Nice people thread part 8 - worth the wait

bugslet

tomterm8 wrote: »

My theory is that you never get rich if the thing you are interested in is getting rich.

You get rich if you are really interested in something, get obsessed about it, work away at it for years and years,become brilliant at it, then one day you look up and you have a large amount of money stashed in your bank account.

I think that is possibly true, and that many people never find what really floats their boat. I try to concentrate on the bits of my work that I like and delegate as much as I can of what I don't.

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

Question - not just for Lydia - do you prefer the big and chunky type of necklace that could double as a weapon if necessary with a nice stone to thump someone with, or the delicate, finer type?

Necklaces are the least worn of any type of jewellery, but shortish and fine is my preference.

Spirit wrote: »

I agee with this. I "get out more" virtually and meet new people on this thread having a belief that I have a wider social circle because of it.

The diversity of the thread members does that by which I mean covers personal characteristics and NP work/personal expertise and interests.

From what I think I know there is a mix of races/ethnicity either individually or NP families (at work my team is very mixed - at home friends are not), religeons/beliefs (in RL I do not think I know anyone Jewish), disability ,gender,ages...although I have assumed we are heavily weighted to wards marriage and not aware of any NP in civil partnerships or LGBT(in RL I have friends/staff in civil partnerships and we have lesbian & gay friends).

There is a range of careers amongst NP although I do not know what most people do and a stronger scientific leaning than amongst my RL friends/neighbours. There seems to be a more creative seam as well..in RL I rarely come across creative/artistic types . Economically non of us NP sound fabulously well off ranging from the 'precariat' as described recently to comfortable...in a way that people can afford their lives but have to make choices ....and think/plan about their financial futures . The same is true of my RL social circle too...although some of my family are more precarious than my friends/neighbours and I am more comforatble with NP in that I can discuss personal money/cost things that would never be discussed with RL friends.

On the NP thread there seem to be fewer boats , motor homes and guns than I come across at home...although music collections are stronger amongst NP and I go to the links people post and hhear new things...as I usually hate/turn off radio I do not really puy myself in the way of new music..or much music.

NP seem to understand frequent traveller spouse things better too. Oddly I am happy to read/post on here but not much of a text/email/social network communicator outside of work.

I have rather rambled now..but was a trying to explain how NP widen my understandinga and contact with the world.

As a newish contributor, I am still forming impressions of you all. To me, you are all fairly diverse, though that may be because I haven't worked out the finer points!

bugslet

Generali wrote: »

No gilded path for me into The City unfortunately. I got a job paying £5.50 an hour inputting money market trades into a computer. Then lied about my experience to get my next job. They found me out and sacked me but by then I could do the job!

Since then it's been a big fight to stay in the game. Now I don't know what to do really. I don't have much in the way of savings (gone due to GFC and extended unemployment) and I'm not on megabucks so the plan has gone quite badly wrong. Oh well, we'll get there.

I definitely agree with this thread widening my social range.

@lydiaJ. Thank you for the cyberhug.

I've always thought that you come across as having enough get up an and go in your life, you'll get there in the end.

Reading the Sunday Times rich list over the weekend, I came across the boss of Clipped logistics number 750/760ish, he started the year after me. There is no chance of me appearing on the rich list!:rotfl:

Generali wrote: »

TBH I think the exception is The City. That's long been a place where you can go and make huge amounts of money despite not being very interested in what's around you.

An unqualified clerk with 2-3 years of experience can easily make £30-40,000 a year. An agency trader, basically taking on almost no risk, should be on £100,000 a similar length of time after being taken on. It really is a gravy train. You work pretty hard but the money is completely out of scale of the level of skill required to do the job and what the IT guys earn is amazing!


One bloke I worked with who was basically writing macros was commuting daily from Yorkshire. The reason? He could pay off his mortgage in 2 years. It was a nice place he was living in too considering it was up North. It's Grim Up North.

Oi! Twirled - Yorkshireman's definition of Yorkshire:D

silvercar

michaels wrote: »

Sorry, don't feel I can say what it is at it isn't michaels, his DW or DKs and there are not a huge number of steps from the michaels' to other nice people but knowing you are thinking positive thoughts is very much appreciated.

Gentle rap on the knuckles for michaels. If you had said that at the beginning! I picked up that it wasn't you, but I don't think you ever said that it wasn't DW or DKs before. Of course positive thoughts to whoever needs them, but I assumed that it was your immediate family , which is even more of a concern.

silvercar

LydiaJ wrote: »

Thank you. Yes, you do make sense, and I can see how what you say fits with your own situation. Hugs.

Fortunately the legal stuff with LNE only bothers me when it is requiring me to take action and so adding to the demands on me. I have no trouble putting it on a shelf to be dealt wth later. And while I feel very strongly that when the inquest happens I need to be at it, all of it, I don't mind waiting. In many ways, waiting is easier, because is doesn't demand anything of me. It's more stressful when I actually have to start making arrangements.

Who is else is likely to turn up? LNE's parents? Would they be supportive to you (and vice versa) or is the relationship difficult?
Just had a thought, being a few years down the line, is there a LNE significant other that could appear?

silvercar

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

Question - not just for Lydia - do you prefer the big and chunky type of necklace that could double as a weapon if necessary with a nice stone to thump someone with, or the delicate, finer type?

Little stone - preferably diamond.

Short and reasonably thick or longer and fine.

Still in my silver phase, though OH thinks I can't possibly need any more!

I would say my weakness is jewellery, not interested in shoes or handbags, but I can drool over a Tiffany catalogue for hours.:o

lostinrates

silvercar wrote: »

Little stone - preferably diamond.

Short and reasonably thick or longer and fine.

Still in my silver phase, though OH thinks I can't possibly need any more!

I would say my weakness is jewellery, not interested in shoes or handbags, but I can drool over a Tiffany catalogue for hours.:o

I have a few loose stones I have bought....with the idea I will have s,etching made, but in actual fact I think I just like getting them out and looking at them like gollum, enjoying the prettiness.

I used to wear a lot more jewellery. Most days I forget to put my wedding ring on, but I am wearing it today, plus biggish earrings. That's it. I love earrings the best but the TGN symptom can make them very uncomfortable indeed. Or suicidal:rotfl:. Today I have no TGN and I feel like wearing statement earrings to celebrate. .

I am going shopping. It's rare I shop out of sales seasons, but there is a particular skirt I think Looks useful for me for summer, and I need a couple of tops. Plus...I suppose I should by the Boss a birthday gift. . I do not plan to buy shoes (I just love shoes) but I think a trip to a cosmetics and skin care place is on the cards. I need a cheap mascara (keep binning mine because of eye infections so not worth buying a decent one).

PasturesNew

I think I put my earrings in about 3-5 months ago, and haven't even thought to take them out.

I don't wear necklaces as I forget.

Half of all this is that as I am not settled, my stuff's not unpacked or handy or visible .... no idea where my jewellery box is at all (not that it's got much in it).

Made a couple of nice faux diamond rings the other week.... put them on for 10 seconds to check for sizing 2 days ago, took them off 10 seconds later and put them away again. These were practice pieces.....

neverdespairgirl

PasturesNew wrote: »

Made a couple of nice faux diamond rings the other week.... put them on for 10 seconds to check for sizing 2 days ago, took them off 10 seconds later and put them away again. These were practice pieces.....

"made" in what way? What did you do?

michaels

Home with DS this AM who was up vomiting most of the night and DW has a course this morning - quite lucky really as otherwise I would be sleeping at my desk

neverdespairgirl

I don't have a posh phone either, PN, so cannot assist.

So are you doing wire work? Do you make other stuff too?

I have a weakness for pearls - not the dead boring round smooth white sort, but blue-grey akoyas, pink or purple freshwaters, and in particular, Tahitian pearls - that glorious green or grey or black with pink, green or silver overtones.