Separated, how much should I provide?

JackRS

Thank you for your email of 8thOctober 2015. I will respond to yourenquiries below, adopting the numbering within your email for ease ofreference:-

[*]Decree Absolute was pronounced on 2nd October 2015. Should you have any enquiries in that regard, you should liaise with the Family Court at Oxford if you have not heard from them.

[*]So far as I am aware, there are no outstanding steps to be taken to implement the terms of the Consent Order. I regret that, however, as you will appreciate, I am not able to advise you as to your next steps in connection either with your divorce or related financial matters.

[*]Should I be instructed by my client to contact you with regard to the trigger events in the Consent Order in due course, I will, of course, do so.

[*]The sealing of the Consent Order and pronouncement of Decree Absolute ends my involvement with the divorce and related financial matters. As drafted, the Consent Order does not require my client to provide pay slips or similar, and you may wish to take this up with your solicitors accordingly.

For the avoidance of doubt, Ihave no instructions to deal with any further correspondence on my client’sbehalf but trust the above will answer your queries.

justme111

Good.
How do you feel now , jack ?

harz99

Great news JackRs, just the complaint to sort and a line can be drawn for normal life to start again. Well done and I hope you can enjoy life as a dad from now on.

kelpie35

Long awaited "good"news for you Jack.

Hope you are still enjoying your new life in your new home.

Take care

teddypinkskin

So does that mean you will never know if your ex reaches a trigger point unless she volunteers the information?
What would the incentive be for her to volunteer it in a timely manner?

duchy

I must say I wouldn't want to be legally obligated to send my ex monthly payslips -it would feel like a form of control so I can see why this wouldn't be required unless there was previous evidence of concealment of financial matters

Mojisola

duchy wrote: »

I must say I wouldn't want to be legally obligated to send my ex monthly payslips -it would feel like a form of control so I can see why this wouldn't be required unless there was previous evidence of concealment of financial matters

If maintenance payments will be changed when the ex's income reaches a certain level, she should be legally obliged to inform Jack when that happens.

JackRS

Mojisola wrote: »

If maintenance payments will be changed when the ex's income reaches a certain level, she should be legally obliged to inform Jack when that happens.

Well it wasn't laid out in the order to inform me if it does. So yes legally she should advise if any trigger points are reach but realistically she's not likely to. Maybe better for me just to assume triggers will not be met for 3 years. if I hear anything then cross that bridge...

I mentioned it to legal ombudsman but I'd have to write a separate complaint to my previous solicitor and give them 8 weeks before they could get involved as different complaint.

My ex is working at a primary school on the south coast as an administrator so with the holidays I'm not sure it's that likely that her net is more than £1200pcm, even if full time?

duchy

Who knows....it's an odd choice of (new) job for a woman who has no need of school holidays off anymore. Perhaps once she gets more accustomed to the idea that she is an independent woman she might aim for something better paid especially if she's not yet bought and is still living "at home".

Wanting to make a new house her own might make her more career minded -who knows. It probably takes a while to get used to not been looked after either by a husband ....and then by parents.

At least she's now working -it's a good first step. She could still be at her parents house applying for jobs she's not qualified for.

Some primary schools administrators don't get the full school holidays off though as there's things like admissions to process year round as well as other non academic processes. She may be working more than just termtime.

Now.....about the party...........

Lets_say

It sounds like the perfect job to me for someone who probably doesn't want to be working at all! Weekends free and possibly extra holidays. And possibly just earning below a 'trigger point' and enjoying an extra £650 for nowt.

These days, any other work - banking, call centres, retail, caring - would most likely involve shifts and/or weekend working.

I bet every day ex Mrs J gets dressed for work, she rues the day she took you for granted....

I think you are probably right Jack, best to just assume no triggers will be hit in the next three years.

Yes, about that party....:)