Fed up of Mother's Day already!

margaretclare

It's not Mother's Day. In England it's called Mothering Sunday. There is a tradition behind it.

Yes, Mother's Day is being promoted because of commercialism.

There have been many 'special days' in the year which our ancestors would have known about, which have now sunk without trace because they have no potential for money-making.

It's still possible - just - to get a card which gives the day its correct name. My stepdaughter told me a year ago that it was becoming increasingly difficult to find one. I told her not to worry - I'll take the thought for the deed.

We're going to the Mothering Sunday service at church and then to a local pub which is advertising a 'Mothering Sunday lunch'. I don't go anywhere that says 'Mother's Day'.

System

The history of Mothers Day (or Mothering Sunday) is interesting. Here in the UK we celebrate Mothers Day in the middle of Lent while other countries such as Europe, the U.S. and Australia celebrate it in May. For us it was based on a church tradition of people returning to the mother church on the 4th Sunday in Lent.

Like Christmas, it has become very commercialised. I often feel a bit guilty about just getting mum a card and chocolates each year when my better-earning siblings will probably be treating her in much more lavish ways.

peachyprice

counting_down_the_days... wrote: »

I don't know why we need specific days to show the people we love, that we care. Tomorrow might never come, make sure your loved ones know how much you love them everyday, not just when hallmark want to sell some extra cards.

Mothering Sunday is a Christian holiday dating back to the 16th Century, nothing to do with Hallmark cards.

marisco_2

counting_down_the_days... wrote: »

Ye, I meant to add about single mums too. If you have wee ones, you aren't going to get a lie in, and who is buying you the cards and gifts? And I don't know how single mums manage full stop, it's bl00dy hard going x

I am a lone parent. My eldest is of the age where he wants to make a fuss of me for xmas, birthday, mothers day etc. This is rubbing off on my youngest too who is just seven.

My dad and stepmum had arranged to come over yesterday for the day. They took my little boys out 'to the park' (aka popping down the shops to buy mummy a surprise gift and card). Then they took us all out for lunch.

Their thoughtfulness, their time and the fact they want to instill such kindness and generosity into my children means so much. It made a difference to two little boys who wanted to make a fuss of their mum. They have also made a huge difference to my weekend, more than they will ever know.

My morning lie in till gone nine today was fabulous too

Tenyearstogo

margaretclare wrote: »

It's not Mother's Day. In England it's called Mothering Sunday. There is a tradition behind it.

Yes, Mother's Day is being promoted because of commercialism.

There have been many 'special days' in the year which our ancestors would have known about, which have now sunk without trace because they have no potential for money-making.

It's still possible - just - to get a card which gives the day its correct name. My stepdaughter told me a year ago that it was becoming increasingly difficult to find one. I told her not to worry - I'll take the thought for the deed.

We're going to the Mothering Sunday service at church and then to a local pub which is advertising a 'Mothering Sunday lunch'. I don't go anywhere that says 'Mother's Day'.

Surely, it's the sentiment not the name that's important? I'm 39 and it's always been equally referred to as both in my memory.

peachyprice

margaretclare wrote: »

It's still possible - just - to get a card which gives the day its correct name. My stepdaughter told me a year ago that it was becoming increasingly difficult to find one. I told her not to worry - I'll take the thought for the deed.

We're going to the Mothering Sunday service at church and then to a local pub which is advertising a 'Mothering Sunday lunch'. I don't go anywhere that says 'Mother's Day'.

I got one in Sainsbury's no prob, they had quite a lot.

Very proud of my daughter today, her guide pack are giving the whole Mothering Sunday service for their faith badge, I shall be there, watching her with a tear in my eye.

I'm an atheist through and through, but still find it very sad that commercialism is taking over religous holidays, Easter is going the same way too, there didn't used to be an abundance of Easter decorations and paraphernalia when we were young, where did all that come from?

Tigsteroonie

margaretclare wrote: »

It's still possible - just - to get a card which gives the day its correct name. My stepdaughter told me a year ago that it was becoming increasingly difficult to find one. I told her not to worry - I'll take the thought for the deed.

I would agree that it's getting harder every year. I bought what I thought was the only Mothering Sunday card in Tesco for my Mum; she independently bought exactly the same card for her Mum Fortunately Andrew (with Marley's help, no doubt) found a different Mothering Sunday card to give me ...

marisco_2

Marleyboy, why do you think single mums may forget their own mums on mothers day? Surely someones relationship with their own mother has nothing to do with whether they are a single parent.

merlot123

No one has to have all this rubbish forced upon them if they so wish to ignore it, I'm a mother and I don't need a card or anything for that matter on a particular day to let me know my children appreciate me.

The same with valentines day etc, I would not want a card on 14th February, I know my husband loves me, he tells me almost everyday.

I don't do Facebook either - I want to live my life, not read about other people's lives.

merlot123

loobylou2

I ended up giving my 2 daughters aged 13 and 7 the contents of my purse yesterday so they could go to town and get me something despite my repeatedly saying that I didn't want anything but that it would be nice to have Some peace and quiet and good behaviour from them for a change. Their father took them into town and they came back saying that they'd lost him and couldn't find the car parked anywhere!!! I ended up putting my coat on and going into town to find him ( Sighs!!!!) I then got a call on my mobile saying that he'd turned up but could I please buy some vegetables, a curtain pole and some buttons ( Don't ask!!) before I came home!!! This morning I got presented with a plant, a bath bomb a new nightie and some bedsocks and a request to provide DD1 with some more money so she could go out for lunch with her friend and friends mother and grandmother!!!!! DS aged 15 has not got up yet but I already know that he won't have got me anything because occasions like mothering sunday just don't feature in his life!!! Am going to phone my own mother shortly to see if the flowers I ordered for her on wednesday have actually arrived as although the money has been taken from my bank account Flying Flowers have not sent me a confirmation E mail saying that they have despatched the flowers!!!!! I hate Mothers Day, could someone remind me what its really supposed to be about please because not only is it costing me a small fortune, its also driving me nuts and I'm supposed to be the mother here ( sighs!!!)