Thinking of moving in with other man- am I mad?

belfastgirl23

Just to say I'm really pleased you got as far as you did. Sounds like your OH has communicated honestly with you too about the baby which is really important, if he can acknowledge his feelings he doesn't need to avoid you to cope with them. It is only a first step and it will be up and down for a while, so try to prepare yourself for this, but I think it will come good in the end now that you've laid the groundwork.

And please stay away from the other guy, I can't tell you what a bad feeling he gives me from your posts. I accept that he is drop dead sexy and that you're fond of him but I don't think he would ever give you what you need and in fact would end up just destroying your confidence more. At the minute YOU are in the driving seat. You've got this very sexy man chatting you up - how much confidence does that give you I think you're best leaving as is.

It's not often I'm moved to tell people what to do but in this case and judging from other posters I think we're all in the same boat on him...

bunty109

It sounds like things are a lot better already and really hope you and your OH can sort this.

As for the other bloke......I'm not the most worldly person but I'd steer well clear. I think he knows how unhappy you are and is playing on that, knowing the compliments etc are appreciated (and well-deserved, I'm sure!!). Is he really someone you'd want to take a young child to live with and could have a secure future with?

I think maybe your OH is trying to prove to himself he can support you financially but has forgotten the bit about supporting you emotionally and physically by just being there for you. I'm sure if he spends time with you both more then he can start to realise what he's missing out on. I've my fingers crossed for you!!!

ScaredAndConfused

Hi op! I can't really add much more than others have already said to be honest, it sounds like the arrival of the baby has been a shock to your husbands system, and he's not managed to cope all that well.

Perhaps his attitude is born of his own frustrations at not being able to cope better, and so he snaps? I don't know him obviously, so could be well wide of the mark on that one.

this other guy though, whilst the attention may be REALLY flattering (and beleive me, if there's one part of this story I can relate to, it's that!) he just doesn't come across as a 'decent' sounding person to me, I'm sorry.

I really hope you can sort things out though, and that whatever ends up happening, is what makes you happy

findingmyownway

hows it going OP?

katglasgow

Hi sorry I've only just read your thread, I just wanted to add that my hubby was pants with my DS when he was a baby and didnt know what to do! We could have managed a monring or lunch out together, but then he would go off and do something else and that was probably better than pushing him to the point he exploded. My DS is 3.5 now, and they have a great relationship, but its been built up at their own pace and in all honesty I only really started to notice big changes when he turn from a "baby" into a "boy" now its all jsut tickles rough and tumble etc... My hubby is also terrible with him when he is sick - no patience at all! I try to keep him out of the loop, make a joke out of it and then hubby does other jobs or contributes in other ways.
Hope things improve xxx

Lita_Ford

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