Solicitor not carrying out our instructions

Tyler119

FBaby wrote: »

It sounds like she is more than ready for marriage but that you are not?

I personally think that whatever the reasons are for not getting married (or not being married yet) has a serious bearing on what she should do.

Little bit harsh is it not. We are not married yet because until recently we were two full time mature students with a small child and had no way to afford something like that. I wanted to have my business running and put some money in the bank to make it happen.

I am not the one making it about the money, the solicitor is and so are a lot of folk on here. Originally I just wanted to know peoples opinion on a solicitor not acting on instructions in the manner that he was. Money means very little to me, my partner has always said that everything should be 50/50 and I have always agreed.

blckbrd

So this inheritance is seperate to the money that will come from the sale of the parents' house? (It's a lovely house - if so, reduce the price, delay buying and suck up the inheritance tax.)

I dunno. You may just be a sweeter than sweet sweetie but I just get a sense you're a schiester.

comeandgo

Yes, its ok for you to agree when its her money! Sorry, I think the solicitor was correct. In my opinion you are coming across as controlling, your partner seems to be asking for your opinion a lot, can she not decide anything herself? As others have said, the solicitor has to check she is not being forced to do things and he needs you out of the picture for an interview with her without you being there. If the money means nothing to you then let her buy this house and have it in her name. It can be changed in the future. Also, are you trading as a Ltd company? Again with your business if it goes txts up then creditors may be able to use the house for debts. Sorry for the negativity to you, there is something about your manner that angers me.

Mojisola

It sounds as if the solicitor was trying to do his job but wasn't very tactful about it.

In your situation, I would go to another solicitor but would seriously take on board the issues the first solicitor raised and discuss them fully.

Alan2020

Sorry I find this thread rather funny. From the thread so far it seems the OP is either very naive or a bully. Sadly for the OP if anything were happen (God forbid!) to his partner and he would have a hard time proving he didn't bully his partner into signing the wealth away.

The solicitor sounds fine to me, not rude at all. He wants to speak to the owner of the money and not the OP, under the eyes of the Law OP has no business whatsoever however hard it is for him to understand.

And OP and partner need to chill and relax, Solicitors and the law are expensive, get it over with and enjoy life :-)

And OP when your kids are over 18 you won't be able to know if they attend class at uni or not ;-) Get ready to experience modern day England :-D

Mojisola

There's a lot of good information here - https://www.advicenow.org.uk/living-together/ - for couples who are living together without getting married.

FBaby

Tyler119 wrote: »

Little bit harsh is it not. We are not married yet because until recently we were two full time mature students with a small child and had no way to afford something like that. I wanted to have my business running and put some money in the bank to make it happen.

I am not the one making it about the money, the solicitor is and so are a lot of folk on here. Originally I just wanted to know peoples opinion on a solicitor not acting on instructions in the manner that he was. Money means very little to me, my partner has always said that everything should be 50/50 and I have always agreed.

I honestly didn't mean it to be harsh. My message wasn't a judgement on your decision to wait to marry her, you are entitled to marry her whenever you are ready, however, from her perspective, buying the property jointly is a massive commitment, so she should be reassured that you are prepared to make a similar commitment. If I was her, considering she has made it clear it is what she wants to do, I would want to see an engagement ring before being ready to share such a large amount of money and I therefore think the solicitor is right to make her see it that way.

Mojisola

Pipunch wrote: »

Myself and my partner share everything equally because we are a PARTNERSHIP, even though we don't bring in the money 50/50.

This is how we have worked since we got together but it still stands that a solicitor has a duty of care to his clients to make sure they understand what they are doing - hence wanting to talk to one partner alone. The potential problems should be talked through but, if the client then wants to continue, the solicitor should take their instructions.

It's the same situation when an adult child takes a parent to make a new will. The solicitor should talk to the parent alone to make sure they are making decisions of their own free will.

If the solicitor doesn't do this, he/she risks allegations about giving poor advice if everything goes wrong later on.

blckbrd

Pipunch wrote: »

Also you will find a lot of people on here love beig self-righteous and telling you how you should live your life. Myself and my partner share everything equally because we are a PARTNERSHIP, even though we don't bring in the money 50/50. People who disagree and think everything should be legally protected are just very hollow individuals to be honest. There is such a thing as trust, and also such a thing as an amicable break up which doesn't include acting like a child and trying to grab half of everything just so the other doesn't get it.

The people on this board recently advised me to get a mortgage even though I can afford to buy outright, so I would pretty much disregard what any of them say about your personal situation.

Just go find a solicitor who will do WHAT YOU'RE PAYING HIM FOR.

Sorry to offend anyone that thinks someone who's wages you're paying has a right to question any part of your life and then refuse to act in accordance to your wishes.

Then why do you keep posting if forums are so worthless?

I actually don't give half a !!!!! what OP chooses to do because I don't have to live with it. However, I am firmly of the opinion that if one hangs one's knickers in public. one oughtn#t to be surprised if someone notices a worn gusset and threadbare elastic.

Tyler119

Pipunch wrote: »

Also you will find a lot of people on here love beig self-righteous and telling you how you should live your life. Myself and my partner share everything equally because we are a PARTNERSHIP, even though we don't bring in the money 50/50. People who disagree and think everything should be legally protected are just very hollow individuals to be honest. There is such a thing as trust, and also such a thing as an amicable break up which doesn't include acting like a child and trying to grab half of everything just so the other doesn't get it.

The people on this board recently advised me to get a mortgage even though I can afford to buy outright, so I would pretty much disregard what any of them say about your personal situation.

Just go find a solicitor who will do WHAT YOU'RE PAYING HIM FOR.

Sorry to offend anyone that thinks someone who's wages you're paying has a right to question any part of your life and then refuse to act in accordance to your wishes.

Thanks for your comment! Someone that thinks a little how we do! Trust is absolute for us and I think that people are really judging me when they don't know me or my partner. I not naive or controlling which is pretty insulting to be honest! (not aimed at you).

We share everything and always have done! The good and the bad and we both believe in this. I cant believe someone said they would need to see a ring on their finger before doing what my partner intends too! haha I think that some people are so money orientated and very fickle about relationships!

We seem to live in a cynical age these days! However me and my partner have some old fashioned ways built in to us!

I wonder if more relationships would last if people stopped planning there exit before there is even a fire!