Kids playing football in the street/cars

notanewuser

CH27 wrote: »

Could you plant some roses along your boundaries to protect your garden & drive?

There's a covenant against it unfortunately.

midnightraven3

it should be in their back garden

and if she doesnt want kids going in, she stops them
it shouldnt be everyone else's problem

MrsE_2

CH27 wrote: »

Could you plant some roses along your boundaries to protect your garden & drive?

Thats what I thought, fence in your bit?

notanewuser

MrsE wrote: »

Thats what I thought, fence in your bit?

We can't. The covenant doesn't allow any fences or planting to form boundaries.

vanessav

I used to live at the end of a cul de sac where several of the houses consisted of families with primary school-aged children. The front gardens were open-plan.
Children played football a lot. Balls frequently landed in front gardens and bounced off cars. Because the children were engrossed in the games, they didn't notice where the balls were going and ran all over everyones' gardens. Parents were happy to let their children do this because the cul de sac was safe and - presumably - saved their back gardens from being churned up with football games.
I found it very hard to relax in my sitting room with the constant threat of children either in my front garden or bouncing balls off my car. My neighbours who were retired really disliked the situation.
When I raised the issue with the kids' parents, I was told that the gardens were designed as open-plan to allow for children to play. My retired neighbours were told that at their age it should be 'nice for them to see children playing'.
I eventually moved and I subsequently found out that the couple I bought my house from had moved due to the children and their ball games.
As a parent myself I understand that it is reassuring for your children to play out and to know where they are. But I also understand how much people dislike having children outside their houses. If either of my 2 older sons rode their skateboards down the road, neighbours came out and told them to 'play outside their own houses'. Rightly or wrongly, it is really common for people to dislike other peoples' children uninvited in what they regard as their space.
Maybe some people do enjoy the sight of children playing outside their houses. But I was not one of them and I have yet to have neighbours who do!
My advice is that you should consider moving house if this really bothers you. Being able to relax in your own home is really important.
Of course, if you are prepared to wait, the children will grow older and start going out on their bikes etc. It depends how much you can stand it now.

coolcait

So, we have the little boy with a 'condition'. That means that anyone who suggests that the parents simply get rid of the goal would be a heartless mean old meanie.

Then there's the garage full of stuff - due to a flooded house. So any suggestion of getting rid of it would only be made by a heartless mean old meanie.

The OP has already had her car damaged. Not just by any old bump in the carpark. No, it was done by a porsche. The OP's car must have been parked in quite a posh place if it could have been any one of numerous porsches which bumped into it. Otherwise, the lack of a number plate on the video might not have been such an issue. I wish I could get that damn Nelly song out of my head.

The goal can't be moved into the back garden, because there are dogs there.

Once the OP gets her garage cleared and puts the car in it, what will she do with her toddler daughter while she gets the car out? It almost seems pointless to suggest that the OP should put her daughter into the car while it is still in the garage. No doubt it will be a very particular kind of garage which doesn't have enough room for the 'putting child into the car seat' maneouvre.

So, the OP will be left with a difficult choice:

- does she leave her toddler daughter in the driveway? Where she could be knocked down by the OP's car, or by the marauding, feral, mini footballers.

or

- does she leave her in the kitchen, surrounded by knives, heat sources and kitchen roll holders?

No, I'm not buying into the story. It's a very clever story, building on a perennial issue for the board. But it has been over-embellished. Too much drama for my taste.

Edited to add - and that was before I'd seen the bit about the anti-rose covenant!

notanewuser

vanessav wrote: »

I used to live at the end of a cul de sac where several of the houses consisted of families with primary school-aged children. The front gardens were open-plan.
Children played football a lot. Balls frequently landed in front gardens and bounced off cars. Because the children were engrossed in the games, they didn't notice where the balls were going and ran all over everyones' gardens. Parents were happy to let their children do this because the cul de sac was safe and - presumably - saved their back gardens from being churned up with football games.
I found it very hard to relax in my sitting room with the constant threat of children either in my front garden or bouncing balls off my car. My neighbours who were retired really disliked the situation.
When I raised the issue with the kids' parents, I was told that the gardens were designed as open-plan to allow for children to play. My retired neighbours were told that at their age it should be 'nice for them to see children playing'.
I eventually moved and I subsequently found out that the couple I bought my house from had moved due to the children and their ball games.
As a parent myself I understand that it is reassuring for your children to play out and to know where they are. But I also understand how much people dislike having children outside their houses. If either of my 2 older sons rode their skateboards down the road, neighbours came out and told them to 'play outside their own houses'. Rightly or wrongly, it is really common for people to dislike other peoples' children uninvited in what they regard as their space.
Maybe some people do enjoy the sight of children playing outside their houses. But I was not one of them and I have yet to have neighbours who do!
My advice is that you should consider moving house if this really bothers you. Being able to relax in your own home is really important.
Of course, if you are prepared to wait, the children will grow older and start going out on their bikes etc. It depends how much you can stand it now.

Thanks. Moving isn't an option.

I do like that the children play together. Being on a hill and with all the cars I wouldn't have said football was the best game, but I don't want them cooped up!!! If there was nowhere else for them I could understand it. But there's a lovely green space for them round the corner!!!

I bet if I parked my cars on the green the other residents would want to know where the kids were supposed to play!!!

notanewuser

coolcait wrote: »

So, we have the little boy with a 'condition'. That means that anyone who suggests that the parents simply get rid of the goal would be a heartless mean old meanie.

Then there's the garage full of stuff - due to a flooded house. So any suggestion of getting rid of it would only be made by a heartless mean old meanie.

The OP has already had her car damaged. Not just by any old bump in the carpark. No, it was done by a porsche. The OP's car must have been parked in quite a posh place if it could have been any one of numerous porsches which bumped into it. Otherwise, the lack of a number plate on the video might not have been such an issue. I wish I could get that damn Nelly song out of my head.

The goal can't be moved into the back garden, because there are dogs there.

Once the OP gets her garage cleared and puts the car in it, what will she do with her toddler daughter while she gets the car out? It almost seems pointless to suggest that the OP should put her daughter into the car while it is still in the garage. No doubt it will be a very particular kind of garage which doesn't have enough room for the 'putting child into the car seat' maneouvre.

So, the OP will be left with a difficult choice:

- does she leave her toddler daughter in the driveway? Where she could be knocked down by the OP's car, or by the marauding, feral, mini footballers.

or

- does she leave her in the kitchen, surrounded by knives, heat sources and kitchen roll holders?

No, I'm not buying into the story. It's a very clever story, building on a perennial issue for the board. But it has been over-embellished. Too much drama for my taste.

I'm sorry, Miss Marple, but every aspect of this is true.

The child has hyperpituitarism. I'm sure person-one will be able to tell you what that is about. He's not much bigger than my daughter despite being 6 or 7, and he has to take steroids and other meds because he doesn't produce adrenaline (which is why excerise could be dangerous). This is what his mother has told me anyway. He's a very sweet little boy and I wouldn't want him to lose friends over this.

I'm hoping that I can move enough furniture to the other side of the garage to make space for the car (not that I should have to). The assessor is due to come out on Monday to check the moisture levels in the damaged room, so hopefully the flooring can go down within a week or so.

I was parked at a very quiet softplay place on an industrial estate. Not many Porsches round there, but several villages and towns not so far away. I parked as far from the entrance as I could, with many empty spaces either side. Why on earth he drove anywhere near my car is beyond me.

The neighbours have working dogs. They also bark at me when I park, but I can live with that.

I can park close to the wall in the garage, so can chuck DD in the back when I get in. But she won't be strapped in till the car is out and I can open the door on the other side where her seat is. I'm sure that reversing out of a narrow garage with an unrestrained 2 year old in the back will be an absolute doddle.

Does that answer everything for you, or would you like me to invite you round so you can eat your words with a nice cup of tea?

newgirly

I am quite surprised at some of people's opinions on here, I have 3 children, including 12 yr old twin boys and I would be mortified if they damaged a neighbours property.

**Patty**

After a house/property......a car is probably the most expensive long-term purchase anyone will make. (There are stats but it's friday night & there's a tub of Phish food with my name on google em yourself)

Some people have cats/dogs/hamsters......my car is my baby.

It's cleaned....heck it gets waxed more than my legs do!...vaccuum'd within an inch of it's life every week. It even gets more attention than FarmVille

Last one i had was red. Gleaming shiny Dorothy's red slippers kind of red......Broke my heart the day i had to sell it It was a saab...you have to have one to understand.......

Point is....to some people, car's are not just a lump of metal that get you from A to B. I don't ask anyone to pay for my car.....so why should i drive something older/less appealing just because it might get damaged by children playing? My parents managed to teach me to play outside without damaging our neighbour's cars or gardens.....why can't today's parents do the same?

And if a porsche is posh? :rotfl: Drive in Southall & then tell me the same.