Where does he put it all?!?

nzmegs

This sounds like a binge eating disorder and if it was a woman we would probably wonder if the food was staying down...

What it actually seems to me is that your husband is addicted to highly processed carbs. I suggest that you offer him more protein minus the sugars. Check his protein shakes (are they sugary) as they should be really filling him up. Lets fact it you can't eat 4 plain chicken breasts - but coat them in breadcrumbs (chicken kievs) and it becomes easy. You need to get some of the carbs out of his diet and replace them with high fat, high protein foods.

Try full fat plain yoghurt and fruit, eggs and bacon for breakfast, wholewheat bread with loads of ham, chicken and beef (use proper butter) in sandwiches, hard boiled eggs as snacks and plenty of full fat milk for drinks. I guarantee he will be satisfied. Just cut back the carbs and especially the sugars - over time if necessary.

For anyone who has a fat phobia - think about how much trans fat he is eating with his current diet and tell me that unprocessed high fat foods would be any worse...

thunderbird

nzmegs - that sounds very sensible. I know of several very active people who have a paleo type diet - they don't eat huge amounts and never feel hungry. Lots of veg, meat, fish, nuts, fruit, seeds, full fat dairy, very little carbs (cereals, potatoes, bread, pasta, rice)

JimmyTheWig

coinxoperated wrote: »

I've noticed he eats very quickly. Sometimes I feel hes in a race for how much food he an shovel in before the timer goes! He'll finish his dinner and walk straight into the kitchen and eat whatever he can see.

I used to do this. I'd eat dinner and then go straight to the fridge to the multi-packs of fun-sized chocolate bars. I'd then eat loads of them.
I set myself a rule. I was allowed to eat as many as I wanted, but had to leave half an hour before having one. So half an hour after dinner I allowed myself a fun-sized chocolate bar. Half an hour later I was allowed another one, etc.
Meant I cut right down on the amount of chocolate that I ate, because by the time half an hour was up I was starting to feel full from dinner.
Was hard for the first few days because it was like an addiction. But I soon settled into it.

JimmyTheWig

coinxoperated wrote: »

As much as I try to focus him on more filling foods, he seems obsessed with all the high calorie empty foods like crisps. It's like banging my head on a brick wall!

Maybe there's not a lot that _you_ can do.
You've said that you have lost two stone recently. Well done for that.
But I bet that you've done it because _you_ wanted to. I'd bet if your OH or anyone else told you that you should lose some weight you'd have found it really difficult.
It's about willpower and unless the person wants to change themselves it is very difficult to change them.

So I wonder if you need to take a step back from this.
The question isn't what you can do to make your husband change.
The question is does your husband want to change.
If he does want to change, the question becomes what can you do to help him (not what can you do for him).
If he doesn't want to change, the question becomes what can you do to encourage him to want to change (not what can you do to encourage him to change).
[If that makes sense!]

exarmydreamer

Maybe for:-


Breakfast: Two eggs in a pint of full fat milk before a bowl of porridge with nuts and honey, followed by a banana.

Midmorning: Mixed nuts (not salted) and packet of popcorn. Home made flap jack.

Lunch: Home made cornish pastie, Pasta with peppers, sweetcorn and cucumber followed by pot of rice pudding, piece of fruit and small chocolate wafer bar.

Mid Afternoon: Flask of soup with potato chunks and wholemeal bread, (try a heavy bread with seeds). Home made flap jack.

Evening: Cooked dinner with yorkshire pud, with extra potato's roasted followed by home made pie with custard or cream.

Supper: 2 piece of wholemeal toast with banana and honey or cheese toastie.

I know what it's like living with a 'slim Jim', my husband and I were both in the Army and burnt calories like no ones business but now we have left and he is sat in a van most of the time.

He now can't understand why he has put on weight, so only eats half of what he used too, (listed above is what he used to eat but he never smoked but did love the old port).

Mojisola

People usually use this site - https://www.myfitnesspal.com/ - for weight-loss but it would be interesting to put a couple of sample days food in.

Although he's thin, his diet contains a lot of rubbish and that will eventually affect his health. If he was my OH, I'd ask him to get a check-up at the GPs and then, if everything is alright health-wise, work with him on changing over to better food.

lee111s

Buy more meat from the butchers and spend less in the supermarkets on junk. Protein takes longer to digest than carbs and therefore should keep him fuller for longer. If the junk isn't there, he won't eat it. Coupled with the benefits of no hydrogenated fats or preservatives that you find in junk food.

If money is that much of an issue should he really be smoking? Stopping that alone should curb his eating, and even if not, you'll have a whole bunch of extra cash to spend on food?

pawsies

Are you sure he's not pregnant?

flea72

Your OH really needs to seek medical advice. It is not possible to eat that many calories and not put on weight

Also for sheer bulk of the food and the high sugar content, he has to be eliminating serious quantities from one end or the other

Rather than moan at him to stop eating, harrange him to go to the drs

thunderbird

don't know if this has already been covered - but what does he drink?