Wedding Loan

pheonixrising21

Better_Off_1983 wrote: »

Rumour has it ... the more money spent on a wedding... the shorter the marriage. QUOTE]

In that case, David Beckham would have been divorced after about 3 days...

shonzyd

!!!!!! wrote: »

You are taking the proverbial. If it is taking that long to plan then you are doing something seriously wrong!

me???? I am not married myself actually. But anyone I know who has got married has been engaged for atleast 12months, I personally would want to take my time planning it - and the fact is, if i couldnt afford it, i'd want to extend that for as long as possible til i could, whats the problem with that???

RuthnJasper

A wedding is only about the heartfelt exchange of sincere vows and love between two people. A massive shindig costing a fortune can be held at any time during the subsequent happy union - anniversaries, christenings, birthdays, whatever.

This is ONLY my (generally worthless) opinion - but if two people decide to get married and the costs of the day are THE big issue of confrontation, then something's not right.

The Beatles were onto something with "Can't Buy Me Love".... a wedding is for the joining of two people. Their parents, mates, great-aunt Maud and whoever else can butt-out, as it isn't THEIR day.

That's pretty-much me done... Always pick love over filthy lucre folks, because money these days is just someone else's paper and metal. Took me a long time to learn that.

Keep smiling! R xx

pheonixrising21

Can I ask, is it the fact that they are wanting to spend £14k on a wedding that is galling to you all or the fact that they want to borrow the £14k? Or both?

If the question was "I have £25k in savings, should I spend £14k of it on a wedding and the rest on paying off loans and buying stuff", would you still all say the same?

meer53

pheonixrising21 wrote: »

Can I ask, is it the fact that they are wanting to spend £14k on a wedding that is galling to you all or the fact that they want to borrow the £14k? Or both?

If the question was "I have £25k in savings, should I spend £14k of it on a wedding and the rest on paying off loans and buying stuff", would you still all say the same?

I would say the same. £14k on a wedding is a waste of money, whether you have it or not.

Lagoon

pheonixrising21 wrote: »

Can I ask, is it the fact that they are wanting to spend £14k on a wedding that is galling to you all or the fact that they want to borrow the £14k? Or both?

If the question was "I have £25k in savings, should I spend £14k of it on a wedding and the rest on paying off loans and buying stuff", would you still all say the same?

I wondered the same! Our upcoming wedding has worked out at around 15k, everything considered. I wouldn't say we've been extravagant - it's being held at a local hotel, a family member made our invitations and placecards, but we've invited nearly 70 people for the day and the number goes up to 100 at night. That adds up, even if all we've really purchased otherwise are basic flowers, cheapish favours, a cake, clothes, and gifts for the most important guests.

This argument that 'it's all about joining the person you love' and 'it's ridiculous to spend anywhere that much' seems a bit silly to me. Yes, the marriage is the focal event but this is (hopefully) a once in a lifetime experience. I want my day to be fantastically memorable, I want everyone to enjoy themselves and I want EVERYONE there that's important to me. 100 guests will cost a lot, but I'm there not just to get married but to celebrate my marriage and my love with all of the OTHER people I love and care about.

If other people want a small wedding on a tight budget, that's great, but the idea that £15k is a 'ridiculous' amount is the thing that REALLY seems ridiculous to me.

pheonixrising21

meer53 wrote: »

I would say the same. £14k on a wedding is a waste of money, whether you have it or not.

So, you've never wasted money? Ever? On anything you don't need? Do you own any of the following items?

TV (and therefore TV licence/Sky/cable)
DVDs
CDs
Stereo/Hi-fi/MP3 player
Car
Pet(s)
A house in any area other than the absolute cheapest one available within a reasonable commute to work
Laptop
Phone line
Phone and/or mobile
Internet connection
Microwave
etc, etc, etc

Do you ever do any of the following things?

Go out to dinner
Order a takeaway
Go on holiday (anywhere, even camping in the UK)
Day trips out to the zoo, theme parks
etc, etc, etc

None of these things are needed. Therefore they are all a waste of money, whether you have it or not.

If it was just about the borrowing of the money for a wedding, then I could understand your point, but to say its just a waste of money whether you have it or not despite the fact that we all waste money every day is just a little hypocritical

catshark88

Spending the money one has in the bank "spare" is a personal choice and people can spend it how they choose.

Borrowing a large amount of money to spend on something which needn't cost anywhere near that amount seems daft to me.

geoffky

A expensive wedding is fine ,Ask my daughter...She is not paying....
I offered the money for a deposit for a house and they refused and will one day greatly regret that decision... Oh to be young and stupid...

Lagoon

geoffky wrote: »

A expensive wedding is fine ,Ask my daughter...She is not paying....
I offered the money for a deposit for a house and they refused and will one day greatly regret that decision... Oh to be young and stupid...

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