Kids playing football in the street/cars

CH27

notanewuser wrote: »

It's not about what I want to hear at all. If the consensus of opinion is that it's no big deal, then fine.

I asked for advice because I get on with the little boy's parents (he comes over to play with DD sometimes) and we are a nice little community at this end of the street.

However, I'd rather not keep paying out to keep my belongings in good repair due to the thoughtlessness/carelessness of others, thanks. Presumably you're happy for your stuff to get wrecked by anybody that feels like it.

Have you asked the parents to move the goal into their back garden?

notanewuser

Treevo wrote: »

The OP mentioned gardens/plants etc being damaged by the children.

Maybe he should present a bill to the parents. Might make them understand that their little darlings are causing trouble.

I'm female, but thank you.

Some of the kids are from homes that think its okay for a 3 year old to be out on his own.

balletshoes

janninew wrote: »

Would you have paid for any damage caused to cars/gardens etc if your children damaged property?
We use to play outside all the time as kids, but god help us if we damaged a car or trampled on a neighbours garden. Where is the respect for peoples hard earned property?

yes I would, no question about it.

eta for clarification - I think my neighbours kids (2 boys with a ball) probably were told off a couple of times to my recollection for their ball landing in another neighbours garden, and possibly once or twice for the ball bouncing/rolling and hitting the side of a car on the street near where they were playing. No damage to property, but knowing the boys' parents and grandparents, they would absolutely have offered to pay for any damage to property too.

dizziblonde

Grew up in one of those "nice little cul-de-sacs"... STILL never regarded it as carte blanche to wreck other people's gardens and we always took the utmost care with balls near where the cars were so no damage was caused. We knew our parents would be having to pay for any damage caused and we knew we'd be FOR it in a big way if any was caused!

These days though - apparently you should just ASSUME your car will be damaged and be happy about it. And we wonder why society's gone down the toilet?!

For what it's worth by the way - lots of primary schools now have the kids using sponge type balls if they're wanting to play football on the playground so it would be no great change out of the blue if you were to offer that as an alternative to the kids... granted it's a crud solution in the rain as they soak up the water (I've got several bruises on my shins to prove they hurt in those cases) - but that, and possibly suggesting a change of angle for the net might help a bit if the parents of the actual goal-owning lad are reasonable?

Person_one

dizziblonde wrote: »

These days though - apparently you should just ASSUME your car will be damaged and be happy about it. And we wonder why society's gone down the toilet?!

A scuff is damage?

You'd probably think my car is a write-off! :rotfl:

A sponge ball isn't a bad idea, but equally learning to be a bit more laid back about isn't a bad idea either. Children are never (I hope anyway) going to stop playing out. If they did, there'd be plenty of people saying that's why society was 'down the toilet'.

balletshoes

I don't think damaging anyone's property is acceptable - but the OP has already said that when she goes and asks the boys to play more carefully, they do. So that approach does seem to be working?

notanewuser

CH27 wrote: »

Have you asked the parents to move the goal into their back garden?

I haven't, but I doubt they'd want it round there. They've got outdoor dogs. As the other kids help themselves when the young lad isn't home, I don't think they'd want them opening the gate and letting themselves in (as they did to a neighbour once :eek:).

notanewuser

Person_one wrote: »

A scuff is damage?

You'd probably think my car is a write-off! :rotfl:

A sponge ball isn't a bad idea, but equally learning to be a bit more laid back about isn't a bad idea either. Children are never (I hope anyway) going to stop playing out. If they did, there'd be plenty of people saying that's why society was 'down the toilet'.

I don't mind them playing out, but I'm not having an expensive, otherwise pristine car devalued/damaged by errant footballs.

Presumably my front windows, flower beds and hanging baskets should all be fair game for them too?

£780 of the respray was from damage caused when some pr1ck in a Porsche decided to scrape my car with his chrome bumpers hole it was parked (CCTV showed the Porsche damaging it, but not the number plate :mad:). When I took it in they pointed out the other scuffs, which could only have been caused by the footballs, and it cost me an extra £200 to get that sorted.

Sorry if I'd like the things I've worked hard for, kept on the property I've worked hard for, to not be trashed by the feral kids whose parents don't care where they are.

I think perhaps in the summer I'll park the cars round the corner on the green, and turn my driveway into a tennis court. I'm sure my neighbours won't mind me practising my serves at full pelt.

janninew

Person_one wrote: »

A scuff is damage?

You'd probably think my car is a write-off! :rotfl:

A sponge ball isn't a bad idea, but equally learning to be a bit more laid back about isn't a bad idea either. Children are never (I hope anyway) going to stop playing out. If they did, there'd be plenty of people saying that's why society was 'down the toilet'.

A scuff most certainly is damage! I have a new BMW which i saved bloomin hard for and would be very upset to find it scuffed. I was brought up to to look after and respect property. Children can play oyt and not damager property, we managed it, but then we were actually scared of our Dad and what he would do if we damaged anything belonging to our neighbours!

notanewuser

dizziblonde wrote: »

Grew up in one of those "nice little cul-de-sacs"... STILL never regarded it as carte blanche to wreck other people's gardens and we always took the utmost care with balls near where the cars were so no damage was caused. We knew our parents would be having to pay for any damage caused and we knew we'd be FOR it in a big way if any was caused!

These days though - apparently you should just ASSUME your car will be damaged and be happy about it. And we wonder why society's gone down the toilet?!

For what it's worth by the way - lots of primary schools now have the kids using sponge type balls if they're wanting to play football on the playground so it would be no great change out of the blue if you were to offer that as an alternative to the kids... granted it's a crud solution in the rain as they soak up the water (I've got several bruises on my shins to prove they hurt in those cases) - but that, and possibly suggesting a change of angle for the net might help a bit if the parents of the actual goal-owning lad are reasonable?

Thank you.