Nice people thread part 8 - worth the wait

lostinrates

lemonjelly wrote: »

It's not an intentional thing!
You ladies are scary!

actually, in honesty, it is the perceptions in my head that are scary. I know it is illogical, irrational or whatever. It is just the way I am I guess...:o

Oogling tip for nice guys...you look from not close up. When your eyeline doesn't need to drop. We still know oftentime, but its less rude.

Also, some women use people ogling to their advantage and in some settings an admiring look, rather than a gawping ogle, is rather nice.

lostinrates

michaels wrote: »

That's not a very nice thing to say about the 'nice' ladies - however having met a few of them you could be right

Joking aside, talking to women is scary unless you are in a relationship and not looking in which case approaching them is much easier.

I wonder what 'hit' rate the oft mentioned 'slimeballs' have in their scattergun aproach? DW told me the guy on the Fiat service desk kept propositioning her both in the garage and when he happened to pass her in the street but that she didn't fancy him. She hasn't told me about any others so I assume he was the only one she didn't fancy....

Slime balls get women too...thing of the number of female friends one has with slimy partners.

bugslet

michaels wrote: »

I wonder what 'hit' rate the oft mentioned 'slimeballs' have in their scattergun aproach?....

Probably depends on location, ie the local nighterie, and how much alcohol has been consumed on said night out. Otherwise, pretty low I should think.

Easiest thing for both parties, IMO, is when you've known someone for a while and found that you are relaxed in their company. Trying to get a date after half an hours conversation is never going to be the best way to go.

I used to talk to Mr Bugs at work, then I got sacked and he thought he'd better ask quickly before he didn't see me again. Though he claims ( it was my forklifting days), that he was just curious to know what I looked like in a skirt.

lemon, you sound like a really top chap from what I've seen - and with good music taste!

LydiaJ

michaels wrote: »

That's not a very nice thing to say about the 'nice' ladies - however having met a few of them you could be right

Joking aside, talking to women is scary unless you are in a relationship and not looking in which case approaching them is much easier.

I wonder what 'hit' rate the oft mentioned 'slimeballs' have in their scattergun aproach? DW told me the guy on the Fiat service desk kept propositioning her both in the garage and when he happened to pass her in the street but that she didn't fancy him. She hasn't told me about any others so I assume he was the only one she didn't fancy....

Me? Scary? In what way? How can I be less scary?

Probably the Fiat guy was the only one persistent enough for her to feel you needed to know. Most of the "scattergun approach" types will try once or twice and then move on to the next opportunity. She probably feels she can deal with those easily enough so not significant enough to be worth mentioning.

neverdespairgirl

I'm only scary to lechurous slimeballs. As are most women, I think. Aged 17 or 18, it upset me a lot and made me retreat. Aged 35, I've perfected the look that communicates that the lookee is something smelly on the bottom of my shoe.

lostinrates

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

I'm only scary to lechurous slimeballs. As are most women, I think. Aged 17 or 18, it upset me a lot and made me retreat. Aged 35, I've perfected the look that communicates that the lookee is something smelly on the bottom of my shoe.

The youth point is extremely valid. What I deem ok for me to receive is very different for what's I would want a younger, or even just very shy person to. Some people retreat, others allow it to impact of sel
F worth or even identity.

Here is the thing.....it's NEVER GOING TO BE STRAIGHTFORWARD. That's part of the frisson of it for many, even in loving and consentual relationships there is teasing and tantalising and sometimes boundary crossing. Learning how to read the signals right is very hard, for both sexes, but especially with women. Men rarely play 'coy' for example. But, we're worth persevering with!:D

PasturesNew

LydiaJ wrote: »

Where does "the North" begin by your standards, PN? The M4? Growing up in Bristol, I felt that anything further than Birmingham was "North" to me.

Yes, I always considered Birmingham as the start of North (they talk funny). But, having 'met' some Brummies online ... they say they aren't North, they're Midlands

Can you remind us what your budget is so we can all look for houses for you?

Well, it's not about finding a house, but finding one in "the right area", where "right" means "not a crime/drugs hellhole", which is hard enough to determine when you're right here. Lots of "nice looking houses" out there....

Also, need to be on bus routes, close to a station. Walkable to shops.

Ideally I'd need double the budget to really be able to at least get half what I want in the right area. So, area focus has now shifted back this way (had been looking 10 miles away) .....

Budget - not sure really, need to look that up. But I do an RM search at £210k, I figure just under £200k would leave me enough money to buy one bag of chips (and no curtains or anything) the day after I've bought it

Generali

The fashion over the summer in Aus for women's dresses has been very low cut and hugging the breasts with a very high hemline.

That includes in the workplace.

TBH it's annoys the hell out of me when I talk to a woman at work that she is tugging at her hem 2-3 times each minute while her breasts are mostly in display. Then if I look at what's being pointed at me (which I have zero interest in at work) then I'm the bad person.

I have the decency to turn up to work dressed modestly. My colleagues, male or female, should do the same.

PasturesNew

I always dreaded getting workmen into my house. I can remember three particular incidents:
1] Fat, sweaty, old man who was fixing the back door lock invited me to a steam engine festival.
2] Loft extension quote man, bald and 4'10", sent in a written/bound quote, with a scribbled offer of a date on a compliments slip.
3] Builder who started rowing with his wife didn't proposition me, but, having finished work for the day would then put the kettle on, get his paper out and settle down in the kitchen!!

lostinrates

I'm home. Not much I could do with the walking issue...home and its easing up. I must have been more excited than I thought. London looked and smelled pretty much the same. The sixteen degree hotel room lowest temp setting was too hot! But oh.....a lovely uncluttered room felt so wonderful.

I forgot te dress I need for the evening thing I was doing, so had to wear the same day clothes. No heels to jolly it up, but some nice flats...so felt ok. Had something a bit uncomfortable to attend to, and something a bit emotional that had to do with out dh there. Then met dh in the evening at the hotel and had supper with him and some other friends. Was reminded how gorgeous some of our friends are.

Cancelled what I was going to do day which is important, but not more so than my body, and missed being ale to walk around a bit.


Five star certainly doesn't mean what it used to though. I had to ask them to Move us to another room and tbh was decidedly underwhelmed.