Need help gettin someone out of my head

victory

Bazey wrote: »

Yeah, what Buggly B says, for all you know he could end up absolutely awful in the sack, could be doing yourself a massive favour in the long run.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:you make me laugh out loud

Bazey

victory wrote: »

What does it help?:rotfl:

Erm, what was your question? How did I get here? I've also run out of rum again.

victory

Bazey wrote: »

Erm, what was your question? How did I get here? I've also run out of rum again.

:rotfl::rotfl: :rotfl:

Joons

Bazey wrote: »

Erm, what was your question? How did I get here? I've also run out of rum again.

Hee, hee, brilliant :rotfl:

Anselm

I think you should hire a hitman to take out this character, he sounds dangerous to your marriage. Eliminate him.

marisco_2

skygirl1983 wrote: »

I've been with my hubby for 10 years, married 4 years, no kids. Very happy, no issues, he is perfect really.

You are very lucky to have that kind of relationship. For you to feel this way about your husband suggests to me that he must treat you very well. I expect that he loves, values, respects and trusts you 100%. You owe it to him not to break any of those feelings he has for you.

You say that you have been friends with this other guy for as long as you have known your husband. Recently your view of him has changed and you are worried that you may be developing feelings for him. Even though nothing has happened as yet, I am not totally convinced by your post, that you trust yourself that this will remain the case.

Think of this from your husbands perspective. For him to even be aware of how you feel now would devestate him. To stay in contact with a man who you are viewing in this way and who you might develop feelings for would be very wrong in my eyes. If you love your husband and value what you have together, then cut all contact with this other guy now.

If things aren't as rosy in your marriage as they appear to be then talk to your husband. Address any issues in your relationship and try to work through them together. Dont stay in contact with someone who you might end up getting involved with. That would do nothing to sort any current problems out and just adds another mess to the equation. One that could potentially cause so much harm, upset and damage.

Errata

My (very blunt) advice; you're fantasising, get a grip.

SuzieSue

It's natural to want a bit of excitement even if you're happy with your husband, but unless you want to ruin everything you've got, you need to keep it a fantasy.

You need to stop all contact with this other person immediately. It won't stop you thinking about him for week or even months, but after a while you will think about him less and less.

I would have thought that a lot of people who are in happy relationships fantasise just like you do, but that is what it should be - just a fantasy.

skygirl1983

My (very blunt) advice; you're fantasising, get a grip.

Definitely, exactly what I need to do. I'm not saying I've never even looked at other guys in the past 10 years I think we all do that - but this has never happened to me before.

I will never cheat on my husband. But I am uncomfortable even having these feelings.

marisco wrote: »

You are very lucky to have that kind of relationship. For you to feel this way about your husband suggests to me that he must treat you very well. I expect that he loves, values, respects and trusts you 100%. You owe it to him not to break any of those feelings he has for you.

You say that you have been friends with this other guy for as long as you have known your husband. Recently your view of him has changed and you are worried that you may be developing feelings for him. Even though nothing has happened as yet, I am not totally convinced by your post, that you trust yourself that this will remain the case.

Think of this from your husbands perspective. For him to even be aware of how you feel now would devestate him. To stay in contact with a man who you are viewing in this way and who you might develop feelings for would be very wrong in my eyes. If you love your husband and value what you have together, then cut all contact with this other guy now.

If things aren't as rosy in your marriage as they appear to be then talk to your husband. Address any issues in your relationship and try to work through them together. Dont stay in contact with someone who you might end up getting involved with. That would do nothing to sort any current problems out and just adds another mess to the equation. One that could potentially cause so much harm, upset and damage.

You are right. Thank you for all the replies. It looks like I need to cut ties with this guy. I'm not sure how to do that, as I say we have been friends for a long time and I don't know if he will wonder what's goin on.

I should add that he has never made any advances on me whatsoever. I doubt he even knows how I am feeling right now.

justme111

Why cut the contact , you are not a romanticized teenager , you are not going to do anything stupid so why create drama - husband will wondrr , friend will wondrr whats going on. May be avoid just a little ans calm down, it will pass