Fed up of Mother's Day already!

duchy

Surely Mother's Day is like any other "special" day. You can indulge in it or ignore it as you choose.

Today I'm remembering my Mum - but my son and my boyfriend have made sure I've had a lovely morning....coffee in bed, cooked breakfast , flowers and a present. I've spent most of my son's childhood as a single Mum and honestly not once did I resent not having someone to help/prompt my son on Mothering Sunday. It is what it is........I'd rather count my blessings than moan over "I wish it was different" but I've throughly enjoyed this morning's pampering-Just a pity I have to go to work in an hour.......but will enjoy the dinner they are cooking me for this evening when I finish.

Lifeforms

As a daughter who doesn't have kids an therefore doesn't get anything, for me it's just making sure my mum feels like she achieved something with her kids. My brother is hit and miss, and she hasn't had a card from him, even though I reminded him as always. Maybe come on monday. But he has a family, so I'd hope he'd celebrate his wife for being a mother at least.

Wont see her today, but she got a card when I saw her yesterday, and hopefully flowers will arrive for her today unexpectedly. Dad doesn't really do valentines day, and she always says to me flowers would've been an ultimate surprise from Dad, but that never happens, so now she can get some today instead.

Her mother wasn't nice to her as a child, and as I'm all grown up now I know a lot of what happened to her as a kid from her mother, and one thing she always said to me was she didn't want to become her own mother. Her mother is now dead, but as a daughter it's my duty and beyond that, I love to get her little things for mothers day just to show she didn't become her mother, and she's loved as a mother, which she could never say about hers.

So whilst she does always say you don't need to do anything, or get anything, I always will do. Same with my dad, who usually shares his birthday the same day, or weekend of father's day. He always says don't worry about that day, he knows it's close, but even if I'm broke (and have been a few times) I want to celebrate his day too as a father. I've resorted to sending him a fathers day card with a tea bag stuck in it, saying have a drink on me. He loved that one!

Sometimes it's not down to just having to because of what the UK, or calender, or even supermarkets say. Sometimes it is down to a genuine love of the parent (mum, or dad) in question.

marleyboy

marisco wrote: »

Marleyboy, why do you think single mums may forget their own mums on mothers day? Surely someones relationship with their own mother has nothing to do with whether they are a single parent.

The sentiment was in reply to another poster who was unimpressed with the connection between single mums and Mothering Sunday. Not to forget even Mums can have Mums .

pukkamum

Maureen43 wrote: »

I have two children but, as a single mum, I find Mothers Day bitter sweet in the same way as I did Valentines Day.

My kids have done their best. I was given tea and concrete-like porridge just after seven this morning!

Ha ha ha I too was given concrete porridge in bed, I also got up to home made cards very lovley til the 2 yr old ripped one up in a tantrum, I was then given chocolates also lovely til the elder 2 started argung over who was actually going to hand them to me. Am now hiding in the kitchen listening to the 2 yr old having a tantrum oh joy! Think I may go back to bed!

codemonkey

I'm struggling to conceive and finding today quite tough. All these things about how mums are the best thing ever only server to remind me that I might never be one. And whilst I've got a card and gift for my mum and I appreciate her so much, I do tell her I love her everytime we speak and this day is just painful for me.

ruby-roo_2

marleyboy wrote: »

Not to forget even Mums can have Mums .

We are all adults on here. No one would forget they have a mum. Even those that dont have a good relationship with their mum and choose not to make a fuss of her on mothers day or any other day.

To think otherwise shows you have an incredible level of arrogance.

OrkneyStar

My son got me a lovely card which the shop assistant helped him choose, hubby brought me (more) brekkie in bed as I had already eaten some, lots of cuddles with DS and some nice chat time with DH. Cannot ask for more. Oh yeah and mum sent a card meant to be from DS too. Don't worry about what others are doing/not doing, it is just another day really. But nice to be appreciated.
Also if you are feeling sorry for yourself, sit down and write a list of what you DO have, instead of thinking about what you haven't!

thehappybutterfly

I got thick underdone pancakes and hm butter syrup and a coffee on a lovely tray in bed! Best of all, my son got me a bottle of rose wine! I'll need to cook the tea and probably need to do the dishes as well. Jeezo - pancakes and syrup - how can that simple dish produce so much washing up? Happy Mothers' Day everyone!

Make-it-3

Well I'm having a lovely day and that's not because I'm surrounded by gifts (photographing and posting them on facebook is v.sad).

OH has done all nappy changes this weekend, had lots of nice cuddles and breakfast in bed this morning with DD. And I am still lying here post-midday. I've now just been bought a sneaky glass of fizz while DD has her lunchtime nap.

And my card is unique, made by DD at craft class in the week and I will treasure forever.

Ladyhawk

ttp://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2013/mar/08/mothers-day-heartache-for-me

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