Need help gettin someone out of my head

skygirl1983

I could do with a bit of advice - hope u don't mind.

I've been with my hubby for 10 years, married 4 years, no kids. Very happy, no issues, he is perfect really.

My problem is, someone else has recently got into my head and I can't seem to get him out. He's a friend, I have known him for years and years and we have sometimes chatted but that's all it has been. See him occasionally but he doesn't live too close.

Suddenly, last few months, I'm worried I'm getting feelings for him. I wake up thinkin about him and he's on my mind when I go to sleep. If things were different I would prob consider pursuing it (he is single), sure. But bottom line is, I'm married and I love my husband and don't want to be thinking about this other guy all the time.

Is there any way of getting past this and maintaining the friendship? Or am I best cutting ties completely? Would be a shame to say bye-bye as I've known him as long as hubby and we've always got on well, on a purely friendly level.

Argh, why are brains such messed-up things sometimes?!

Thanks for reading my stupid problem.

victory

Are you bored? Do you have too much time on your hands to think about romantic entanglements? Does your OH not give you the attention you need/

If you were perfectly happy married you would not need to be thinking about someone else, you would have all you needed at home:D

HeadAboveWater

100% agree with above post. And I would suggest cutting all ties sooner rather than later.

Joons

I agree with Victory, it there's problems in your marriage, try sorting them out rather than day dreaming about this single guy and I would cut all contact too, it's just sounding a bit too dangerous.

heartbreak_star

Or at least pause contact. Be "really busy" for a while.

HBS x

Bazey

I find a good old binge on crystal meth and lots of rum can help.

BugglyB

Have no holds barred sex with him. Get it out of your system.

Joons

Jeezo, the usual suspects are up to their tricks again lol.

victory

BugglyB wrote: »

Have no holds barred sex with him. Get it out of your system.

I am presuming this is :rotfl::rotfl:

victory

Bazey wrote: »

I find a good old binge on crystal meth and lots of rum can help.

What does it help?:rotfl:

Bazey

BugglyB wrote: »

Have no holds barred sex with him. Get it out of your system.

Yeah, what Buggly B says, for all you know he could end up absolutely awful in the sack, could be doing yourself a massive favour in the long run.