emigrating to another country for better work life balance

meer53

musioman wrote: »

It's not physically demanding as it is mentally and for stress levels.

Aside from that, no matter what the job is, it's being away from the family so long with every evening being a rush and before you know it bedtime. As I said with everyone finding it so normal, maybe i'm not cut out for all of this. Some people need more spare time than others but I have none. It doesn't matter what the job is as i've been in some really fulfilling jobs. I just want to do less 'being away' from home and spending time at home. I want to switch around the work vs evening time. Then again, who doesn't?

But don't you have spare time at the weekends ? I think it's a case of you needing to look at how you manage your "stress"

Personally, i hate the word "stress" A lot of people i know who say they are "stressed" are this way because of themselves, and the pressure they put themselves under. What i mean is that they make mountains out of molehills. (not saying this is you OP !)

I also have friends who i would consider to be genuinely "stressed" as they have a severely disabled child, but they just seem to get on with it, they would never say they are "stressed" It's the way their life has panned out and they have accepted it.

I think it's a case of mind over matter. Life is what you make it, if you're the "stressed" type, you'll be "stressed" wherever you are. There will always be something to worry about.

Would you be able to consider a cut in hours to help for a while ?

underthesea

my personal 'stress' is having very limited personal time. I can't take a cut in hours as we are just surviving as is. I do have little time at weekends but in comparison to 'work time' it's ridiculous. Most of that time I just want to laze around because of the week ahead. Granted, most people in the working world are fine by this. I'm not or more so, my tolerance of this lifestyle isn't like most.

Some stories in this thread have people move away for the better which is some hope.

Person_one

musioman wrote: »

my personal 'stress' is having very limited personal time. I can't take a cut in hours as we are just surviving as is. I do have little time at weekends but in comparison to 'work time' it's ridiculous. Most of that time I just want to laze around because of the week ahead. Granted, most people in the working world are fine by this. I'm not or more so, my tolerance of this lifestyle isn't like most.

Some stories in this thread have people move away for the better which is some hope.

How many hours do you work? How long is your commute? If you only 'laze around' at the weekend how do things like housework and shopping and looking after your children get done?

Are you going to consider speaking to your GP?

meer53

If you have children, in my opinion, lazing around at weekends just isn't an option if you're at work all week. It doesn't mean you have to be out and about every weekend, there are lots of things you can do with them at home, my daughter likes nothing better than to be in the kitchen with me, baking.

You might not like doing things at weekends, and like to laze around, but with respect, your children should take priority over your lifestyle preferences.

Dunroamin

musioman wrote: »

It's not physically demanding as it is mentally and for stress levels.

Aside from that, no matter what the job is, it's being away from the family so long with every evening being a rush and before you know it bedtime. As I said with everyone finding it so normal, maybe i'm not cut out for all of this. Some people need more spare time than others but I have none. It doesn't matter what the job is as i've been in some really fulfilling jobs. I just want to do less 'being away' from home and spending time at home. I want to switch around the work vs evening time. Then again, who doesn't?

Do they - who would they be then?

Unless you work evenings as well, you have the same spare time as anyone else. If you wnt to make fewer hours then you (and your family) will need to make financial sacrifices.

underthesea

I agree but there is a link to your lifestyle and your children that you can't stop. How they see you (..if they see you and the mood they see you in!) is just as important to their upbringing and relationship.
You shouldn't not have children because you're busy....but you shouldn't be busy you just want to laze around...life pulls you in two directions.

Just to get back on topic, any more stories from people that have made a big move elsewhere and had a positive or negative life change?

Person_one

It would be good if you could answer some of the questions people have asked, we asked them because we want to try to help but need a bit more info.

Lagoon

I understand where you're coming from completely, OP. I used to work a 40 hour week but found it mentally demanding. Like you, I'd get home and eat and find that it was soon time to sleep. At the weekend I couldn't find the physical or mental energy to do more than laze around on the sofa. Housework was put aside, and I didn't want to waste even an hour of my weekend by doing anything not totally necessary. Lucky for me, there are no kids involved!

So, you're not alone. Unfortunately, I don't think another country is the answer. I actually started my own business to get away from it, is that an option for you?

underthesea

I think i've answered them but this thread is steering into different directions

Why I posted and what I've asked is to focus on is people who move away and have a better work life balance. This is exactly what I want, to move away from the material world and focus on working until you're bled dry.

underthesea

Lagoon wrote: »

I understand where you're coming from completely, OP. I used to work a 40 hour week but found it mentally demanding. Like you, I'd get home and eat and find that it was soon time to sleep. At the weekend I couldn't find the physical or mental energy to do more than laze around on the sofa. Housework was put aside, and I didn't want to waste even an hour of my weekend by doing anything not totally necessary. Lucky for me, there are no kids involved!

So, you're not alone. Unfortunately, I don't think another country is the answer. I actually started my own business to get away from it, is that an option for you?

Thanks for the understanding. I am working on my own business but there are no guarantees in the field i'm in (very high risk) If it works out, we won't be able to live on it (or even cut down hours) for another 2 years minimum.