his daughter

kezzygirl

IMO the mother should not have the brass neck to be accepting maintenance payments if the daughter only lives with her half the time!!

don't forget the mother will also get tax credits,child benefit,housing benefit if applicable regardless of whether she is working part time or not.

moneysaymoneydo

Is the 50/50 custody split done through the courts? just curious as wondering if he stops the money she will become ar*ey.

cazziebo

snoozy wrote: »

maybe my OH should be putting in a claim for child benefit and then he would be entitled to a payment from his ex as well..... :huh:

But you said she was earning less than him- why should she pay?

I apologise if I've picked this up wrongly but hardly a week goes by on this board without some resentful new partner coming on to whine about how much her boyfriend pays for his family. We get one side of the story about how the mother wrings her ex dry and new partner is "just trying to be fair". A few posts later we get to hear that the children are sent out barefoot in rags while the mother frequents night clubs with a new pair of shoes every week...obviously squirrelling the maintenance way for herself!

Children are a commitment for life. This is for your boyfriend to resolve with the mother of his daughter. It's not your argument.

Besides as you are a two income household then your partner must be better off now than when he was single? (presuming he left his wife before starting a new relationship)

snoozy

moneysaymoneydo wrote: »

Is the 50/50 custody split done through the courts? just curious as wondering if he stops the money she will become ar*ey.

Nothing has gone through the courts at all so far to this point. I've just asked him how they decided how much he would pay to his ex and he says that she suggested the amount and he just agreed! I think he was really worried when they first split that she might go back on her word about him having their daughter equal number of days etc so I suspect he was just agreeing to keep her happy without really thinking about if he could afford it....

summerof0763

I bet she suggested it, no wonder she is only working part time now, to be honest nothing is stopping her going out to work full time she has the daughter part time as well as claiming all the benefits lol.

if was me I would be seeing a solictor asap she gives good mums a bad name, clean out the ex and claim all the benefits going .