Gift Appreciation

Marshflower

anniemf2508 wrote: »

I said oldest but i guess that could be called as "best friend" too....she was witness at my wedding, i was witness at hers. Her parents are like my second parents.
I know i'm not faultless in communicating with her and i know after having a baby can be extremely testing (i had Pnd after my second) but this does feel like a real personal insult. And yes i know i may well be reading too much into it, but when you make an effort to do something nice and it seems like its just been thrown back in my face its hard not to take it personally.

I think what I'm trying to say is just try and reserve judgement and save your hurt until you've explored the situation a little more. Think logically - if she too sees you as an oldest and maybe best friend why on earth would she snub you and want to cause you bad feeling? It doesn't make sense. You do not know she has thrown this back in your face, you have no idea what's going on. Find out what is happening and then if she has indeed deliberately snubbed you then I absolutely agree you should be very hurt and cross and say something to her. Until then, try and have a little more faith in your friendship. I know I sound like a broken record but I'm saying this to try and save you from all this negative emotion as much as anything else. If you do find out there are other forces at play here you may well feel very guilty for being upset with her and sometimes it can actually be hard to let go of negative emotion even when you find out it was unjustified.
I'm just saying to take a deep breath, hold fire until you managed get hold of her and try and remain a bit more optimistic if you can.

Brighton_belle

anniemf2508 wrote: »

I said oldest but i guess that could be called as "best friend" too....she was witness at my wedding, i was witness at hers. Her parents are like my second parents.
I know i'm not faultless in communicating with her and i know after having a baby can be extremely testing (i had Pnd after my second) but this does feel like a real personal insult. And yes i know i may well be reading too much into it, but when you make an effort to do something nice and it seems like its just been thrown back in my face its hard not to take it personally.

Ok, so you do consider yourselves best friends. You are very hurt at her seemingly ignoring your gift when she has found the time to thank/acknowledge others. In fact it feels bad enough for you for feel it as a deliberate personal insult.
Why do you think she would do that? Genuine question.
Is there a chance she feels exhausted and low and is slightly unconsciously avoiding you because you're in a low place and she hasn't the energy to deal with that at the moment and that makes her feel guilty so the whole thing becomes really big?

Joons

That's a pretty generous gift you sent her, it wasn't just a card, it was a basket full of goodies and I reckon by that standard you deserved a thank you, at least on FB, you're quite right to feel aggrieved by it. I hope she soon realises what a generous friend she has in you.