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In laws - how close is too close?
adamzetec
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In our pursuit of a family home we have stumbled across a house which meets most of our criteria. The only issue is that it's on the same road as my potential mother in law. In fact the configuration of the road means the gardens pretty much back on to on another.
We have a decent relationship and with a young child it will be useful for child care etc. However, I worry it's still too close and we should have some distance between us.
Its possible they may be moving in the next 4-5 years and I expect to be living in the next house for 7-8 years minimum.
We have a decent relationship and with a young child it will be useful for child care etc. However, I worry it's still too close and we should have some distance between us.
Its possible they may be moving in the next 4-5 years and I expect to be living in the next house for 7-8 years minimum.
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Perfectly possible as long as you are perfectly clear on visiting procedures!
Let's face it they may question it too!
Why not have a chat with them and talk about how it would work?
My OH and I made a pact to always present a united front when dealing with our kids and this has served us in good stead. Maybe you and your OH should have a similar approach re the in law's if it's deemed necessary.0 -
Well, here's a first!
The property forum being asked for matrimonial/ family / relaltionship advice!
What do you think we are? Psychologists?
And psychic ones to boot, that know all about you, your in-laws, and how you get on?
Not to mention prophets - to know how your relationship will develop/change in the future?
Give us a break!0 -
Well, here's a first!
The property forum being asked for matrimonial/ family / relaltionship advice!
What do you think we are? Psychologists?
And psychic ones to boot, that know all about you, your in-laws, and how you get on?
Not to mention prophets - to know how your relationship will develop/change in the future?
Give us a break!
Hardly a first, there is a whole board on here about family, relationships and so on. Wouldn't it be easier to just not comment?0 -
Well , we are considering purchasing in the same road as one of my brothers , he is more or less my best mate as well as bro , but luckily were both miserable gits who would never show up on the door step unannounced......so , if your a miserable git , maybe living close to outlaws wont be a problem!Never, under any circumstances, take a sleeping pill and a laxative on the same night.0
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We lived next door but one to my mother in law and the next road from my parents..It was great and then we moved with my parents a two minute walk and my wife's a five minute walk...We all get on well, It is handy..It is nice to see the value of your house going up'' Why ?
Unless you are planning to sell up and not live anywhere, I can;t see the advantage.
If you are planning to upsize the new house will cost more.
If you are planning to downsize your new house will cost more than it should
If you are trying to buy your first house its almost impossible.0 -
more_money_for_me wrote: »Hardly a first, there is a whole board on here about family, relationships and so on. Wouldn't it be easier to just not comment?
Exactly. Why I said
Easier? Maybe. More fun? No!The property forum being asked for ...0 -
My inlaws live 100m from OH's inlaws. We moved 200 miles from all of them. Works perfectly!0
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My girlfriend and I lived one road away from her parents although we were only renting. They visited us often and a fair number of times were unannounced. We lived there for 18 months then moved 7 miles away and they seldom visited. I get on well with her parents as they are good people so I didn't mind how close they were. I guess it depends on your relationships with them0
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Exactly. Why I said
Easier? Maybe. More fun? No!
I know I shouldn't reply really as you're clearly getting yourself off on it, but I would just point out that houses and relationships tend to cross paths quite a lot. No doubt your alter ego is on the relationships board looking down their nose at anyone who dares to mention houses.0 -
I think OH's family are fantastic, but wouldn't want to live closer than 40 miles from any family. I need privacy. I don't want family 'just calling round', and though I'm not raising children now I know that in future I want to be able to raise them without regular input from relatives.
OH is very close to his family. I didn't grow up in a close family, and I've found it hard to understand. I guess that has an impact on the way I feel, but only you know how your relationship is with them.0
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