How much time do you spend alone?

FattyBettyBoo

I've found myself all alone today and realised that it doesn't happen very often.

My DD is away for the weekend with grandma, not seeing OH and weather is just too bad to venture outside again. I knew that this 'completely free' weekend was coming and was really looking forward to it as I can do whatever I want, but in reality I'm just bored and fed up with my own company. I've realised that since having DD I have spent virtually no time in my own company and forgotten how to enjoy it.

I have an easter egg, a box set and a bottle wine, which on paper sounds perfect, but I have this antsy feeling I can't shake.

balletshoes

I used to feel like that when my DD was younger.

She's away on a sleepover now until tomorrow afternoon, and like you I'm going nowhere in this weather. So I'll watch what I like on TV, do a bit of housework, maybe a DVD later, good book in bed at night, wake up late tomorrow .

You do get more used to it, the more it happens.

tanith

I spend quite a bit of time on my own while OH is at work or out on one of his hobbies, I love it, in the Summer I'll be outside reading or working in the garden, in the Winter time I knit, read, cook, sew, spend time on the computer, catch up with something on iplayer go for a swim , its just nice to do nothing sometimes to..

Just enjoy if you don't get the opportunity often .

paulwellerfan

i try to spend as much time as i can on my own.
i give 40 plus a week to other young people,
i also have my own daughter that i have to give time to.
any hours left lover i try to spend on my own.... to think. to reflect. to have some peace.

pigpen

an hour a week when OH takes 1 child swimming and the other is down for a nap

motherofstudents

It's nice to have time to yourself if you are normally quite busy and surrounded by other people but when it is a regular thing I think it becomes isolating. I have gone from having children at home and my mum nearby to being alone most of the time as husband works long hours. I have to make a conscious effort to do things or I think I would go mad.

mummyroysof3

Youngest is at nursery 10 hours a week so I'm alone then and in the evening when the kids are asleep unless me and hubby do something together. I use my time alone to study do housework or read mostly. I don't like being alone for more than a couple of hours at a time though.

marisco_2

Sounds like you have got out the habit of having time to yourself. Are you normally running around, looking after the family with very little time to sit and relax and concentrate solely on you?

It can take time to adjust when you finally get some well deserved time out. Have a soak in the bath, unwind, put a good film on and enjoy a glass of chilled vino.

I have a full on life. I am a teacher so my working day is hectic and noisy. My two children keep me busy with school drop off and collections, running them round to all their clubs and seeing their friends. Then there is the mundane day to day chores and routines.

I envy you some private, quiet time to indulge in something just for you. Happens far to rarely to me. Enjoy it OP while it lasts, your family will soon return home and be vying for your time and attention again

Katexx

I spend a fair amount of time on my own I guess. I like my own company though, I'm quite happy being on my own. I'm on my own for a few hours after work almost every day, and during the day time at the vast majority of weekends because my boyfriend works at weekends. He moved abroad for 3 months last year for a job placement and although the first week or two was really weird and I felt lonely, I actually got used to it quickly and was a bit stressed when he got back because I'd got so used to having the place to myself and not having to think about anyone else! I don't have kids and don't want them, which is probably a good job considering how much time I need to myself lol.

VestanPance

Outside of work I spend the vast majority of my time by myself.

marisco_2

Having time by yourself on a regular or infrequent basis can be very beneficial. It gives you the opportunity to reflect and make plans. Before having the children I use to spend alot of time by myself in the evenings when my ex worked away. I am a night owl so was often up late doing work toward a new course, reading, trying out some new hobby.

Being alone doesn't have to lead to you being bored or lonely. It just requires some thought and planning as to how best to utilise your time.