Don't understand why people are giving me a hard time ??

System

Women can be so rude! Ive had it for the last 10 years or so. From family members too.

Its no ones business but yours and your husbands.

ClareEmily

I was a SAHM for 2 years and I had this constantly especially when I resigned from my job after my maternity leave finished.

I had my mum's neighbours asking when I was going to find a job, to friends and family members.

I now have a part time job and not a peep from any of them.

I think people judge others if they don't conform to what they consider to be the norm.

I am now getting the "when are you sending him to nursery?" "isn't he too old to be in a cot still", "isn't he potty trained yet".

You can't win, if I had returned to my full-time job, I'm sure I would receive some !!!!!y comments about leaving my toddler in childcare grrr mind your own.

Buick

I find people make their feelings clear, covertly or overtly, that you are a second-class citizen if you are not in paid employment for whatever reason.

thorsoak

You know there are people out there who are just plain nasty if anyone does not conform to what is considered the "norm".

45 years ago, most women were SAHMs. My neighbour and I were looked on askance - because we "job shared" - worked two weeks each/looked after each other's baby the other two weeks. What gossip it caused!

Buick

thorsoak wrote: »

You know there are people out there who are just plain nasty if anyone does not conform to what is considered the "norm".

45 years ago, most women were SAHMs. My neighbour and I were looked on askance - because we "job shared" - worked two weeks each/looked after each other's baby the other two weeks. What gossip it caused!

Nowadays I don't think you'd even be allowed to look after each others children. Labour introduced some laws which made mutual childcare arrangements between working mothers very difficult.

fluffnutter

Jeez, what's wrong with looking after your own kids? Don't get it, I really don't. It's always other women (not men) who give the grief too...

jellyhead

Does your husband work locally? Tell them he likes to come home for sex at lunchtime

moneysaymoneydo

Jealous, pure and simple and not very nice friends at that, you have a bad hip but noones business but you and your husband, personally i take my hat off to you looking after your own kids, i am amazed at the amount of parents that slap their kids into full time private nurserys 8-5 for strangers to watch their kids because they feel they HAVE to go back to work, even if their whole wage only pays the kids nursery!

Anyway ignore them and just think at least you managed to marry a man that is successful and can take care of his family! :rotfl:

Person_one

Judi wrote: »

[STRIKE]Women [/STRIKE]People can be so rude!

That's better.

jellyhead

moneysaymoneydo wrote: »

Jealous, pure and simple and not very nice friends at that, you have a bad hip but noones business but you and your husband, personally i take my hat off to you looking after your own kids, i am amazed at the amount of parents that slap their kids into full time private nurserys 8-5 for strangers to watch their kids because they feel they HAVE to go back to work, even if their whole wage only pays the kids nursery!

Anyway ignore them and just think at least you managed to marry a man that is successful and can take care of his family! :rotfl:

I don't think criticising mums who work full time is the answer - it's no different to criticising stay at home mums.

Tax credits might be helping with the childcare fees for those families, or they might have jobs that they can't take an extended break from. My SIL works full time and her children are happy and secure, and I dare say they are better adjusted than my cling-ons. Just because we choose a particular way doesn't mean the other way is wrong.