JackRS wrote: »
where can she go to find out what benefits she's entitled to? Surely because she's house owner they will consider that and any contribution from me etc?
LannieDuck wrote: »
You're being very reasonable. If your wife consults a lawyer, I suggest you do the same, let them haggle it out, and then offer your wife the same deal she just rejected. I'll bet she bites your hand off!
PurpleJay wrote: »
Wow, I think you are being more than reasonable tbh. Your wife needs to claim benefits and accept that. It isn't like you only moved out last week and while she may be peed off at you, she cannot pretend this isn't happening, well not unless you let her.
I think what you are giving your kids is fine and a separate issue to the child support and maintenance you give your wife. They are lucky you can afford to do this but helping them with driving lessons will benefit them hugely.
You should separate your finances and get your wages paid into a separate account. Any sums in the joint account should be split and the account closed. You need to tell all the utility providers, council tax etc that you have moved out, get meter readings and close the account. Tell them your wife's details. Then they will contact her to set up direct debits or whatever. Are you paying direct debits here you/they don't need? Sky, expensive phone contracts, DVD rental, wife's gym membership - you get the idea! She needs to take responsibility.
Have a play around with the benefits calculators. I have used entitledto.co.uk and there is lots of info on gov.uk. Do a google 'benefits entitlement. If your wife isn't keen, perhaps she doesn't know where to start looking. Present her with the info.
Try and keep in touch with your children even if they are angry with you now.
RAS wrote: »
Has your wife actually signed on as unemployed which gives her £326 ish per month, plus she should get Council Tax benefit? She may have to pay a small portion under the new rules; check the local Council web-site as they all have different rules.
No she says as it's JSA you have to go and apply for jobs etc which is as it should be but because she is moving south in 3 months she doesn't think she'll be able to get benefit or a job for that length of time so basically doesn't think it's avialbale to her?
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