Moral duty to parents

Dee123_2

studentphil wrote: »

Maybe they would get on better without me. But as far as I know they are in all but name divorced.

Then no amount of throwing money at them is going to help.

brazilianwax

studentphil wrote: »

It works by I can spend the money out of my current account on my parents if I know I have an income to survive on then I spend the money in my current account.

oh right. :rolleyes:

Dee123_2

studentphil wrote: »

It works by I can spend the money out of my current account on my parents if I know I have an income to survive on then I spend the money in my current account.

I'd strongly advise you not to do that until you have been at least a few months in the job and you know you are happy there and your employer is happy with you.

studentphil

Dee123 wrote: »

I'd strongly advise you not to do that until you have been at least a few months in the job and you know you are happy there and your employer is happy with you.

I can see the logic to that.

studentphil

I am trying to get my parents to go OS as they spend a lot at the supermarket. That would help free up a lot of cash if they did go more OS in the shopping.

Firefly

The only thing my children owe me is to make a good life for themselves. That includes working hard, being respectful to others and doing their best. If I don't have what I would like in old age, then that's my problem, not theirs.

Your incessant twaddle goes on and on and on Phil. Get a life.

nearlyrich

I must call my DS and see if he feels the need to spend £6 to £10k on me when he graduates!

I have already been divorced so I must qualify!!

Phil get real, your parents are grown ups responsible for themselves, no-one on a pension needs to be on the breadline, direct them to the entitled to website. They might qualify for a top up from uncle Gordon, or more realistically if you are expecting an inheritance they probably have loads of money in the bank and just don't like the idea of spending it.

You are not responsible for financially supporting your parents and you certainly should not be worrying about it on a Saturday night on the internet, get yourself out to the local pub and meet some real people.

studentphil

They won't spend their savings for fear of they will need it for a rainy day.

Maybe you are right and I should spend my money on my life and making me happy.

Quasar

Phil is there any detail of your life that you haven't discussed in here with a view to whinge - not to get advice?

If children can afford to help their parents that's great, if they can't that's fine too.

Anyway, instead of bellyaching about it, how about getting this blasted degree and then getting a job, any job, and start supporting yourself? That will be a great help to begin with.

studentphil

Quasar wrote: »

Phil is there any detail of your life that you haven't discussed in here with a view to whinge - not to get advice?

If children can afford to help their parents that's great, if they can't that's fine too.

Anyway, instead of bellyaching about it, how about getting this blasted degree and then getting a job, any job, and start supporting yourself? That will be a great help to begin with.

Q, I have been revising tonight.

I have my three point plan in place now:
1 Get this weekend job
2 For the weekdays do temping
3 Do something a Certificate of Management to develop my business skills a bit.

then after a year have a look at what I can do.