Need help gettin someone out of my head

Hanging_by_a_thread

Cut contact with this guy, get him out of your head and focus on your husband. Whilst he is around you, there is the risk that your feelings will develop.

Gra76

You get on well with him, your hubby gets on well with him. I think it's time to get yourself a firm grip on reality and stop thinking about it. *cough*threesome*cough*

System

Gra76 wrote: »

You get on well with him, your hubby gets on well with him. I think it's time to get yourself a firm grip on reality and stop thinking about it. *cough*threesome*cough*

Dirty burgger!

marisco_2

SuzieSue wrote: »

It's natural to want a bit of excitement even if you're happy with your husband, but unless you want to ruin everything you've got, you need to keep it a fantasy.

The OP could create excitement with her husband rather than fantasising about getting it elsewhere. If you cant do that in a marriage then something is really wrong with the relationship you share.

justme111

Well that's a bit unrealistic to say , one can not "create " excitement on order when one wants to , relationships go through stages , 10 years are 10 years.. although agreed , one can try to see husband with fresh eyes :P.

System

Need help gettin someone out of my head

I suppose the answer to that is do you really want to get him out of your head? I know you need to but do you want to?

blckbrd

Bazey wrote: »

I find a good old binge on crystal meth and lots of rum can help.

Wow! Thought that was just me!

PMSL:beer:

Nada666

victory wrote: »

I am presuming this is :rotfl::rotfl:

Not necessarily. You'll discover he's just as mediocre and meh as your husband and the time and love and bond with husband will mean so much more.

Mind you, this is safer done with a stranger rather than an acquaintance.

beckysbobbles1

Ok when I read the title my initial advice was "The best way to get over someone, is to get udner someone else..."

However, given the fact that you are married... I don't reccommend this!

I would assume there must be something lacking in your relationship to be having these feelings for someone else? They don't simply sound like you find someone attractive but more emotional connection with this man.

I would first of all assess your relationship with your husband and see if there is anything you feel could be improved. Maybe include a 'date night' each week/fortnight and just be the two of you (no kids) having a nice time together.

Maybe you need to spice your love life up. Hell if your hubby is that great, he may even let you ask this guy to join you both in the bedroom (highly unlikely though).

I don't mean to make light of it as I can understand how you are feeling. However there is usually a reason why we feel these things. And my opinion is that something needs improving in your marriage.

I'm not saying your husband should change, it may even be something within you that needs to change.

Perhaps distance yourself from the other man whilst your trying to sort these feelings out.

SuzieSue

marisco wrote: »

The OP could create excitement with her husband rather than fantasising about getting it elsewhere. If you cant do that in a marriage then something is really wrong with the relationship you share.

Yes, she could but she would never be able to create the excitement of lusting about someone she knows she can't/shouldn't have with her husband.

The OP doesn't want to fantasise about this other person but can't help herself which is why she is asking for help. She knows what she is doing is wrong.