Ex bf is refusing to pay for holiday

Meredith02

Hi ya

Right I'm going to keep this short and sweet but I basically found out a couple of weeks ago my bf had been cheating on me so I ended the relationship straight away.

We were meant to be going on a holiday in may which cost over £1100 which I paid for. We agreed when we were together he would give me the holiday money when we go as spending money for me.

I have tried to cancel the holiday and its non refundable. He is now refusing to pay me and is completely ignoring my attempts to get in contact.

I know I was stupid for paying for it (lesson learnt)!! But is there anyway I can get this money back from him.

Thanks

McKneff

Not if you don't have any proof.

Can you find a friend who could go with you.

LisaLou1982

Hiya

If the payment was made on a credit card in your name only then no, there is nothing you can do to get the money back off him other than take him to the small claims court for money owed.

Could you sell the holiday on to someone else so that they can get their names changed etc?

Dogger69

You could go to small claims, but you'll struggle. There is the evidence issue, but also you never expected payment for the holiday, but rather that he was going to give you spending money. While that may seem like semantics from a lay point of view, in law there is no connection between the two.

I would agree with McKneff, try to find someone to go with you, or see if you could change the holiday to go somewhere by yourself.

zzzLazyDaisy

LisaLou1982 wrote: »

Hiya

there is nothing you can do to get the money back off him other than take him to the small claims court for money owed.

This is poor advice. OP, Just because you paid for the whole holiday does not mean that he owes you money. It could just as easily be a gift. The holiday was booked in your name and you paid for it. With nothing in writing (e-mail, text, even facebook) to confirm that it was intended to be a loan and that he would reimburse you, then it is his word against yours, and the court would decide on the balance of probabilities. Even if the court did rule in your favour, there is no guarantee that he would actually pay up (do a search on MSE for loans to family and friends and see how difficult it is to get money back).

Do you know anyone who fancies a holiday and would like to go with you?

thegirlintheattic

Take one of your friends.

LEJC

see if you can take a friend and put it down to a lesson learnt....

Of course the other option is that you sell your half of the holiday to him and he takes friend...

Worse case senario is that actually he still plans on going with you...fun time for you both I think not!

McKneff

You should watch Judge Judy, she's the business lol.

tayforth

Take a friend and enjoy it! He's not worth chasing for the money. Look at it this way - it's cost you £550 to find out what a **** he is, that's a bargain.

Enjoy your holiday and your future xxx

McKneff

Even if you have to pay the whole holiday, think about how much fun you will have without the ar"" wipe. lol.

Meredith02

Hi all

Thanks for the advice. Oh he def doesn't want to go with me. He has replied finally saying that if he is going to pay for his holiday he wants to go!!

He is turning nasty and yes def had a lucky escape on that one!!

I have texts from him saying he would pay his share this was at the beginning of when I ended it. But basically I think he is still with the other girl and she has been poisoning him.

I think I def need to put this down to experience and basically forget about it. But I hate being screwed over by anyone which he has

Thanks again!!