The nutter is driving us out of our flat, but will he stop us selling it?

moreofthegoodstuff

claire16c wrote: »

How thin are your walls that you can hear someone yawning? lol

One Direction? :rotfl:I feel bad for you, glad youre moving!

I don't think they are that thin I just think he is doing it on purpose, you know those super loud yawns where they take in a huge breath and do it ridiculously loud. It was funny the other day because he did one and I did one back in reply and my husband heard and did one while in the shower hehe...I found it better to have a laugh about it and make him realise that we know he is doing it on purpose than get angry!

If it's not One Direction it's Steps or some other equally sad not right song for a forty year old man to listen to!

Sooki

moreofthegoodstuff wrote: »

I don't think they are that thin I just think he is doing it on purpose, you know those super loud yawns where they take in a huge breath and do it ridiculously loud. It was funny the other day because he did one and I did one back in reply and my husband heard and did one while in the shower hehe...I found it better to have a laugh about it and make him realise that we know he is doing it on purpose than get angry!

If it's not One Direction it's Steps or some other equally sad not right song for a forty year old man to listen to!

there is a bloke at work who does the exact same, he seems to get some kind of sad kick getting on people's nerves, He also brings in the smelliest food you can think of! including out of date tinned fish! The more he gets on someone's nerves the more he does it. If he's sharing an office with someone who's always moaning they are cold he will open the windows and turn the aircon on full blast, and vice versa. If it's him your living next to I feel for you!

adonis

Mickygg wrote: »

I have had nighmare neighbours before. I have now moved twice because of it.Someone banging on your ceiling at all hours is hardly going to be a mature person to have a conversation with.
I would just move. My relationship broke down due to the stress and strain of this. Don't risk your marriage, move.

But you then have all the expense of moving and there is the chance the new neighbours are as bad.

I have put up with hassle from nightmare neighbours in the past as I am a quiet person, but what they don't realise is I am building up to This.

Davesnave

I think you have to take this forward as antisocial behaviour and really press your local authority's EHO to give advice and back-up. Keep records, make recordings and don't be fobbed off.
Sometimes you have to become a bit of a nuisance yourself to get things done, but this is a health issue and you deserve to have it resolved.

You and your partner have each other, and together you are stronger than this cowardly lone individual. Don't let him drive you apart.

See advice from Shelter. Apologies if it's already been given on the earlier thread.

http://england.shelter.org.uk/get_advice/neighbourhood_issues/antisocial_behaviour/stopping_antisocial_behaviour

pimento

McKneff wrote: »

Have you actually spoken to him and asked him why he is doing it.

But, may I ask, do you have wooden flooring. Being under someone with wooden flooring is the most irritating thing in the world.

Even if the OP does have wooden floors, they aren't making a noise on them while they're in bed asleep at 3am.

McKneff

pimento wrote: »

Even if the OP does have wooden floors, they aren't making a noise on them while they're in bed asleep at 3am.

Well that's pretty obvious, but they are maybe irritating him at some time during the day and he is going to 'get them back' when it's most going to irritate them.

And if that is the case, then its working.

Dukesy

Slightly different, but when my parents bought their house it had been derelict for some time, and their nearest neighbour had come to the conclusion he was only a few months away from gaining squatters rights over their land, which he had been keeping his sheep on.

Cue years and years of difficulty - he would pile up barrels which stated they were toxic etc in their driveway, shoot into the adjoining hedge with a shotgun, set a stereo up in his garden and go out for the day, start up bonfires of tyres and carpets and so on. Then he decided to attack my dad's car with a rake. He got away scot free and obviously decided he was invincible. So he then decided it would be a truly excellent idea to completely destroy my dad's car with a tractor. My mum, bless her, finally tipped over the edge with this and my dad had to actively restrain her as she went marching up the lane with a sledgehammer apparently planning to go and smash everything in sight.

Eventually the authorities, who had been notified of all this as it was happening got involved and it did stop - for the last 20 years or so said neighbour has just pretended we don't exist. It is never helpful to have a dispute with a neighbour made official, but for the sake of your sanity, I think you should. If he continues to do this apparently just for the sake of it, what's to say he won't be doing it during viewings and so on? He could make the place impossible to sell and that will have an even worse effect on you and your OH.

shop-to-drop

Is the nuisance neighbour an owner occupier too?

aileth

moreofthegoodstuff wrote: »

The following time it was a normal hour so we were able to knock on his door but he didn't answer- music stopped.

Ugh this happened with our bad neighbours all the time!! They did their very best to try and p*ss you off on purpose with their music, but were far too cowardly to actually take the repercussions of their actions!

Thankfully this passive-aggressiveness did them no good when we called the noise team one night and the Policeman accompanying the Council man had to resort to throwing rocks at their windows then bashing on it with his baton. Policeman was not too happy when they finally answered the door! It was beautiful and we barely hear a peep since.

dodger1

Reading your other thread I see this has been going on for two years, I would have done what your husband wants to do after two weeks if the neighbour refused to talk it over.