Putting baby to sleep on tummy

jozshi

Aw Becles, I feel terrible for you now (and feel even more guilty for letting my little man sleep on his tummy myself, after some of the responses you've had). I think some people have misinterpreted the need for sleep as being purely for mum, when in fact baby needs sleep too. Our little boy was getting so distraught and I'm SURE that some of that was over-tiredness. Now that he's sleeping better, he's a much happier baby during his waking time too. And I'm able to do a much better job of looking after him after 3 hours sleep.
Incidentally, for those mums-to-be reading, had you asked me 7 weeks ago, there's no way I would have thought I'd be putting my baby on his tummy.
Thinking of you Becles - it's impossible to please everybody xx

Carmina_Piranha_3

i wish i lived closer, i'd offer to hold her for a bit while you slept.

is it warmth she wants, or just movement? a swing might help, or one of those automatic rockers http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/NEW-Boxed-Baby-Dream-Machine-Baby-Rocker_W0QQitemZ150117855122QQihZ005QQcategoryZ121634QQrdZ1QQssPageNameZWD1VQQcmdZViewItem

skylight

Becles, you have better things to worry about than peoples opinions on here.

You do what you feel is best. Things are hard enough with a small baby as it is.

And for the record (and possible slatting) I/we co-sleep with Ruby. When she needs feeding I sleep on my side with her next to me on the edge side of the bed, tucked in. It works for us - I sleep, so does she. Despite the complaints from my mother and Nan. Only exception is if I have had a glass of wine (another slatting??) or I am too tired.


And obviously, her name is beautiful and the best that could have been chosen!

black-saturn

Congratulations Becles. I wasn't aware the little one was here already!!

Oh and thanks for the contraception thread

I used to put my DD2 to sleep on her back and whenever I went to check on her she had rolled onto her front. In fact she slept in every position there was except on her back and a few times she was even asleep sitting up with her head stuck up the corner of the cot. I would continue to persevere with getting her to sleep on her back. Have you tried the usual things like a lullaby CD or one of those soothing sounds CDs? Or what about a dummy? I know some people disagree with them but if it gets you some sleep it might be a godsend. Afterall you won't be able to function if you don't get sleep. Don't let her sleep in your arms too much as she will get used to it and will end up only being able to sleep with you holding her.

At the end of the day though I'm afraid she is a normal baby and the crying will pass soon. Thanks for the thread that put the decider on it again for me lol.

wifeforlife

Becles wrote: »

Please can everyone leave me alone now, unless they have constructive things to say. Things are difficult enough at home, without people criticising me on here too

I wasnt criticising as my pm to you clearly shown, sorry if you feel like it was a dig at you and anybody else, it wasnt it was simply my observation and opinion

Goodluck

Cate

black-saturn

cathy2702 wrote: »

I wasnt criticising as my pm to you clearly shown, sorry if you feel like it was a dig at you and anybody else, it wasnt it was simply my observation and opinion

Don't worry, I think she's taken it the wrong way because of baby blues not because of anything you've said.

carolwat

cathy2702 wrote: »

I dont think Elle83 was being sanctimonious, she offered an opinion just like everyone else, IMHO it was a fairly nice post just reiterating what others before her said and your post is a tad ott considering.

Also Carolwat I dont think your justified in berating Elle83, she hasnt said anything at all which is rubish or criticising the original poster, she just offered an opinion as did everyone else, which in fact the op asked for, she simply stated to do as she felt was best for her and her baby.

Cate

Again I state I did not say anything at all about Elle83s post. I have already pointed this out and so far she hasnt come back to me to show me what ive said about her as theres nothing to show. As for you I think you need to re-read this thread too. You come on here having a go at Becles who has just been through so much these last few weeks, who is now at home with a baby who she had no idea how things would turn out for, who is absolutely shattered from trying to care for her baby the best she can and you tell her she is OTT. I am disgusted that someone could come on here and say sothing like that. I hope you never find yourself in her position. If you do though I know that Becles being the nice person she is would offer support and not use comments like you have. As for your comments to me, water of a ducks back, if you stick with having a go at me then at leats you wont be upsetting other people with your pointless posts. Why is it that people, not just Becles post on here for advice and other just cant help themselves but to have a go. get a life.

Carol

carolwat

jozshi wrote: »

Aw Becles, I feel terrible for you now (and feel even more guilty for letting my little man sleep on his tummy myself, after some of the responses you've had). I think some people have misinterpreted the need for sleep as being purely for mum, when in fact baby needs sleep too. Our little boy was getting so distraught and I'm SURE that some of that was over-tiredness. Now that he's sleeping better, he's a much happier baby during his waking time too. And I'm able to do a much better job of looking after him after 3 hours sleep.
Incidentally, for those mums-to-be reading, had you asked me 7 weeks ago, there's no way I would have thought I'd be putting my baby on his tummy.
Thinking of you Becles - it's impossible to please everybody xx

Well said. Never say never. Unless you have been in that situation then you have no idea. You did what you needed to do for yourself and your baby, dont feel guilty. I dont and I never will. The hospital were aware of what I was doing with my son and they supported me off the record.

CSandL

Hi Becles,

Congratulations on your new little one.

I just wanted to second what the others have said, we had grobags and movement monitors for all ours. The other thing was, when DS came home from hospital, he would not sleep at all unless I held him - he was in for a week because of bad jaundice and had to have phototherapy. The HV told us to try a radio on all night (that didn't work thank goodness, I Certainly got no sleep!) and in desperation to have a night light on. DS is now 6 and still sleeps with a night light, in fact he puts the main light on in his bedroom now if we don't catch him. I always wondered if it was because he spent the first week of his life with lights on and noise, and so he needed that to help him sleep. Anyway, it worked.

Hope you find a solution soon, it is tough when you have more than one, isn't it.

Kerry xx

scubaleopard

Hi I hope things settle really quickly. It is all so tiring but I promise you this is only a stage and soon you will be able to sleep a little more. In the meantime take great care of yourself as well as the little one. Babies are incredibly sturdy and are programmed to become terrible twos, terrible teenagers and then amzing adulte-- Mine are 27, 36 and 20 but I still remeber the sleep deprivation and then suddenly as you are feeding your little one in the middle of the night thinking it is never going to end you look down and they are smiling at you. I never forget it.