Ex bf is refusing to pay for holiday

duchy

Talk to the travel agent and see if it's possible to change the destination if you think you'd be thinking "what if" Personally though he's been such a twit (mis-spelt) that you're more likely to be thinking "Lucky escape" whatever you do don't just let it go-Have a holiday and enjoy it.

duchy

As for him paying at the gate on the day-forget it-He'll likely not show up anyway.

lonetraveller

If you have proof that you paid for the holiday e.g bank statement, credit card statement. receipt for holiday/booking confirmation in both your names - Great, thats evidence.

If you had a verbal agreement then the fact that he has responded to your messages about the holiday is also proof and is also an admission. Keep all messages including txts, emails etc.

Send him a letter stating that he verbally agreed to pay for his share of the holiday and that it was not a gift. Request that he pay you back (either in full or in installments for his half of the holiday) within an agreed time. Also state that you expect a response in writing by a certain date. If not then add the statement that you will take legal proceedings without any further notice and that interest will be accrued (8%) from the date that he should have paid you back.

Keep all correspondence, you do not need a written agreement - if he has admitted that he was going to pay you or that he doesnt intend to pay you back because you split up or whatever it is an admission and can be used as evidence because this is what happened to me!

You need to appear to be reasonable - e.g offering him a reasonable amount of time to pay you back, or for him to pay you for your share of the hoiday if he wants to go instead etc etc.

I went to the small claims court - applied on line and at first the defendant denied and then part admitted the debt due to all the evidence I collected and provided. We only had a verbal agreement but because I clearly stated in my messages (texts and emails what she owed me and why) and she responded to my requests for payment with "I can't afford to pay you back at this moment" etc etc I got her! Took about 3 months from submitting my claim to the hearing and as I was unemployed at the time, I got remission on the fee (except for the claim as I did it online for ease) So, I am being paid back monthly and i got the court costs and interest as well. So for everyone out there, play clever and you can win!! Good Luck!

Meredith02

Thanks for the replies again. I def don't want to waste the money an not get anything out of it. I've text the ex and said do you want to take over the whole holiday but shock no reply.

I know I'm not going to see a penny. I've told him that I am not willing to wait till departure date but again no answer.

I would love to have the guts to go away on my own but tbh it's a little scary. I've asked a friend if he wants to go and he's trying to sort time off but its not looking hopeful and I really don't know if I want to go to what should have been a romantic getaway!! But you only make what you want of it!!

Well here's to a lesson hard learnt!!!

DUTR

Meredith02 wrote: »

Thanks for the replies again. I def don't want to waste the money an not get anything out of it. I've text the ex and said do you want to take over the whole holiday but shock no reply.

I know I'm not going to see a penny. I've told him that I am not willing to wait till departure date but again no answer.

I would love to have the guts to go away on my own but tbh it's a little scary. I've asked a friend if he wants to go and he's trying to sort time off but its not looking hopeful and I really don't know if I want to go to what should have been a romantic getaway!! But you only make what you want of it!!

Well here's to a lesson hard learnt!!!

Many women go on holiday solo, the 1st time I went it was scary, but after that I have done plenty, I don't know where you are going to, but my 1st one was Majorca and there were plenty of women there solo. It's not like going to a bar on your own.
But perhaps some ladies here may offer you advice.

Meredith02

Hi lone traveller

Thank you so much for your informed replied. I'm definitely going to try that. He is being totally unreasonable. I have offered the holiday and I have offered for him to just pay me half. But he's being a total ��!! (Sorry)!!

Dutr thanks for giving me confidence to at least think about going it alone. I'm off to Marrakech which is maybe not the most ideal place but I'm not meant to be going for four weeks so I have a little time to think about it!!