friend is pregnant

miss_independent

heartbreak_star wrote: »

I'm hilarious when children are in the vicinity - I won't hold babies and if I have to it's like "take it away now", and if it's toddlers I try and politely palm them off onto people who like kids.

Don't mind older kids so much - my cheer squad are aged 11 and up, that's enough for me! If I get a tiny squad one of my assistants can coach it lol!

HBS x

Lol, my friend has a little girl but she is like that with other people's babies! She holds them away from her like Angelina Jolie in Mr and Mrs Smith :rotfl:.

Ladyhawk

I think whoever said it is probably the whole big life change of it. I'm not jealous of the baby or pregnancy aspect rather it more of a case of yet another one bites the dust... And having an experience that I will never have. Not that I want it. I'm fine with most babies and kids in small doses.

IHateDida

Ladyhawk wrote: »

And having an experience that I will never have.

Never say never.....I felt exactly like you - in fact I still don't like children/babies but after a family member died last year I started to re-evaulate my life...in my late 30s....

I am now pregnant and luckily didn't leave it too late....

This is coming from someone who has been with their partner for 2 decades, never ever wanted children, liked their freedom etc etc... I saw my friends getting pregnant one by one over the years....and now will be the only one my age with a baby.....!

So just never say never.....;)

The_saint_2

Sounds a little selfish to be honest

SavingPennies_2

The_saint wrote: »

Sounds a little selfish to be honest

Oh here we go, sorry cant stand that attitude. :mad:

suki1001

heartbreak_star wrote: »

I'm hilarious when children are in the vicinity - I won't hold babies and if I have to it's like "take it away now", and if it's toddlers I try and politely palm them off onto people who like kids.

Don't mind older kids so much - my cheer squad are aged 11 and up, that's enough for me! If I get a tiny squad one of my assistants can coach it lol!

HBS x

I have a 9 yr old and 12 yr old and I am the same with small babies. I loved them to bits when i was little, but would never go back. Now they're this age, I get lie in's, night's out. I love the balance of family life, but feeling I can still be me.

I'm glad I can hand my nieces and nephews back!

Having said that, I do think as women we're not brought up to be maternal anymore and i think it kind of hits you at some point.

Ladyhawk

IHateDida wrote: »

Never say never.....I felt exactly like you - in fact I still don't like children/babies but after a family member died last year I started to re-evaulate my life...in my late 30s....
So just never say never.....;)

I fully appreciate that if my circumstances change my outlook may change too. glad you came to your senses in time!!

Thanks to everyone who has taken the time to reply. It's good to know that I not completely alone in having weird emotions about friends being pregnant. I am very happy for the couple - they are truly lovely people. I would never tell her that I've had this "moment". It may be just that I am sad that I am missing out on an experience even if I don't what to go through it myself.

flutterby_lil

Ladyhawk wrote: »

Im not worried about our friendship. She lives in Edinburgh and Im in London. Plus I doubt she is te type that lets a baby get in the way of living her life. As in she'll just strap it to her back and get on with things.

Im 33 and quite possibly its a biological thing... but I really don' think that motherhood is me... it is such an alien concept!

Im also not unhappy at the moment... in fact Im the happiest that I have been for a couple of years after resignng from a job which made me so unhappy. I haven't stopped smiling since I handed in my notice.

I appreciate that if I met the right guy he may be able to change my mind but I just really don't like kids!

The last bit stood out for me, you were probably crying as you will have a close friend with a baby and maybe you feel guilty that she knows you dont like children.....does that make sense, it does in my head but not written?

HeadAboveWater

flutterby_lil wrote: »

The last bit stood out for me, you were probably crying as you will have a close friend with a baby and maybe you feel guilty that she knows you dont like children.....does that make sense, it does in my head but not written?

(I understand what you're trying to say!! lol)

What would the world be like if we were all identical and liked/wanted the same things in life?! That's what makes us unique :D:D

caeler

I'm 32 (female) and I'm pretty sure I don't want children of my own. I always assumed once I was settled down it would suddenly click and want them but that hasn't happened. I'm now single and fairly happy with that too. All of my friends have babies, infact they are on to their second ones now. Sometimes I feel a little left behind. I don't get invited to gatherings as they are mainly for the children and now their are 4+ they are held at soft play centres which I'm told I 'wouldn't' enjoy, etc. I'm not resentful but I do miss my friends sometimes but I am pleased they are happy.