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Solicitor not carrying out our instructions
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If he inherits and marries someone else the child may not be looked after the way she might want. Making the child the beneficiary means whatever else he/she has the house the maternal grandparents paid for.
That may well be what she chooses to do, but the solicitor is absolutely correct to refuse to take this any further until he's spoken to her alone and gone through the various scenarios absolutely free of any other influence.
But it's up to her, she loves him. It's their child together, she may want to leave the house to the two of them.0 -
We share everything and always have done! The good and the bad and we both believe in this. I cant believe someone said they would need to see a ring on their finger before doing what my partner intends too! haha I think that some people are so money orientated and very fickle about relationships!
We seem to live in a cynical age these days! However me and my partner have some old fashioned ways built in to us!
I wonder if more relationships would last if people stopped planning there exit before there is even a fire!
Whilst i still standy what i posted on the 1st page of this thread, i also agree with the above statement ...... that opinion was exactly how we started our life together, my OH had a house, i just moved in, wasnt even discussed what was who's and what could happen etc, wasnt even on the agenda then ..... but i've got a 21 successful marriage to back it up (not saying you wont be saying the same thing in years to come) but along with that 21 years of marriage, i've seen what what can happen in other friends relationships/marriages, things you couldnt even make up if you tried!
Im certainly not trying to turn this into a relationship thread, but i've seen friends leave wife and child, meet a new partner and the child becomes a burden (new family become more important than old family) ..... ive seen a friend go off with a family member with lots of kids involved, they are all now brothers/sisters/cousins/half brothers/half sisters ..... it happens!!! I've seen it! There certainly is bitterness there too!
I suppose what i'm trying to say is all good intentions i hear you, but sometimes reality isnt like that! Maybe turn tables, its your inheritence, your partners meets someone new in 12 months, relationship ends badly and your partner walks away with half of your inheritence....... thats why the solicitor is acting in the manner he is!
Hope you sort out what works for both of you
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But it's up to her, she loves him. It's their child together, she may want to leave the house to the two of them.
But the solicitor is right to want to get her instructions in private. In fact, that helps protect Tyler from having the whole transaction unravelled at a later date. Shame he can't see that.No reliance should be placed on the above! Absolutely none, do you hear?0 -
In our relationship trust is something that is fundamental too us! If we didn't trust each other fully then we would have deeper problems! I guess good old trust is a dying thing these days.
Oh please! Don't you think every relationship is based on trust at some point? Unfortunately trust is to often broken and then you learn that trust comes with some warnings. I've been there like many got my trust completely broken but thankfully I had protected myself and my children so I was able to move on without too much trouble.
It's not you doing anything wrong it's your partner not seeming to even want to consider protecting herself just in case, even if there is only 1 chance in a million that things go wrong.0 -
People seem to be overlooking the point that the money had already been deposited into a joint account. At that point it is no longer her money but joint money. Were the young lady to pass away today, all funds in that joint account automatically pass to the other account holder.
A solicitor involved in the distribution of the estate may be perfectly entitled to point out the options to a beneficiary to protect their inheritance. In this case, however, a couple approached him jointly and were providing funds which were held jointly. He is acting incorrectly whilst claiming to represent both of them, but then effectively wanting to represent one far more than the other."When the people fear the government there is tyranny, when the government fears the people there is liberty." - Thomas Jefferson0 -
There are good reasons for suggesting that you should get a small mortgage in certain circumstances even if you can afford to buy outright. You might not agree or even understand the reasons.Also you will find a lot of people on here love beig self-righteous and telling you how you should live your life. Myself and my partner share everything equally because we are a PARTNERSHIP, even though we don't bring in the money 50/50. People who disagree and think everything should be legally protected are just very hollow individuals to be honest. There is such a thing as trust, and also such a thing as an amicable break up which doesn't include acting like a child and trying to grab half of everything just so the other doesn't get it.
The people on this board recently advised me to get a mortgage even though I can afford to buy outright, so I would pretty much disregard what any of them say about your personal situation.
Just go find a solicitor who will do WHAT YOU'RE PAYING HIM FOR.
Sorry to offend anyone that thinks someone who's wages you're paying has a right to question any part of your life and then refuse to act in accordance to your wishes.
But that is not sufficient grounds to dismiss what people are saying on an unrelated question.You might as well ask the Wizard of Oz to give you a big number as pay a Credit Referencing Agency for a so-called 'credit-score'0 -
You see, the above is full of the vibes which will cause a solicitor to throw a wobbly. In saying "I even tried to book the appt for her.", you are coming across as her carer rather than her partner. Solicitors are attuned to financial abuse and coercion of cared for people by carers.????? Not sure how you think that, I've never even hinted that she shouldn't see the man in the know. I even tried to book the appt for her. Am I fussed about the 50/50, no! I've never said I am. Just that we didn't like how the solicitor was going about it. If we do use another I'll expect her to listen to him too and make up her own mind
To sort this out, she needs to go under her own steam to another solicitor to take advice on protecting her inheritance - with you staying right out of it. In fact, I would feel it would be far healthier if she were to post here in her own right. Does she have any limitations which prevent this or restrict her ability to do this on her own?You might as well ask the Wizard of Oz to give you a big number as pay a Credit Referencing Agency for a so-called 'credit-score'0 -
MacMickster wrote: »People seem to be overlooking the point that the money had already been deposited into a joint account. At that point it is no longer her money but joint money. Were the young lady to pass away today, all funds in that joint account automatically pass to the other account holder.
A solicitor involved in the distribution of the estate may be perfectly entitled to point out the options to a beneficiary to protect their inheritance. In this case, however, a couple approached him jointly and were providing funds which were held jointly. He is acting incorrectly whilst claiming to represent both of them, but then effectively wanting to represent one far more than the other.
That is exactly it Mickster! How we deal with our business is effectively our business. My partner emailed him yesterday to say this point and to give him her wishes and instructions. However he said that he would not represent us jointly even though his fee and the money from the house is coming from a joint account.
We are now going to switch firms as another one seems to understand our point of view.
I feel that some folk here have been quite judgemental when they know nothing about us.
Thanks for your comment!
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I wonder if this solicitor would have the same patronising attitude were it the other way round, and it was the man who had inherited the money. He sounds to me like he doesn't think the little woman capable of handling her own finances.
Certainly he should be advising her on the various options for protecting her inheritance, but he should not be demanding that she do things his way. That is insulting and I would be changing solicitors, and complaining to the Law Society.0 -
To be honest no I wouldn't expect half the money. We are wishing to half pretty much everything 50/50 to ensure that our little one (and future children) will benefit from both our inheritance tax allowances in the event of something happening to both of us.
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A solicitor needs to think of other things.
For example, what happens if she dies, you are left everything in the will, you re-marry and have 4 children. Is the inheritance from her to be split between your 5 children, or all go to her child?
That kind of thing....much enquiry having been made concerning a gentleman, who had quitted a company where Johnson was, and no information being obtained; at last Johnson observed, that 'he did not care to speak ill of any man behind his back, but he believed the gentleman was an attorney'.0
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