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Don't understand why people are giving me a hard time ??
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Person_one wrote: »That's better.
I don't like to generalise, but I think that it does tend to be other women who criticise the choices that other mothers make, sadly.52% tight0 -
The same as you saying kids who stay at home with SAHM mums are clingy yet if they are dumped at nursery they are so sociable and best thing for them? Sorry not critising the ones that choose to this just pointing out how the OP is in a nice position to care and rear her own children!0
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It amazes me that some friends can be so thoughtless in their remarks or assume that they feel they can tell you how you should be. It is a shame we have to find out who our friends are the hard way. If only they were in our shoes for two minutes eh? I too try to treat others the way I expect to be treated, but some will just take it as weakness and take advantage.
Loved Funky Bold Ribena's suggestion, especially as your so called friends are giving you snidey comments... the thing is the comments probably won't get any better. They don't in my experiance anyway. Best to not be involved with them if you can help it. It may feel hard initially but you will be much better off without them in your life.
Good luck with everything.0 -
I reckon the case is that you can't win if you do can't win if you don't. I think from now on I shall either return the sarcasm or ignore them depending on the comment after all my life and my choices are my business and as long as the don't have an impact on other people I'm not going to take no notice x Thankyou everyone who's commented xx0
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I was lucky enough to be able to stay at home until my son started nursery when he was 3. I can't even count the number of times that people said to me how lucky I was to be a "lady of leisure" :mad:
We lived on the breadline for much of the time, it was our decision but it meant that I was shopping and cooking every day, I took my son to playgroups, libraries, swimming, and just out walking every day too, because we lived in a flat and I wanted to make sure that he got plenty of fresh air (plus, it wore him out a little!)
It was hardly a time of "leisure", he was up at around 5am most mornings and didn't stop running around until bedtime. To be honest, even if we didn't need the money, I would have gone back to work for a rest!
Your "friends" are just jealous and spiteful. Tell them to be careful what they wish for!"I may be many things but not being indiscreet isn't one of them"0 -
Sympathy from me too. I was a SAHM when my children were young, and returned to work part time when they were at high school. The comments changed from why didn't I work at all, (really? I never seemed to stop, I was always on the go) to why did I only work part time not full time? I gave up working even part time 18 months ago after a cancer diagnosis and I am stunned at how many folk think it is their business!
But I have decided not to give a fig for what anyone else thinks. I could explain the infection risks I face due to having my spleen removed as part of my treatment, or go into grim detail about the scarey prospect of not knowing just how much time I might have left to enjoy doing my own thing.......but since my DH and I are happy with our joint decision, I shall just ignore the nosey brigade.:DPeople Say that life's the thing - but I prefer reading
The difference between a misfortune and a calamity is this: If Gladstone fell jnto the Thames it would be a misfortune. But if someone dragged him out again, that would be a calamity - Benjamin Disreali0 -
moneysaymoneydo wrote: »The same as you saying kids who stay at home with SAHM mums are clingy yet if they are dumped at nursery they are so sociable and best thing for them? Sorry not critising the ones that choose to this just pointing out how the OP is in a nice position to care and rear her own children!
I wasn't saying nursery is the best thing for them. I would absolutely hate for mine to go into childcare and I love being a stay at home mum. I wasn't complaining about mine being cling-ons, I quite enjoy it
I was just saying that my nieces are fine, that full time childcare doesn't appear to have damaged them in any way and that their mum isn't a terrible mother.
Us stay at home mums don't have to criticise full time workers, and likewise those workers shouldn't be criticising the OP. We all think our kids are happy and we all do what we think suits our family best.52% tight0 -
It is plain to see that most people would be jealous of your situation to a degree, whilst obviously sympathising with regards to your hip problems.
A lot of us are exhausted working full time and just wish we had more time to ourselves, that is all. If they have been friends for a long time, don't write them off, just (and i'm not saying that you do) run their face in it.
At the end of the day, you aren't claiming benefits therefore don't have to answer to anyone at allThe opposite of what you know...is also true0 -
Well, even if you were claiming benefits, so what? Lots of people are in too much pain to work.52% tight0
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