Not sure if I should be best man!

piglet74

If you were just a guest at the wedding and asked to the stag doo.. I would be all for saying "sorry.. No can do.. I just can't afford it.. But I will go to the wedding...."

But I think as best man, not only will u be expected to go.. But isn't it one of your duties to help arrange / organise it?

Agree with the post the stag doo / hen nights have got so out of hand and OTT.. We had neither!!

Person_one

stebiz wrote: »

If I'm honest it's 50/50. Hence the reason I'd rather put my money to good use on the family.

How long have you got to make up your mind?

stebiz

I was asked to be Best Man about a year ago. I was 'told' I'll be going for a weekend away in Europe last week.

Person_one

stebiz wrote: »

I was asked to be Best Man about a year ago. I was 'told' I'll be going for a weekend away in Europe last week.

When is the weekend away? When do you need to commit?

It is annoying when other people take it upon themselves to spend your money for the sake of their 'big day', but if part of you would want to go if it weren't for feeling anxious about being so far away then I'd definitely try to talk to your GP asap.

stebiz

Person_one wrote: »

When is the weekend away? When do you need to commit?

It is annoying when other people take it upon themselves to spend your money for the sake of their 'big day', but if part of you would want to go if it weren't for feeling anxious about being so far away then I'd definitely try to talk to your GP asap.

He hasn't said. Just that we'll be going away for my stag do in May so be prepared. Hasn't suggested any dates yet.

Spendless

Will it cost £250 for a weekend away in Europe, by the time you've taken into account travel,accommodation, food and drink. Won't it be a lot more?. I think you need to be honest and say it's not affordable for you to go but you'll arrange a night in the pub for him and you (and anyone else who wants to join you) either before or after his Europe trip.

claretmatt

I was asked to be best man a couple of years ago.

When I told the groom to be that a £450 weekend stag do was too much, with a 7 month old and a wife on statutory maternity pay, he got the hump, "sacked" me as best man and told me I wasn't welcome at the wedding.

If you are unsure then talk to him as soon as possible.

PS he also wanted me to pay £90 for a suit.

PPS not spoke to him since

marisco_2

What an awful way to have treated you claretmatt. With mates like that you dont need enemies. Well rid by the sounds of it.

Robin_TBW

Just tell him you went out and got !!!!ed and if he says he can't remember respond with "EXACTLY! That's how !!!!ed you were."

zagfles

Spendless wrote: »

Will it cost £250 for a weekend away in Europe, by the time you've taken into account travel,accommodation, food and drink. Won't it be a lot more?. I think you need to be honest and say it's not affordable for you to go but you'll arrange a night in the pub for him and you (and anyone else who wants to join you) either before or after his Europe trip.

Should be easily doable if they share rooms and go on a budget airline. If they go to Eastern Europe it would likely be well under £250 each.