don't know who to turn to regarding DLA

Ames

GlasweJen wrote: »

I don't see why someone who is bed bound couldn't supervise sensible school age kids. Surely just having the kids play within eye line of dad would be enough to keep them safe for a few hours after school? They could do homework while waiting on mum coming home/get a cold snack from the fridge and sit with dad playing cards or a board game.

In our house you didn't disturb dads sleep unless you couldn't breathe or were recovering from a seizure as dad could have seizures himself if he had to work with a lack of sleep. Most of the time the school sent us home to cover their own backsides rather than because it was a genuine medical emergency. If the kids don't have medical problems (the OP doesn't mention any) why should mum be worrying about a what if that might never happen?

I guess it depends on the age of the child. Over on the relationships board there are regular threads about leaving children alone, and a lot of parents wont leave even young teenagers alone for more than an hour or so! And with a dad who's bedridden they effectively would be alone - he can't jump out of bed to deal with an emergency like a fire.

mazza111

GlasweJen wrote: »

Our school phoned an ambulance for a real emergency. Anything like recovering from seizure, had an asthma attack but is ok now or is complaining of being ill but not actually been sick all fell into the "send home to dad" category.

As for running riot in the house while dads in bed, we wouldn't dare. Is it acceptable to stay home all day on the basis that your kids are unruly?

It is the OP who specifically asked for advice on working.

At the moment depending on where she lives the OP is going to have to prove that her husband has been this ill for 3 or 6 months (depending on DLA or PIP) and will be this ill for another 6 months, something that could induce doubt into a decision makers mind if the treatment plan is still being tweaked.

Now I didn't say my kids were unruly, just full of energy (or they were at primary school age) And very accident prone. My lad managed to fall onto a mirror while laying on the bed, watching a dvd one day, which resulted in several stitches to his hip. Fell off the bed onto a portable mirror he had been posing in and hadn't put away. So you can see why I wouldn't want anyone bed ridden or housebound looking after him

And that's why i said the OP should look at all the options. I'm not disagreeing that she shouldn't seek work nor am I saying that carers would suit her better, she should take all on board when making her decision. But for me with my 2 little accident prone monsters, I wouldn't leave my primary school children with anyone bedridden.

I really would dread to add up all the times we've had to visit A&E for them. Especially the lass up until she found a way to reduce her dislocations by herself.

Dunroamin

Ames wrote: »

I guess it depends on the age of the child. Over on the relationships board there are regular threads about leaving children alone, and a lot of parents wont leave even young teenagers alone for more than an hour or so! And with a dad who's bedridden they effectively would be alone - he can't jump out of bed to deal with an emergency like a fire.

Very few people are so bedridden that they couldn't get out of the bed in a fire!

I don't see why the OP's husband couldn't supervise and discipline his children from his bed - is this any different from doing it from a wheelchair?

~Chameleon~

Dunroamin wrote: »

Very few people are so bedridden that they couldn't get out of the bed in a fire!

I don't see why the OP's husband couldn't supervise and discipline his children from his bed - is this any different from doing it from a wheelchair?

Would you leave young children with your husband and expect him to supervise them alone for several hours per day?

nannytone_2

and what about feeding them?

Dunroamin

~Chameleon~ wrote: »

Would you leave young children with your husband and expect him to supervise them alone for several hours per day?

If he was 40 years younger, why not?

mazza111

Dunroamin wrote: »

If he was 40 years younger, why not?

But when he was 40 years younger did he suffer as much as this chap does now?

Dunroamin

nannytone wrote: »

and what about feeding them?

Sandwiches.

atrixblue.-MFR-.

back to the topic

DLA can take upto 24 weeks, not 11, 11 weeks is when they will write to you next to tell you of progress they have made, but a realistic award notice is 24 weeks, from date of claim to award notice issued can take this long.

GP's usually ignore DLA requests for evidence, GP's would rather say nothing now than pin themselfs to a DWP battle about an individuals capabilities, since GP's dont make house calls they dont usually fill in the reports about personal care and mobility issues because this is hard to collate that evidence as the GP's dont see anyone outside of surgery so a gp will ignore a request from DWP or if they do fill it in there will be alot of not knowns on the form wich doesnt help your case. GP's fill these forms in in their own time aswell usually inbetween breaks of morning to afternoon surgery and such dont get paid for that time used.

OP, you help along the process with supplying further evidence such a GP reports and letters or consultants letters, wich is obtainable for £10 from the GP surgery, youll need to sign a consent of release of personal data form (DPA form).
if you are going to do such thing then ring the DWP DLA help line and ask them to note that you are supplying evidence and as such request the DM (decision maker) postpone any decision till these form are recieved and reviewed this will buy you 14 days of leeway from the DWP to recieve them, and also if the GP are slow sometime for them to recieve them.

Piggytails123

I have read through this whole posy as I have psoriatic arthritis and I must say I find some of these comments appalling!! some of them are borderline bullying. if you cant help her then don't add a comment. be nice people!!