Ex bf is refusing to pay for holiday

Funky_Bold_Ribena

I'd:
a - go on my own and thoroughly enjoy every minute or...
a/2 - if possible, get his name changed and take a friend.
b - take him to the small claims court if you have texts saying he will pay his share. Just to wind them up a bit.

Meredith02

Hey

Love the idea of winding them up!! It's really difficult to get someone to go with me at such short notice and really want to go but not too sure about going on my own!! Might look like a bit of a saddo!!

I think it might be an idea to try to claim through the small claims court if that's going to be possible. Just hate the fact that he has not only lied and cribbed living a double life for a year but he has also screwed me over money!!!

valk_scot

Meredith02 wrote: »

Hi all

Thanks for the advice. Oh he def doesn't want to go with me. He has replied finally saying that if he is going to pay for his holiday he wants to go!!

He is turning nasty and yes def had a lucky escape on that one!!

I have texts from him saying he would pay his share this was at the beginning of when I ended it. But basically I think he is still with the other girl and she has been poisoning him.

I think I def need to put this down to experience and basically forget about it. But I hate being screwed over by anyone which he has

Thanks again!!

First step, tell him he can come if he wants. Whatever. Just get the money.

Second, sit back and play chicken. He's the one with the new partner, she's not going to be happy him going off with his ex.

Third, wait till he approaches you asking if you'll sell him the other half of the holiday to take GF. If you want to do this then fine, make sure he gives the rest of the cash up front though, plus any extra fees required to do the name changes.


Two worst scenarios? He comes with you and you ignore him the entire time and do your own thing. Or he doesn't turn up at the airport and you go on your own and do your own thing. Whatever, he's the one that's the !!!!, not you. And holidaying on your own is a wonderfully liberating thing! Just get the cash, I bet he won't turn up though.

Treevo

valk_scot wrote: »

First step, tell him he can come if he wants. Whatever. Just get the money.

Second, sit back and play chicken. He's the one with the new partner, she's not going to be happy him going off with his ex.

Third, wait till he approaches you asking if you'll sell him the other half of the holiday to take GF. If you want to do this then fine, make sure he gives the rest of the cash up front though, plus any extra fees required to do the name changes.


Two worst scenarios? He comes with you and you ignore him the entire time and do your own thing. Or he doesn't turn up at the airport and you go on your own and do your own thing. Whatever, he's the one that's the !!!!, not you. And holidaying on your own is a wonderfully liberating thing! Just get the cash, I bet he won't turn up though.

He said he definitely doesn't want to go with the OP.

VestanPance

Personally my advise would be for you not to play silly childish games in an attempt of one-upmanship.

It's annoying, but just put it down to a learning experience and move on. If you have a friend that is able to go and who is willing to buy the slot and you can transfer the ticket then maybe try that.

The truth of the matter is the money is gone.

aileth

As much as it stings, why not offer for him to buy the holiday from you to take his mistress? He did say that if he was paying for the holiday he'd want to go after all. Then with the money you get, go on an all out party-fest somewhere with your girlfriends!

DUTR

Meredith02 wrote: »

Hi all

Thanks for the advice. Oh he def doesn't want to go with me. He has replied finally saying that if he is going to pay for his holiday he wants to go!!

He is turning nasty and yes def had a lucky escape on that one!!

I have texts from him saying he would pay his share this was at the beginning of when I ended it. But basically I think he is still with the other girl and she has been poisoning him.

I think I def need to put this down to experience and basically forget about it. But I hate being screwed over by anyone which he has

Thanks again!!

Anybody does, 8yrs ago I had a GF that paid for a holiday for me (I had a brand new car on order and wasn't sure at the time if I could fork up the money for a holiday) I could pay her back whenever, after the holiday we fell out :eek:, she didn't ask for the money although every now and then I'd say I wasn't paying it, I did pay it in the end , after all I did go on the holiday, however if I hadn't gone I wouldn't have paid. That said one of my friends had a holiday booked with his now ex, the holiday was months after they split, they still went on the holiday with the kids n stuff.
£1100 is a lot of money but not life changing, not going = total waste of money, going solo = a holiday that effectively costs you nearly twice as much, going together (and getting your half back) = less of a waste, but maybe a chance to re-kindle (from either party )

Kayalana99

If he has said he will pay for it *if* he goes without you and you take him to court saying he didnt pay half...I think you'd lose.

If he is offering to take the whole thing off you then do it as long as you get the full amount.

You'd have trouble saying 'the agreement was to pay half but I refused for him to take the hoilday for himself as he wouldnt go with me'

marisco_2

I would suggest contacting the travel organisers and explaining the situation. Either have your name removed and the ex can take his new partner or have his name removed and take a friend yourself.

You are best cutting total contact with someone who can treat you so badly. Dont text, phone, facebook him, none of it. Walk away with your head held high and put this down to experience. Sorry for all you are going through though OP.

Meredith02

I def do not want to go with him as at the moment he has turned into a right evil b@@@@rd!! He is being so mean!!

He is more than welcome to take his other gf with him as long as he pays me for the whole amount. I just think that I do not have a hope in hell of getting the money back unless I go through the courts but then what if I lose.

I nee the money back as its a lot to me to lose over £1k for something that I'm not going to go on. It's def a lesson hard learnt!!