Putting baby to sleep on tummy

scubaleopard

Sorry wrong key*adults* and 28,26 and 20

buxtonrabbitgreen

congratulations Beccles
When I had my eldest 2 Ds the accepted wisdom was to lie them on their fronts for fear of choking, so that is what I did. And the second one was sick a lot so it seemed like a good idea at the time. However if I was in the position of having a baby nowadays I think I would follow the guidlines, as they do seem to be based on good information.

comping_cat

Forgot to say earlier - i also slept with both my children when they were babies, used to be so much easier to feed them and go back to sleep, rather than get back up to put them back to bed (even though the moses basket was right next to the bed, and then the cot once they were bigger) and struggle to get them to go back to sleep.
I was/still am a light sleeper so i didnt worry about rolling on them or not hearing them and felt that they were safe with me.

As with most things, you should follow the advice if you can, but if you cant, there are always ways around it and other things you can do (as so many on here have said, with different moniters etc).

bonvonnie

Hiya, my eldest now 4years would only sleep on his tummy.
i hated the HV's coming around and telling me that he shouldnt be sleeping on his front. every time i put him on his back, he would wake. so i just kept an eye on him, and at nights, i'd automatically wake to see if i can hear him breathe, even tho he was in the same room. as i've said hes over 4years old now, and he still sleeps on his front so so cute

bumpybecky

congratulations on your new arrival Becles I hope you're feeling much better very soon

TokochickUK

Guidelines really are there for a reason, to help us make the right informed choices.

reasearch and info is so much more on the ball and up to date that it really does help so much.

Having come from a family that has experienced a number of infant deaths (all SIDS) I really wouldnt take any chances. If you come from a family where it has happened you can request info on the CONI+ scheme ( care of next infant the plus stands for family not parent) you can request extra visits from HV, a set of weighing scales for your own peace of mind (as it has been found that a babys weight can dip just before and illness or an episode happens) also an apnear monitor ( but you have a sticky sensor pad you tape to baby like in hospitals) so you can have it on him/her in moses basket, cot, where ever baby sleeps also a range of charts and a larger scale weight progress chart. We had two episodes with ds2 on one occasion he had been breathing so lightly it had not picked up movement, when i went in he was limp but the shock of me calling him and picking him up quite firmly caused him to pink up quite quickly and he soon looked much better. But heaven knows...


My point is, do what you can to help your selves and i understand some babys do their own thing ( i have two little ones myself) but guidelines really are there to help us for a reason x

good luck , I understand reflux is normally worst in the first 3 months xx but others have pointed out some great ways to help x

wifeforlife

carolwat wrote: »

Again I state I did not say anything at all about Elle83s post. I have already pointed this out and so far she hasnt come back to me to show me what ive said about her as theres nothing to show. As for you I think you need to re-read this thread too. You come on here having a go at Becles who has just been through so much these last few weeks, who is now at home with a baby who she had no idea how things would turn out for, who is absolutely shattered from trying to care for her baby the best she can and you tell her she is OTT. I am disgusted that someone could come on here and say sothing like that. I hope you never find yourself in her position. If you do though I know that Becles being the nice person she is would offer support and not use comments like you have. As for your comments to me, water of a ducks back, if you stick with having a go at me then at leats you wont be upsetting other people with your pointless posts. Why is it that people, not just Becles post on here for advice and other just cant help themselves but to have a go. get a life.

Carol

Where did I have a go at her?

Also how do you know what I have and havent been through in my life? I just choose to deal with my life my way, and not make it public knowledge so dont judge me. I offered very nice support and opinion to the original poster and was in no way criticising, having a go, or being mean to her, as I did say in an earlier post. I also APOLOGISED to Becles in a post if she mis interpreted my opinion about someone else's post as a criticism of her or her well being at the moment.

I will not continue to defend myself to you as I havent done anything wrong as several posters have also backed me up on in pm, I'm again sorry to Becles for how your thread has turned out and again you have my personal email if you require any private support as I will not respond again to this particular thread

Best wishes to original poster

Cate

Eels100

Elle83 wrote: »

I've heard of many children dying from suffocation but not once of a Mother dying from sleep deprivation. And again, I offered a perfectly good solution to the problem so I'm sorry you felt the need to attack me out of context.

I wasn't attacking you.

This thread isn't a competition about who sticks to the guidelines better, or who had the worst pregnancy. The fact is, a lady who's had a really tough time in the last few months asked for some views and suggestions and was given them. Unsurprisingly some of these views were contradictory (don't we just love free speech?! ) and sadly some people have taken up arms against those who do things differently.

My mum tells stories of waking up in the morning and having to fish my littlest sibling out from under the sheet at the bottom of the bed where she'd migrated to in the night - some would say she was lucky to survive, I guess for my mum, with 3 kids under 4 years of age, breastfeeding and a full time job, it's HER who was lucky to survive!

All anyone can do is their best with their resources and abilities, and it is not for those who aren't in their shoes to criticise.

Bun

The problem seems to be that we try to do our best with the guidelines but the babies often don't want to know, and you aren't told how to deal with that. Certainly I was completely thrown.
Hope you have a better night Becles.

Elle00

Nooo the problem is a bunch of Mothers getting together on a website! Look, arguments happen, opinions differ and we should all try to express those without attacking one another (myself included I appreciate). I stand by my original post because there was nothing wrong with it though I appreciate the arguing that followed did get OTT. I have a very busy time of things over the course of the next two weeks and I'm quite sure everyone here has things that warrant their energy better than arguing with strangers on a website! So let's agree to disagree, accept that we all feel strongly about different issues due to our personal life experiences and leave it at that now that Becles has received a wide variety of responses and is able to make her decisions.

Good luck with getting some rest Becles, I hope you find a way to get baby to sleep through very soon and that Cathy has forwarded you my bit on what worked for me in case it helps. We are all just arguing between ourselves because we're women and it's what we do sometimes - no-one wishes you ill feelings I'm quite sure.