Child maintenance/payments to wife

Wilma33

http://www.csahell.com/we-share-custody-50-50-but-i-still-pay-csa-543.html
and
http://www.csahell.com/you-cannot-be-the-parent-in-care-if-you-do-not-claim-child-benefit-says-csa-3179.html

You might want to post on the child support board on MSE.

cazziebo

What age is the child?
do you both work full time? Who pays for the childcare when she is with you ?(if the mother is part time I'm assuming she doesn't require childcare)
Do you have children?

Bear in mind, the money isn't for the ex wife - it's for the child. It's bad enough that her parents have split. As far as possible, both parents should strive to ensure that the rest of her life is as normal as possible.

The fact the wife is supported by her parents is irrelevant, and adding that just comes over as jealousy on your part. Your boyfriend was committed enough to this woman to have a child with her, it's good to see he is standing by this commitment. It's a bit grubby of you to be trawling through websites to try to get him out of it....

duchy

It's very simple-the parent who claims the child benefit is the parent with care and the other parent is liable to pay child support.

Now you know that-go to the CSA website and fill out the calculator -which is basically your boyfriend's earnings -and add in the number of days in a year the child stays with you (in CSA context her home is with her Mum and she "stays" with you) and you'll get the correct figure for child support.

If the days she visits with you changes then so will the amount -for example if she's at school and it makes more sense to live with her Mum as it is closer and spend weekends with you and you drop to fewer days then the amount her father pays goes up.

However plenty of parents choose to pay more than the legal minimum so you may find your boyfriend already knows all this anyway and is choosing to support his daughter by more than the legal minimum by choice anyway (I must admit I can understand why he didn't tell you he is supporting his child as your attitude doesn't seem very understanding )

Wilma33

duchy wrote: »

It's very simple-the parent who claims the child benefit is the parent with care and the other parent is liable to pay child support.

What's to stop the dad putting in a child benefit claim?

moneysaymoneydo

I love the description "the child" maybe "my partners daughter" would sound less resentful.

He has made a deal with ex wife to pay her ex amount a month so really it has nothing to do with you, the daughter came before you, simples!

lilymay1

If it's any help, my BIL doesn't pay his ex-partner anything as their daughter spends 3.5 days with each parent every week.

snoozy

cazziebo wrote: »

What age is the child?
do you both work full time? Who pays for the childcare when she is with you ?(if the mother is part time I'm assuming she doesn't require childcare)
Do you have children?

Bear in mind, the money isn't for the ex wife - it's for the child. It's bad enough that her parents have split. As far as possible, both parents should strive to ensure that the rest of her life is as normal as possible.

The fact the wife is supported by her parents is irrelevant, and adding that just comes over as jealousy on your part. Your boyfriend was committed enough to this woman to have a child with her, it's good to see he is standing by this commitment. It's a bit grubby of you to be trawling through websites to try to get him out of it....

Their daughter is 6, and no there are no other children involved. When she is with us, we don't pay any childcare as my OH arranges his schedule around having her when she's not at school etc (then he works in the evening when she is in bed).

I mentioned about the ex being supported by her parents to explain how she is able to work part-time now when she wasn't able to when they were together. And yes I am very jealous of all the holidays etc, as I would be of anyone who is off on holiday every other month!

I don't really think you're in a position to judge me for wanting to know what the legal situation is, as there's nothing wrong with that. My OH is useless with his finances and has debts he has asked me to help him sort out. We therefore sat down and looked at all his incomings/outgoings to work out a plan, which was when I foud out what he had been paying. Up until that point we had agreed that our finances were separate and did not need to know the details of each other's commitments etc. Now that we are in a more serious relationship and planning a future together, I don't see anything wrong with me helping him work out what he actually should be paying. I thought that's what this website was all about - addressing your finances and sorting out debts etc!!

snoozy

moneysaymoneydo wrote: »

I love the description "the child" maybe "my partners daughter" would sound less resentful.

He has made a deal with ex wife to pay her ex amount a month so really it has nothing to do with you, the daughter came before you, simples!

As I just mentioned above, my OH has asked me for help to sort out his debts.

I started saying 'the child' because I was trying to remain more anonymous but forgot and went back to 'his daughter' later on! :doh:

meer53

Wilma33 wrote: »

What's to stop the dad putting in a child benefit claim?

Only one parent can claim child benefit. If he wants to claim, his ex will have to agree to give up the CB so he can get it.

**Patty**

It may help if you look at this from a different perspective.

Child Maintenance is a *priority debt*.......It ranks the same as a mortgage in court proceedings.

So the question should be: How much will he pay based upon a 50/50 shared care arrangement?

Not whether he should pay at all