Does a long distance relationships work?

Gemma__3

Thank you for all your inputs

I do want to be with him so much

Person_one

Gemma_ wrote: »

Thank you for all your inputs

I do want to be with him so much

Please don't get too carried away! Sometimes the reality of living together means the end of a previously promising relationship.

By all means, go for it, and I wish you the best, but please have a backup plan for just in case it all goes pear shaped.

Is there any way you could take an extended amount of annual leave for a 'trial run'?

Gemma__3

How do you mean?

Work are always asking for me to go up and help in other offices for a few weeks, or more like a career break?

Person_one

Gemma_ wrote: »

How do you mean?

Work are always asking for me to go up and help in other offices for a few weeks, or more like a career break?

When does your leave year start? If its April to April you could possibly ask to take it all in one go and spend 5 weeks up there to see if you want to kill each other after that long together!

It might not be possible at your workplace, but people do it quite frequently at mine for wedding + honeymoon, or to travel.

If they have a Manchester office and you could work out a way to spend some time working there as a trial then that would be even better.

Gemma__3

Well its in Salford but I've been told its practically the same town.

Theyve said I can go and help out in the Manchester office as its a fairly new office, As for my holidays I can take it all in one go. It runs like you say April-April.

I have options available to see if it works with him

Person_one

Gemma_ wrote: »

Well its in Salford but I've been told its practically the same town.

Theyve said I can go and help out in the Manchester office as its a fairly new office, As for my holidays I can take it all in one go. It runs like you say April-April.

I have options available to see if it works with him

I think a trial run would be a really really good idea before committing to anything more permanent.

Salford and Manchester are right next to each other, the border is a river. I live in Salford but I could spit into Manchester, not that I ever do.

shebangs

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shebangs

Person_one wrote: »

I live in Salford but I could spit into Manchester, not that I ever do.

I often do;)

lostinrates

My husband and I spent about 18 months living in different countries. And now we still live some distance apart and he weekly commutes.

Before this we were very much 'every second together' people, having lived full time together, worked together and he cared for me during a long period of reliant ill health.

Ldrs can be tough, but with the right partner they are definitely worth it. I still get butterflies in my stomach when dh comes home at the end of a week, and we love Skype and emails and have an excellent phone package.

For us there is no likely hood of full time together until retirement...many years away still, but we MAKE it work. There are reasons we chose this and while we miss living together full time completely, we found this was the nearest to having 'everything we wanted' our relationship not withstanding.

Jinx

They can work but agree with others that an end has to be in sight. My hubby and I met online and moved in together after 18 months - we were both exhausted travelling up and down nearly 400 miles each weekend and we had sensible plans to move in together a year later when my daughter finished school but brought it forward to have a life! Sharing weekends and holidays give you a good idea but basically any relationship and moving in together is a leap of faith. Good luck!