Wedding Loan

suburbanwifey

CharlieRabbit01 wrote: »

I think a trait I'm seeing here is don't get married it won't last and married life is hard.

I fail to see how being married makes life harder, though evidence amongst my friends suggests there must be something in being together and not getting married as those couples have been together longer.

In my experience of asking people why they chose to live together rather than get married, usually one of the living together persons are choosing not to get married as they 'haven't found the person they want to marry yet' nicely put that means they don't want to marry that person they are suggesting or are just living with, they are waiting to marry the one they want to spend the rest of their lives with etc. And I have seen it happen with two couples who lived together, one for 14 years! The guy ended it after 14 years and married someone else within a year. People who live together know it won't last, people who marry assume and hope it will.

Also, if someone doesn't want to get married to 'protect their assets' they are assuming the relationship will fail before it starts. People who get married, on the whole, that doesn't even occur to them!

That's why there are those that marry and those that won't.

iolanthe07

Are those that are in your statistics happily married or are still together just because their (they're) married?

Who can say? I can only speak from the personal experience of being happily married for 44 years. Marriage to me speaks of permanence and commitment. Living together does not.

CharlieRabbit01

Suppose it depends on how you look at it.

My mother has been married 3 times.

Friends of ours have been together for 30 years not married and couldn't be happier.

Another friend is happily married.

And another unhappily married.