Nice people thread part 8 - worth the wait

SingleSue

The school are aware that what we have now is because of their 'insert naughty word' up.

Yep, youngest is aware it would make him different which is why he wasn't that keen on that particular idea either!

CKhalvashi

lostinrates wrote: »

Someone was having trouble with inhalers before.

Was it sue and school or Michaels and doctors, I cannot remember.

If its sue and school I'd be explaining problems were partly contributed to by them. Would he understand that part time would make him as different as carrying/ using his inhaler?

It was Sue.

Sue, whilst I really wish I could give some meaningful advice, without delving into your private life (which I'm not willing to do, as I'm a virtual stranger), there's not a lot of meaningful advice I can offer.

I really hope that things pick up for you soon, and you find a solution!

CK

lostinrates

How often does he use his inhalers on average? Is there an average?

The meltdowns at school must be awful for everyone. Are his peers understanding? I have to admit I think I might have been quite scared at school if someone broke windows. My school was an oasis of normality for some of us!

SingleSue

It depends on how bad his asthma is, at the moment, it is bad and he is needing his inhalers several times a day (hence them not willing to risk him being in the school right now). When the asthma is ok, then not so much.

A lof of kids know his meltdowns from primary school, it is amazing just how protective the girls especially are of him. They know the reasons behind why this is happening now and are all just as as angry as everyone else with the school because they have been working just as much as we have to have him settled.

He is in a fairly robust group of students, so rather than being frightened, the ones who are not as protective of him, find it huge fun and a distraction from the norm...I think it helps that despite his aloofness and lack of social skills, he is seen as one of the popular kids! All the popular kids in his year think he is absolutely great BECAUSE he is so different to the norm.

I must reiterate, the windows are not being broken on purpose, he is not aiming or intending to break windows.

lostinrates

He's lucky to have such a robust and supportive group of peers, I'm really eased for him.

Somehow that support network might be the answer? If he were younger or dupable one could get the others to carry mock inhalers. Are there any other asthmatics who can be 'the same'.?

silvercar

I must reiterate, the windows are not being broken on purpose, he is not aiming or intending to break windows.

Does he realise that his meltdowns are resulting in the windows being broken? He may not be in control all the time, but he should realise that actions have consequences. As a school child I would be petrified if someone "lost it" and windows were being broken in my vicinity. It may well be the school's fault for his present state of mind - though the asthma can't help, but the school do have a duty of care to protect the other pupils.

I wonder if the asthma is more responsible for his moods. I know that when there has been an overuse of aerasol sprays in my house, I can detect it just by working through the door. It makes me very ratty. At first the family thought I was over reacting to the stink of deoderant, but we have now realised it is a reaction to the aerasol - my breathing becomes tighter and that makes me irritable, subconciously.

lemonjelly

I may have mentioned that I got a ton of maverick tomato plants growing out of the home made compost I have.
After giving a fair few away to family, I still have a lot (more than I need) left.

This week I have the pleasure of giving these away to colleagues, so they can try their hand at growing something to eat. I hope it gives them as much pleasure as it does me/I (?)

This weekend I'll then be finding a new home for half my cucumber plants, which are in great nick.

I'll also have to find homes for some of the chilli plants, as far more grew than I anticipated!

michaels

silvercar wrote: »

Does he realise that his meltdowns are resulting in the windows being broken? He may not be in control all the time, but he should realise that actions have consequences. As a school child I would be petrified if someone "lost it" and windows were being broken in my vicinity. It may well be the school's fault for his present state of mind - though the asthma can't help, but the school do have a duty of care to protect the other pupils.

I wonder if the asthma is more responsible for his moods. I know that when there has been an overuse of aerasol sprays in my house, I can detect it just by working through the door. It makes me very ratty. At first the family thought I was over reacting to the stink of deoderant, but we have now realised it is a reaction to the aerasol - my breathing becomes tighter and that makes me irritable, subconciously.

Could I suggest roll ons or stick deodorants; even with our girls we try to make sure that heai products come in the pump spray containers rather than aerosols.

lemonjelly wrote: »

I may have mentioned that I got a ton of maverick tomato plants growing out of the home made compost I have.
After giving a fair few away to family, I still have a lot (more than I need) left.

This week I have the pleasure of giving these away to colleagues, so they can try their hand at growing something to eat. I hope it gives them as much pleasure as it does me/I (?)

This weekend I'll then be finding a new home for half my cucumber plants, which are in great nick.

I'll also have to find homes for some of the chilli plants, as far more grew than I anticipated!

Shame you are not a little nearer - we would love to offer some of your 'rescue tomato plants' a loving home. It is quite funny all our 3 love tomatos but the older two are just getting big enough to sometimes be sniffy as I suspect quite a few of their pers don't 'like' tomatos...

zagubov

Is the BBC monitoring this thread? I noticed that the Now Show ran a routine about that advert for a free room with a strange costume, that we all agreed was very strange.;)

Even stranger that an update says someone's accepted it!

silvercar

michaels wrote: »

Could I suggest roll ons or stick deodorants; even with our girls we try to make sure that heai products come in the pump spray containers rather than aerosols.

I have suggested them; my suggestion has been rejected. We now have a 'doors closed when spraying' policy. The problem time is when DS2 has friends over, they all seem to use an excessive amount of deoderant. If they are going out from our house, they seem to give themselves a quick burst before they leave:eek: I hope the objects of their desire appreciate it because I certainly don't.